made the mistake of opening the comments on an ig reel of this black girl athlete doing a grwm, and her hair wasn't like. super straight and polished-looking and even 'messy.' other bw in the comments were giving helpful suggestions but others were saying things like 'ohhh i bet ur mom is white huh 😒' and other comments like that. i do understand where both types of commenters r coming from, but i do feel like there is a pressure both within and outside the black community to always have '''''presentable'''''' looks, especially our hair. and i often wonder if that mindset is holding us black women back to a certain extent. in the sense that we are not immune to the patriarchical trappings of beauty culture, and so we see another woman who isn't '''''presentable'''''' as Not Like Us™ and therefore inherently suspect or less-than somehow . obviously im not saying we should look Snatched all the time OR that we should Not Care about how we look ever. it's just like.....sometimes the clothes and hairstyle or lack thereof that you like to wear, choose to wear on a given day, aren't always the '''''presentable'''''' ones . not everyone wants to have laid edges or threaded brows or an expensive lacefront all the time, or even some of the time . i certainly don't lol. black womyn deserve to exist in our natural states too . it's not always That Serious .