#gildungsroman

[synxailla]

Pffft love the drawfee spam!! I literally just found out about them at the start of the quarantine and ugh, theyre such good wholesome fun! I appreciate the spam :)

Oh a fellow new drawfee fan! I love em. They're great and when they laugh in their vids they sound like they're having the greatest time and I live for that :3

[coolasamackerel]

for you sex thing, pegging. public sex. and if you're into third parties, voyeurism (even if its just having sex while on a phonecall or something), somnophilia (which should be heavily discussed otherwise it does lean towards rape kinda), have him wear a lingerie next time (i always kinda like this)

ha, i literally brought up that i was into pegging on our first date. still working on making it happen with A - he’s promised we will, he just needs time to get more into the idea, so for now it’s just fingering and rimming and plugs till he can work up to it (and obvs i don’t wanna push him)

i don’t like the idea of public sex, and voyeurism just doesn’t turn me on, but somnophilia is interesting... like i’ve woken him with a bj, but it wasn’t great cause he was groggy ahaha. being fucked while i’m asleep makes me feel like i’d be missing out on the fun, and also i’d definitely wake up...unless it’s a role-play thing where i pretend to be asleep? that could be interesting actually, and definitely something to discuss with him to see if he’s into it! 

and yes i like the idea of him wearing lingerie! i’ve told him i wanna do it, and he said he’s ordered something, so we’ll see how that pans out :)

thanks for all these ideas, you’re awesome!!!

[coolasamackerel]

3: What's your favorite part about writing (like the plot, world building, the characters...) and which of your stories are you most proud of for showcasing that element?

mmmm this is such an interesting question! i think...the characters are my favorite? like really nailing them, getting to the core of them, ya know? and language of course, not just figurative language (though i do love that), but finding the perfect wording to a sentence or a line of dialogue that just hits the spot and lands perfectly. and while it’s not necessarily an “element of fiction,” i would say one of my fave things to write are fighting scenes. not physical fights, but when two characters get in an emotional/verbal fight. i love that shit, when one character really hurts/betrays another, i think those moments are what i write for ahaha

as for part 2 of this question (such a good question!! very thought provoking), i’ll stick to fics i guess since i don’t think most people would know my original fiction. so my fave for showcasing character would be books and mind reading because i think i was really able to take my time and get into the nitty gritty of who nez and shion were since the plot itself was pretty tame, so there wasn’t much to focus on outside of character work.

hm, and my favorite for showcasing language....ummmm that’s hard. i guess it’d have to be one of my recent works, cause i think my handle on language has gotten better over time - for example, i think books and mind reading can be a bit too heavy handed on language. i don’t think i’d choose fraction cause i got tired halfway through writing that and didn’t put too much thought into the language once the plot got unwieldy. so i’d say lovesick or ballet shoes and ice skates for showcasing the language element.

and as for characters hurting each other, definitely fraction on that one. :)

thanks for this super cool set of questions, i really appreciate it!!!

[coolasamackerel]

2: After moving, how did you find your own friends, independent of your boyfriend? I don't have one and I'm not really in a position where I want one, but I'm planning on moving later this year and it's something I'm lowkey worried about.

ah well i’m not actually great at making friends! all my friends that i’ve made since i’ve moved here are from work thus far. i totally lucked out cause the company where i work publishes books and journals, and the philly office was all journals until about a year ago, when they hired some books people (previously all books people are in NYC or the UK or India). so anyway, while it’s a huge office, there’s 9 of us who are super new and we all have the same job title, and all of us are in our 20s. so it was super easy to get close to all of them, cause we’re a small group all looking for friends and having similar life experiences and totally clueless at our jobs (it helps with bonding when you’re all suffering together). and i like game nights, so i just started forcing them all to come to my place for game nights, and now we’re all buddies! (it also helps when there is alcohol - my fourth day of work we all got drunk together at our company holiday party, and that definitely fast-tracked our friendships)

but outside settings where i’m forced to be with people for several hours at a time (aka school and work), i’m not great at making friends. i would suggest the normal stuff that people suggest - join a group activity/club, sports team, Meetup.com group, book club, volunteer, etc. i had planned to do these things, but Covid got in the way. once quarantining is over, i plan on taking some classes at the local Arts uni, so hopefully i’ll make some more friends there, and i’m also planning to join some sort of fitness class/sports team to make friends that way. my boyfriend actually has a million friends and would be better at answering this question - he talks to everyone he meets and has that kind of personality that makes him fast friends with everyone, while i prefer just having a few close friends. he’s really good at making friends with his friends’ friends (wow i said friends a million times there), so that’s another thing you could do - make one good friend, then latch onto their friend group and then you get a bunch for the price of one!

i don’t imaging this was wildly helpful ahah sorry! basically i’d just say it takes time? when i first moved to DC i remember i was super bummed cause for the first few months i hadn’t made any friends, but a few months in that changed and i suddenly had super close friends. so i’m using that same mindset here in philly. it sucks right now cause i just moved to philly a few months ago, and now with covid it’s hard to get friendships going, but there’s always time to make friends! the key is just to get yourself in a place where you see people repeatedly over a long period of time - taking a class or joining a club is really your best bet outside a job/school.

[coolasamackerel]

Hi! I thought I'd ask you some questions since it's pretty distracting. Here's number 1: was there anything you've ever had to edit that you couldn't because the story itself was off putting or something?

hello hello!!! first thanks for sending me these messages ahh you’re awesome they’re perfect for when i need a distraction from my own boredom!!

okay so for this one, the answer is no. i don’t think any story would ever be off-putting to me to the point where i couldn’t edit it. i’ve certainly read a lot of messed up things, but i have a very high tolerance for reading about shitty scenarios or things that i don’t agree with or typical trigger warning content. that said, when it comes to watching things, i’m much more sensitive and there’s a good amount of stuff i can barely sit through (just started the handmaid’s tale and oof it’s tough to get through, i have to take it one episode at a time and right now i’m taking a couple days break from it), so i guess it’s good i’m not in tv/film editing!