(I'm just interested in the headcanon and the people being shamed is just something I've witnessed myself, but I guess asking a question just leads to insults? I mean I just saw a chance to ask from a blog I liked to be more knowledgeable about stuff and figured I could ask since the mun/owner seemed cool.)
“Asking a question does not lead to insults. Telling someone that their opinions are so obviously wrong and unfounded leads to someone being insulted. I know you say that wasn’t your intention, but that’s how the anon read. It sounded like you were saying ‘why do you think this way if it’s obviously wrong? Also people like you are mean.’ That’s how it looked. And if that wasn’t your intention, then I’m sorry, but that was how I read it and why I argued back defending my opinions.
If you wanted to ask politely, you could have just said ‘why is your Chihiro trans?’ instead of needing to add in the parts where you need ask ‘why do people with this opinion harass other people’ as if you’re accusing me of something, when I have never harassed anyone and I would not be able to answer that question. You also felt the need to add ‘why do you feel this way when it’s so obviously wrong and goes against everything in canon?’ which is insulting and belittling. If someone wanted to ask me, respectfully, why certain opinions exist, I would be happy to tell them. But that anon did not read as respectful in the slightest.
Again, I don’t see why this needs to be an issue. Chihiro showed up for 5 questions, and only one of them addressed her gender. She is not coming back. You will never have to be offended by seeing another trans Chihiro here in your life. Why does this need to be an argument?
Anyone can ask me anything, but if they ask it in a way that says ‘you are wrong and also mean’, then I’m going to argue with that. The question was incredibly insulting, whether that was your intention or not. I have no problem with differing Chihiro headcanons, and I have no problem with explaining why I think certain things. I do have a problem with people feeling the need to come tell other people how wrong they are. Whether you meant that or not, that was how it looked.
And...I have a lot of problems with your statement ‘since the mun/owner seemed cool.’ Please don’t bring the mod into this. I know you haven’t yet, but it seems to be where this is going, so I’m asking you not to. The tone of this entire message is incredibly passive aggressive.”