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[adidasandangelwings]

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[adidasandangelwings]

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[adidasandangelwings]

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[adidasandangelwings]

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[goaskallison]

hello..well i guess i can get straight to the point. so i'm an 18 year old girl, and i've always been attracted to guys. but lately, i've been feeling attracted (physically, sexually) to girls. i'm notice when cute girls walk by. and i'll even admit that when i watch porn i'm more interested in the girl. i could see myself hooking up with a girl, but not in a serious relationship. so how can i know for sure i'm i'm bicurious/bisexual? it's kind of a lot to process and i'm confused...

The only true way to tell if you like girls is to try hooking up with a girl. If it turns you on, and you aren't repulsed by it, then you like girls!

A lot of people think that there are varying levels of bisexuality, like the Kinsey scale for example. So you could till be considered bisexual even if you're only physically/sexually attracted to a girl and wouldn't actually want a relationship.

For me personally, attraction is on a person to person basis. Maybe that's how it is for you also.

But the only true way to tell is to try it out. You're 18 so that means you're either a senior in high school or a freshman in college? If you're in college, experimenting should be way easier. So try hooking up with a girl. And if you get the same out of it as with a guy, I would say you're bi.

~Allison

[adidasandangelwings]

Night night tumblr.

Hopefully I will wake up to a full inbox.

The anon love today has been fantastic.

And all the activity on my advice blog.

Please keep it up lovelies!

And best of luck to everyone starting school tomorrow!!!

[goaskallison]

Hi, recently I've come to realize that I'm in love with my best friend of 10 years (we're both girls). What should I do? How do you deal with falling in love with your best friend, as you mentioned before? What was her reaction? I'm worried I might ruin things forever. :(

Well, I realized I was in love with my best friend in 7th grade and I told her at the end of 8th. She didn't reciprocate the feeling, but she didn't hate me either. We were still best friends for about three years after that, until things fell apart for different reasons.

If you have any inclination that your friend might feel the same way, then you should tell her. And even if you think she doesn't like you like that, tell her, just to get it off your chest. It's such a heavy thing to have to keep to yourself, that you'll just feel much better telling her, even if she doesn't feel the same way.

And if she's a good friend, she won't think any less of you for telling. It might be awkward for a bit if she doesn't reciprocate, but if you are close, you'll be able to get past it, and still be friends.

I don't regret telling my best friend. Even though it didn't work out, I was just so much less stressed out once I confessed.

Good luck <3

~Allison

[goaskallison]

What makes you feel like you're qualified to help people?

While I'm not a trained psychologist or anything, I have something that can't be taught in school. Personal experience. And I'm not so far removed from these issues that I can't remember just how real they are in the moment.

I've been to shrinks, been to counselors, talked to all the people you're supposed to talk to about issues, and none of them helped. The people who did help were friends who had understood.

So I want to be that friend who understands. I want to share the things I've discovered with others in an attempt to help make their lives happier than mine was.

So no, I'm technically not "qualified" but I'm going to do my best to help, because I feel really strongly about this.

~Allison