#gendered shit

[enbycrip]

ID: I get very bored by the “you must present this way to be read as nonbinary” prescriptivism. It’s never going to be me - too curvy, too “tending to look far better in femme clothing”, too disabled. It seems entirely at odds with the entire point of embracing nonbinary as a category, tbh, which always seemed to me about being outside the prescriptivist boxes, having fun with your gender, getting sick of it, embracing it, taking the parts that suit you at any given time and putting the rest in a stash or the bin.

An awful lot of people seem to be doing a lot to make it another box to fail to fit in and all about being fuckable and young, which is every kind of depressing.

[mollyringle]

It's the same with what they name the colors of garments.

Women's: amethyst, champagne, raspberry, seafoam

Men's: urban camo, desert camo, battleship, deathbringer

[bossymarmalade]

I’m enraged about girlbosses again today (just like every day) and I just. If you truly do like that dynamic, a woman who is adored by a man and she basically mocks him for it and even her bad traits are actually awesome, then cool! I hope you find all the girlboss/malewife dynamics that your heart desires.

But I despise that otherwise good fictional hetero relationships get painted with this same reductive brush. That the woman is admirable no matter what, and that even the man’s love for her makes him ridiculous. That he’s lucky to be with her, and she’s the only thing making him worthwhile. I saw this about Sheila and Joel Hammond the other day and nearly blew a gasket. 

y’all this is the opposite of feminism. This is like taking feminism out back and running it over with the car. There’s no good interpretation of it. Either:

a) she actually IS perfect, because god knows women can’t be flawed in the same ugly messy ways that men are and be good characters so in truth everything she does is in fact Right; b) he really IS garbage but she keeps him around for ... why? What?; or c) he truly is in love with her and wants her, and she finds this utterly laughable (but don’t stop with the compliments!) because we all know that women are insecure sucking voids who need to be desired but are so self-loathing that any man who loves them must be dumb as shit, awww, poor ickle sexy babygirl

I just do not understand what the appeal is in taking pairings like Leia/Han and acting as if Han should kiss the ground Leia walks on while she routinely devalues him. Why are you allergic to partners in a partnership? Why does celebrating the woman mean denigrating the man? What kind of weak-ass mean-spirited women are you people wanting to see in media?? EXPLAIN IT TO ME PLEASE

[trans-kafka]

In Sineád O'Connor's cover of "Nothing Compares 2 U" she gender swaps the original lyrics in 2 places: "I can put my arm around every *boy* I see" and "*Girl* you better try to have fun no matter what you do." Making the speaker of the song a heterosexual female. BUT she does not alter the line, "All the flowers that you planted, momma, in the back yard" thus implying that this heterosexual woman called her boyfriend "momma" and I think that's great.

[shiftythrifting]

someone pointed out the child looks like they're rescuing the fireman and I can't unsee it

[shiftythrifting]

when do we light the nativity?

[shiftythrifting]

Coffee-scented, slightly greasy candle

Kiss the grits/Talk Southern to me

The Light Crust Doughboys: 80th anniversary commemorative album

The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense, by Suzette Haden Elgin

TX