#gaylfe

[dancindr]

What we think we become ~ Buddha Working on it. #inspiredlife #tattoo #gaylfe #flashback #dancingthrulife #beachlife #davidandjp #grateful #om (at Saint Thomas, US Virgin Islands)

[edlumn96]

Para como veo las cosas seguro tendré novio hasta los 30.

Hola soy yo otra vez, The Lonely Gay, estando solo como siempre, jaja. Saben ya me canse de estar solo de no tener a nadie, de ver como mis amigas viven su historia de amor o desamor y yo ni una ni otra. Todas las noches me duermo preguntándome ¿cuándo llegará esa persona especial? esa persona que me quiera tal como soy y que a mi me guste tal como es, pero saben a veces siento que ese momento o esa persona nunca va llegar ni llegará, todos los días me miro al espejo y me digo no estoy tan feo o ¿sí? no lo sé, mis amigas me dicen que no que estoy guapo, pero si lo estuviera ya hubiera tenido novio o un algo, pero no, al parecer no soy suficiente para nadie, todo los días me preguntó ¿que me hace falta? ¿que no tengo?, ¿que necesito cambiar en mi? para que la persona que me guste se fije en mi, me voltee a ver aunque sea por un momento, ojalá pudiera encontrar todas esas respuestas en algún lugar, en fin he tratado de hacer de todo para cambiar tanto física como mentalmente, pero al parecer no ha sido suficiente, se que tengo que hacer ejercicio, que aun me falta un largo camino por recorrer para poder transformar mi cuerpo, porque creo que esa va a ser la única manera en que los chicos van a poder volverme a ver, y pues es muy triste que tengo que estar musculoso para poder tener a alguien, soy una persona delgada, pero eso no basta ni bastará, tonto prejuicios que han hecho basura a la sociedad y no hay nada que se puede hacer.

Una persona que quiera compartir conmigo la aventura de mi vida y yo lo pueda acompañar en la suya, es lo único que pido. 

[mattyear]

D.C. seems to have a lot of atriums #glass #steel #reflection #modern #washingtondc #gaylfe # (at Hyatt Regency Washington DC)

[supreme-deeoh-blog]

Coming out is one of the hardest things gays have to deal with, but when we dofinally build up the courage, it becomes a very empowering experience. Of course, I am only speaking from my own experiences and want to make it clear that not everyone will have the same ones, and am writing these posts to shed light on possible outcomes.

In the first part of this post posted a few months ago, I discussed my coming out to my mother and the love and support I received. To give a quick update, her and I are closer than we've ever been and I am eternally grateful for being able to get closer to my mother. A few weeks ago I brought her to her very first drag show, and she absolutely LOVED it. The show was in a bar/club in New York called "Industry" and the show featured four very talented drag queens: Holly Dae (pictured below), Brenda Dharling, Bob the Drag Queen, and Pixie Aventura. FYI if you're visiting or from New York, their show is on Thursdays at 12 at Industry, you'll definitely have a great time.

A few days after the show, I received a call from my dad and we started talking about relationships and the question came "when are you getting a girlfriend?" At that point I knew it was time to share the truth because I then would have been lying to my dad, which was something I have never done. I replied firmly with "I'm not getting a girlfriend" to which he jokingly asked "What so you're going to get a boyfriend?" He wasn’t getting it and so I shrugged and said "all things are possible." This whole conversation was happening via Skype, so I was able to view his facial expressions, which were a bit confused and he asked if I was kidding and I obviously told him I wasn’t. He looked very defeated, which wasn’t my intention, but it had to be done.  His main concern was that he won't get have any grandchildren since I'm an only child, and I had to repeatedly tell him that I do intend on having children that are genetically mine and I think he finally got it. In the end of the conversation he told me that he is not ashamed of me and that I will always be his number one love, and decided to share the news with his family.

 A day or so after I came out to my dad, he called me and told me he spoke to my uncle, aunt, and grandfather. Their responses helped give me faith in the power of love. My uncle simply replied "so?" when my dad told him. My aunt said she already knew even though I didn’t tell her, she probably caught on to my bitchy style of comedy. Finally, my grandfather had the best response, he told my dad that he was extremely happy to hear that and he's extremely happy I'm extremely happy and expressed how much he loves and misses me (because he lives in South Carolina). My grandfather's reaction was the most comforting but most surprising one because I was under the impression my grandfather wasn’t very fond of gays, but I guess it's different when it's someone close to your heart.

Now that I'm out to both my parents, nothing else matters. I don’t care if I get some family members from either side that don’t approve because I know I have my parents and additional family members at my side.

Be brave, my loves, coming out to your family will show courage and if you know your family well enough then you'll already know the outcome. Keep that in mind and remember to always love yourself. To quote RuPaul "If you can't love yourself, how the hell are you going to love someone else"