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“Love that surrounds us all”

JOURNAL ENTRY NO. 7 

Source: https://thriveglobal.com/stories/loving-in-the-time-of-corona/

March 11, 2021

During this quarter of personal development, I started with a clear understanding of what we were learning, however, as the day progressed, I soon began thinking about the insights that I had learned in depth.

When we hear the term "relationship," we think about trust and loyalty. And most essential of all, the connection. Once we have a good relationship with others, it allows us to be better, healthier and more comfortable with ourselves. When we have a terrible relationship with others, it takes down our inner selves, such as our feelings and our view on life. Obtaining a relationship with anyone can have a big effect on our lives, whether it's positive or negative. I've seen all of them. Most importantly, the positive relationships I've had with others that define me today, and all those people are my friends and family. The word family is really fervent. Family is a relationship between individuals which cannot be destroyed. It is compelled by love and devotion. It's the way we relate to the members of the family, the stories we're sharing, and having the same interests that establish a sense of what our family is really like. These could lead to a certain perspective on things, the same attitude, the same outlook, etc. Family relationships are about expressing our feelings and experiences without the feeling of your family members abandoning or disdaining us.

@krishavanessa​

Much of our lives are about socializing with others, starting intimate connections, and reinforcing old ones. Love is all around us, expressed in three main categories: parental or family love, friendship and "chemical love" between male and female but all of these is because of intimacy, passion, and commitment. All of these is experienced in a particular way; each of them is treated in a different way. Even so, they all possess one common quality, they are unintentional, unpredictable, and unexpected. This is what brings the beauty of passion. Since we don't expect it, we highly value it, remembering how poor our lives were (or would have been) without it. We're all learning to love love.

Also, the love languages by Gary Chapman. There are basically five love languages, and one person has a dominant love language. It's fun to discover the dominant love language in the people that you care about.  Once  you discover it, it's not that difficult to impress them. The author, Gary Chapman, concentrates more on how we love others. But I think we're all treating others the way we want to be handled, right? And I think it works both ways. For example, after taking the love language test, my love language is quality time. I love to spend time and I'm always happy when I make quality time with the people I love, I use time as an indicator of love. That's why instead of just receiving time from them, I love to make time for them too! I imagine the recipient is going to be as delighted as I am when I receive the time that I want. Just like what they have said “The best way to love is not to show how much you love the person, but to know how the person feels loved.”

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“How difficult it makes to survive life”

JOURNAL ENTRY #06

Source: https://www.seek.co.nz/career-advice/article/shove-it-how-to-manage-and-not-manage-workplace-bullying

January 25, 2021

Today’s lesson made me realize that psychological well-being is about living well, and it is a mixture of feeling good and working efficiently. Sustainable well-being does not imply that individuals feel great all the time; the experience of unpleasant emotions such as disappointment, loss and sadness is a natural part of life, and the ability to handle these negative and painful emotions is important for long-term well-being. Psychological well-being, however, is affected when negative feelings are severe or very long lasting and interfere with a person's ability to function in his or her everyday life. Also, Depression and anxiety can affect any aspect of our life, including, how you sleep and eat, education and career, relationships, health, and focus. Depressed people often often have comorbid conditions, such as alcohol and substance dependence, or other addictions. Leaving untreated depression can lead to several other problems in one's personal and professional life. That's why it's so important to seek support, not only for friendships and work, but for your own sake. We also tackled about bullying. Bullying is still going to be an issue in schools, neighborhoods, and many areas frequented by adolescents. The typical place of abuse is in a school where feeling entitled children have a chance to do their hostile mistreatment of the weaker ones. Bullying may include taunting, cyberbullying, name-calling or actual physical damage to the victims.

Through my own personal experience, I have learned that bullying can lead to extreme consequences. Four years ago, one of my chilhood friend, our family friend committed suicide because she couldn't cope up with the agony she was going through. Many assume that bullying can only take place by their peers, but it can also happen within your own family. My friend's mother kept putting her down, telling her she was fat, not good enough,  humiliation, she was even abused by her own father. Ironically, her bestfriend had endured the same abuse in her own home and, in addition, had been a persistent drain on her emotional health. She thought that suicide was her only solution to all the constant pain, and now she's left nothing except heartache to our friends and family. As we can see, bullying is a massive issue all over the world today. If we ever see somebody being bullied, we need do the right thing; acknowledge, confront, and report. Only by taking these three basic steps, we will help save a life.

@krishavanessa​

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“Encountering Stress as a Part of Adolescence”

JOURNAL ENTRY #05

Source: https://www.samhealth.org.sg/understanding-mental-health/what-is-mental-wellness/coping-with-stress/stress-illus1c/

January 22, 2021

Today’s topic really interest me, it’s all about encountering stress as part of adolescence and how to cope up with those stress. I learned that stress can be triggered by a lot of different things, depending on the person. Even though everybody can have a variety of different conditions that can stress them, they can be minimized it by using the same techniques. Us, teenagers, are usually under a lot of stress because we haven't been able to experience as much as others. Facing stressors is a part of life, may it be in children, teenagers, or in adults. For me, the number one thing that appears to trigger adolescent stress seems to be school-related. If our grades aren't decent, we'll have a hard time graduating on time and getting a suitable pay job in the future. We are also expected to join extracurricular activities, choose a college to go to, pick what we want to be when we reach adulthood, and do what our parents expect of us. I also learned that, stress is the greatest motivation in the world. Stress helps to reach deadlines and achieve targets. Stress at a small dosage is immensely helpful in allowing us to make things impossible. A moderate level of stress also leads to an enhanced our immune system. And it doesn't really hurt to be a little overwhelming at times. Positive stress is a motivator, a cognitive enhancer and a physical enhancer. However, Higher levels of stress or negative stress minimize the immunity of the body. Fatigue and depression are beginning to creep in. This leads us to anxiety disorders and heart issues. We can start to face a lack of appetite or an increase in hunger, insomnia, depression where we may attempt suicide, in other words, too much stress can be our demise. 

There are effective coping mechanisms that I would suggest implementing, this are the things that I do when stressed . First, sleep well, guys. Sleep is important to our physical and emotional well-being. Second,  write about it. I usually write out things that I’m grateful of just to ease what I’m feeling. Third, reading. It’s the most effective way for me to cope up with stress simply because it can divert my attention. So creating time for fun and relaxation enhances our capacity to cope with life's constant stressors. It is therefore wise for us to indulge in healthy ways of relaxing, such as exercising, playing with a pet, going on adventures, and watching comedies. And as human beings, it is our duty to be mindful towards one another. Pressure at work and at school are the key factors that trigger stress in our society. But it's not safe to keep up this stress for long periods of time. So, it is our responsibility to look at ourselves and to ignore stress-related problems as insignificant.

@krishavanessa​

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“Overcoming obstacles”

JOURNAL ENTRY #04

Source: https://www.latimes.com/science/sciencenow/la-sci-sn-teen-mental-health-20190314-story.html

January 21, 2021

Today’s topic, I have learned to understand and comprehend how adolescents deals with their challenges in life.  As a developing youth, we're encountering a lot of things in life as we grow older. The issues and difficulties in particular. As a developing teenager, we are more vulnerable to school and family pressures. In schools, for example. As senior students, we had to pass all of the stuff our teachers had to do, such as homework, assignments, etc. For the sake of our voucher, we are also expected to pass all items. We have issues with our families and friends, too. I take family issues slightly serious because we're all in not so healthy relationships. In friends, we won't ask all the people you've met to stay in your life. Some of them are true, some of them are going to leave. In other teenagers, these conflicts they're going to face will continue, and they could either build us positively and negatively. They appear to be indecisive, uncertain, and may have anti-social attitudes, maybe because they are confused about who they really are, because they don't know what group they belong to. But it’s very very difficult to evoke the feelings that you had when you were an adolescent. In this instances, rebellion may arise. 

After everything that has been said above, I have come to realize that adolescents are different and that they are like that for a certain reason. I agree that certain they have not really wanted to be the person they are now. It just happened, or it's just a product of how they've dealt with the tension they've faced in their lives. Though it's not too late to improve, sometimes we just have to get out of our comfort zone and try it out. We're all supposed to know that we're all different and special, and that we're all like that for a reason, so we shouldn't judge someone just because they're not like the rest of us. There's nothing wrong with wanting to change yourself if you're going to change for the better. Be the one you want to be. Be just what you want to be. You are, and you do what makes you happy. Be someone who would make you proud that you overcome your obstacles in life. Just do not ever rebel and don't forget to make sure that you do things for you, and not for someone else, we don't need to please people all the time.

@krishavanessa​

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“Us being unique”

JOURNAL ENTRY #02 

Source: https://www.dreamstime.com/illustration/cartoon-group-friends-boys-girls.html

January 19, 2021

I’ve always been fascinated by reflections. Well, we see them all over the place we go. Every morning, we look at our twin in the mirror. Every spring, we catch a glimpse of the sky upside down in the puddles left behind by rainstorms. And we know from early childhood that they are nothing more than a reflecting light rays. A reflection of ourselves. Before we started our second lesson, we presented and shared first our first activity “Me, myself and I”. I was astonished that they really knew who they were. We are adamant that sharing our stories gives us an extra dose of positive emotion, rather than just remembering or writing about it. The sharing of our work also determined other benefits of sharing positive and negative experiences, such as making it easier to remember what they’ve been through, the opportunity to learn the new positive implications of our stories from another's perspective, and the extra joy that we feel when we make another person happy through our positive energy. 

Today’s activity made me realize that I am really different from what I am before to what I’ve become. Before, I was just a mere human being, seeking for attention, now, I am myself, the person that is loved by her family and her imagination. It took me a long time to get comfortable of being me. In fact, it's only recently that I took a step back, looked at myself and my life, and thought,  “Well, hey. That is good stuff, right there.” It was a long way to equate myself to others, feeling disappointed that I wasn't fine, dwelling on what I didn't have, and wanting to get on the "next level" (whatever that means). Have you ever realized that you really don't fit it in? It could be a confrontation with some kind of person, or with the subculture of a group of individuals you've known for years. Cuz that’s what I’ve felt before. It's not like they're not kind to me, or they neglect me, but unexpectedly, one day, the pieces of the puzzle fit together in the right way, and the light shines through, carrying with them enlightenment and knowledge. That you will never be 'right' to a particular group or place in your life. That you're never going to 'fit in' or be part of the 'in-crowd.'

Source: https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/135248795037960919/

After a bit of reflection, I knew what has made the difference for me. Nothing overt has been brought to my attention, but it's become increasingly clear to me that I will always be seen as a wild card, an outsider in the whole. And honestly, it's been a bit difficult to come to terms with. As I have continued to struggle with this new understanding, I have started to look within myself, and see if there are areas that I have to improve, and of course I have found many of them. They are my family, my friends, and the fictional characters that I love. They are good people , kind, generous, helpful and willing to serve others.  Ever since I understood that my desire to 'fit in' was really a desire to gain meaning from others, to be totally 'accepted' by others, my need to 'fit in' changed. In fact, they're not in a position to give me a sense of understanding. No matter how hard someone wants to influence how I feel, the sense of acceptance and meaning must come from inside, not from a group without. Because they never lived my life, saw the lessons I learned, and faced the struggles that took me to the position I am today, I can't expect them to see things the way I do. 

And to sum it up, by hearing those thoughts from my classmate and for knowing myself more, it also made me realize that we really are unique in our own different ways. 

@krishavanessa​

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“Getting to know each other”

JOURNAL ENTRY #02

Tuesday, 19 January

Before we started our second lesson, we have presented first our first ever activity in this subject which was regarding ourselves. As we presented our outputs, I realized and discovered a lot including the fact that we all have our own unique traits, own style and preferences of sharing. It made me happy knowing that some were confident enough to share and express every details about themselves. We even tried to crack some jokes just to cheer everyone up.

So for me, I consider myself as one of the cheerful people in the world because I am more inclined to be happy and optimistic at all times even though life gets tough and unbearable sometimes, I always taught myself to look for the good side in every things. By that, it makes me motivated and I can even share my positivity to others for them to keep going.

@krishavanessa

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“The power of knowing thyself”

JOURNAL ENTRY #01

January 18, 2021

Knowing myself is a journey. It is about discovering who I am as a human being. Knowing myself means allowing myself not to know whilst unraveling the deeper truth of who I am. It's about listening to a deeper calling and knowledge inside, whilst following my heart. Knowing myself means respecting my strengths and weaknesses, interests and fears, expectations and aspirations, emotions and feelings, likes and dislikes, my tolerances and limitations. Observe and be mindful of your moods, emotions and reactions to what's going on around you, because then you'll be able to respond in the right way. Then, be mindful of how these moods and feelings affect your state of mind. Often analyze how you communicate with others to see how the world affects you. We get to know the world as we get to know ourselves. We're beginning to see other people as our brothers and sisters. We begin to see life as it is, that we are all genuinely connected and infinite beings. 

You know, things like self-concept, self-esteem, self-worth, and even self-awareness comes within yourself. You have to love and accept yourself, flaws and all, so that you can love and accept another person, flaws and all. If you don't just get to know yourself and know how to respect and cherish yourself, how do you get to know and love and accept someone else? You can't have one without the other. Knowing yourself is certainly beyond knowing your favorite color or your ideal mate. It's about finding yourself that can take days, months, or years. But once you do it, you either love yourself or hate yourself, either way it's going to be a cherishing experience. I realized these things after we tackled about getting to know one’s self. Focus on who you are, block everything else out, nothing else matters. You are so much stronger than what you think you are.

@krishavanessa​