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@hibiki-latte being cute.

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@hibiki-latte at GFGR 2016.

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Since apparently I can’t sleep

I’m gonna write a post mostly for my own not-forgetting-ness- regarding the panel I went to today titled “Gender Identity and Sexuality in RPGs.”  Event description was as follows: “ A discussion of gender and sexuality in RPGs. Many game companies are challenging players to look beyond binary ideas of gender and sexuality to create unique characters. From Pathfinder’s recent Iconic Trans-character and Dungeons & Dragons 5th Edition discussion of gender, RPGs and the community involved with them are demonstrating that they are open to non-heteronormative play options.”

The panelists turned out to be pretty cool.  I was 100% on the side of the adorable bear who’d dressed as a leprechaun and worn a “Hello my name is Paddy O’Furniture” name tag.  Like I know that it’s not even the most creative pun but it made me go “HAH!” when I heard it and I loved it.  

Anyway, it started out basically with a lil blurb by each panelist talking about what queer characters they had played in video games and tabletop RPGs and then was just sort of rundown of different games that have been explicitly LGBTQ-inclusive, a little bit of stuff on how to deal with homophobic gaming groups (this mainly from the contrarian-type person who sensed their discomfort and then said “GUESS WHAT IMA PLAY A GAY GUY”), and then a bit about how to navigate things when you’re a GM and one of your players seems uncomfortable with a “queerer” (for lack of a better word) game world.

(There was a lot of throwing around of words that I have visceral negative reactions to thanks to my exposure to.. well, shitty people... but I figure a little discomfort is OK and honestly there was NO WAY I was going to try to “school” anyone when they clearly weren’t saying things in a context that was inappropriate, and additionally.. like.. I’m not going to be THAT PERSON who tells someone in the group they’re describing that they’re doing it “wrong” or “offensively.”  So obviously I didn’t say a damned thing, it just was one of those little things that made me uncomfy.)

I guess this has been a reminder that I may need to seek out more situations outside my comfort zone, so that the discomfort doesn’t sting quite as much.  I mean, I *THINK* that for the most part, I’m able to  just sit with my discomfort and analyze it later... but I’d like to get a bit more used to it re: social interactions with people who don’t have the same framing of things as I do.  

Does that make sense? IDK

ANYWAY it was a good panel and I enjoyed it and my fiance enjoyed it, too, and a game designer (I mean, small time, but still) asked how they could improve and we basically all were like “just put more of us in the games, of all types, who aren’t perfect.”  And I got to bring up a concept from this past week’s throwing shade, which is that you can MIX AND MATCH!  Like you don’t have to JUST have a black character and everything else be “normal” (for a given hetero-cis-normative “normal” obviously).  A character can be a bunch of things!  Annnnd I also reminded them that there shouldn’t be a straight/white/male/cis default.

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Work out overview

I've learned that -Doing more than 15 push ups is difficult . I lack that upper body strength🙅💪 -My cat likes to get affectionate while I'm working out 🐱😻 -I miss my bike tremendously and being on the open road🚲 -I'm going to be emotional every time I work out at home. 😢 All in all it was great! Just gotta stay focused and be consistent. I owe it to my self.

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Get Fit Get Right

Up and Adam. That ass isn't going to get more firm by laying in bed. Besides you can always go back to it.