#galactic gab

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Sometimes you choose floor time. And sometimes floor time chooses you

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A lot of people on this website really need to learn that their advice is not always welcome.

If someone hasn't asked for advice, offering it can often be insulting. When you send unasked for advice, it often comes with the insinuation that the other person hasn't already thought of/tried what you're suggesting.

I often see this being directed at chronically ill/disabled/mentally ill people with the underlying theme of assuming we're still sick because we just haven't tried X. But it just kind of seems to be a general problem online as well.

Often, people just need to vent about a problem. Offering unasked for solutions to someone who just needs to vent is frustrating at best. And far too often, if the person the advice is being forced on doesn't respond with perfect grace and kindness, there will be a flurry of people rushing to defend the advice giver's intentions.

But when it comes down to it, you may have good intentions but that doesn't negate the effects of your actions.

If you think you have some advice to share, just try asking if the person is looking for advice. If they are, great! Share your advice! But if they don't want advice, you need to respect that, even if you think your advice would be beneficial.

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✨Fun and quirky New Years Resolution: wearing a mask in public to protect yourself and everyone around you✨

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I saw a post the other day from someone who was distressed that a parent had found their system tiktok and I can't stop thinking about it

If you are scared about someone, particularly an abuser, finding an account, don't share identifying information, especially not videos of yourself.

I grew up in the early days of the internet and online safety PSAs which were often laughable but deeply ingrained the idea that the internet can be dangerous so never give out identifying information.

And while I think some of those ideas are rather extreme, it's really jarring to see how much things have swung in the opposite direction.

If you are posting things you don't want people in your life to see, don't post things on an open platform with identifying information such as your face, your name, or where you live.

This is especially important if you're concerned about abusers finding what you post.

I know the internet has changed drastically and it's a lot more common for people to post identifying info, but if you're still in a position where people in your life seeing what you post could be dangerous, please be careful. Find places or ways to post that are separate from your IRL identity. Keep yourself safe.

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You know it's a packed therapy session when it's like "so [significant and atypical trauma that's never come up before] probably is affecting how I'm reacting to this" and your therapist is just like:

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It has seemed that over the past several years, the pushback against trauma olympics has morphed into this idea that all trauma should be treated as equal and that any differentiation is inherently ableist.

And while I agree that competing over who has it worst is an exercise in futility that is often damaging, I think the inability to have conversations with nuance regarding different traumas has been really damaging to community discussions.

Like, yes, what is traumatic to one person may not be traumatic to another and what a child's brain counts as trauma might not make sense to an adult. If you're traumatized by something, then it was traumatic for you. It doesn't matter if other people think it shouldn't have been traumatizing, your trauma is real.

But I think it is damaging that community discussions have become so warped that stating that some traumas are more severe than others is met with hostility. There are, in fact, degrees of severity when it comes to trauma.

Hell, I'm very carefully picking my words in this and not really specifying any specifics because I don't want to deal with the hostility that would likely ensue.

Acknowledging that some experiences are more inherently traumatic than others does not invalidate your pain and struggles. Each person's response to trauma is shaped by a vast array of factors including the support a person has after the trauma. It's not bad or wrong to be more affected by a specific trauma than someone else who went through something similar because we all are shaped by our own unique circumstances.

However, that doesn't make it ok to flatten the way we talk about trauma by never acknowledging that some events are more inherently traumatic than others.

This shift in the community has made it really difficult for people who have gone through very severe trauma to talk about their experiences without being attacked for ~invalidating~ other people's trauma just by talking about their own experiences.

I'm leaving reblogs on and I'm to discussion on this, but anyone coming in with hostility will be blocked.

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Waiting with husband at urgent care. Nerve pain in his hip and leg has kept him from sleeping and he's really struggling. I'm really really hoping they do something to help him