𐔌 . ⋮ “ Alternative Grey-Aegosexual Flag Design ” (🏳️🌈) .ᐟ ֹ ₊ ꒱
♡ . ♣️﹐ıllı Hey, hi <3! I'm planning on creating a couple patches for a jacket of mine in the future displaying my identity and decided to design a flag for Grey-Aegosexuality!
୨୧ Read Below for a brief overview on Grey-Aegosexuality, process of designing the flag and terms of use!
✧ ‧₊˚ ꒰ 💭 ꒱ ⋮ Overview → What’s Grey-Aegosexuality?
. . . NOTE: To organize this, I attempted to arrange this similar to the format of a Wikipedia page! I felt as if this was an important detail to mention to not mislead anyone. At the moment of posting this, there is no official Wikipedia or sources for Grey-Aegosexuality from what I can find outside of the incompleted one mentioned later.
Grey-Aegosexual (Also known as Grey-Aego or Gregosexual) is a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum where an individual identifies as both Greysexual (A sexual orientation in the asexual spectrum, where a person experiences sexual attraction rarely, with low intensity, or only under specific circumstances, existing in the "gray area" between being asexual and allosexual) and Aegosexual (A sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum in which one experiences a disconnect between themselves and the subject of arousal. They may or may not feel sexual attraction, but have no desire to participate in sexual activities with another person.)
Some common Grey-Aegosexual experiences include:
- Experiencing sexual attraction infrequently, weakly or under specific circumstances, but when experienced there is a disconnect towards the individual and the subject of their arousal.
- Occasionally enjoying sexual content, self-arousing, or fantasizing about sex on occasion, but typically being indifferent towards or repulsed by the idea of sexual content, self-arousing or fantasizing about sex.
- Enjoying sexual content, self-arousing, or fantasizing about sex on but typically being indifferent towards or repulsed by the idea of being in a real-life sexual relationship or engaging in active sex life with someone else.
- Fantasizing about sex occasionally or under specific circumstances, but:
The individual is not involved. They may only be a disembodied observer viewing it from a third-individual perspective rather than from the first-person.
Envisioning only other individuals, such as celebrities, fictional characters, or even friends.
It involves generic, faceless individuals, not specific individuals.
It is seen through the perspective of another individual rather than as one's actual self.
- Someone who feels sexual attraction on rare occasions but does not want to participate in sex.
- Feeling sexual attraction under certain circumstances or in lower frequencies that do not involve oneself.
- Perceiving someone as "hot" or recognizing someone as sexually attractive, yet rarely or only under specific circumstances seeing the appeal of having sex with the individual in real life. The individual may instead prefer to fantasize about them or admire them (miransexual).
- Ace-Spec people who partially relate to aegosexuality, but experience it under certain circumstances, infrequently or weakly.
- Ace-Spec people who partially relate to grey-sexuality, but experience it having a disconnect with the subject of arousal.
- People who resonate or connect with the terms/identify grey-sexual and aegosexual
NOTE: Experiencing grey-aegosexuality is not limited to these experiences, these are just common experiences I had seen others share (and that I myself relate to in some cases) who identify as greysexual, aegosexual and grey-aegosexual. I would love to hear others experiences with being greysexual, aegosexual and grey-aegosexual <3!
✧ ‧₊˚ ꒰ 🎨 ꒱ ⋮ Designing Process → Inspiration for the flag, designing the flag and tribute to the original flag!
I had created this variation of the flag when I had been under the impression there was not a grey-aegosexual flag yet designed. Searching it up at the time with no results left me feeling isolated, so I opted to create my own flag.
THIS IS A BIG RANT. I debated on posting it along with this post as it was extremely personal and I never meant to even go into much detail, but I wanted to include it for others who may feel similar to me. As I myself feel isolated and as if I don't really have anyone to discuss my feelings with who understands being on the asexual spectrum– And I made this flag due to feeling isolated, which is the paragraph after my semi-unrelated rant.
I didn't intend to post this design originally in fear of experiencing homophobia and/or acephoba by others, but especially by others within the asexual community. In the process of figuring out I am even a part of the ace spectrum, I witnessed a lot of acephobia in regards to asexuals who sex negative. It's led me to feel marginalized and “inauthentic” in a way unfortunately, even today I struggle heavily with it. I don't mean to go into complete detail in how I experience sexual attraction as it's very personal to me, but I feel marginalized by both the allosexual (community?) and asexual community. It feels as if I'm not quite enough for either of them. I guess I feel sexual attraction, but it's pretty rare and circumstantial and I'm not really into the physical aspect of anything but rather the emotional intimacy and also I feel disconnected (which I enjoy) from it as when I do experience sexual attraction or arousal it's not myself experiencing it but rather viewing it from a different perspective third person or not my own (which I enjoy) but I could kinda see myself participating in sexual acts rarely or under specific circumstances but also not really and if I was to ever to date or something I don't want to go into relationship where one of us expect sex I'd much rather actually be in a relationship where it is not expected at all or date someone asexual rather than allosexual heavily but maybe if we both wanted something we could do something but I probably wouldn't even want to unless under specific circumstances or on a rare occasion but even then I'm indifferent towards participating in it anyhow and it's not something I really want at all anyway. But it's something I could want and it's something I do think about and feel aroused kinda sometimes but not in a traditional way, not in a way that I think being with someone allosexual would make either one of us happy or in a way where someone who is asexual (if I can even find someone) that I'd really love probably want to be in a relationship with me knowing I'm not totally sex adverse but sex isn't even what I want but also I'm very sex positive despite being indifferent towards sex myself which I understand and I know others do but not really everyone does and it leads me to feel more alienated in both communities– generally I wouldn't say the asexual community is overall sex negative, I understand the difference between aversion, indifference, revulsion and being sex negative. Just looking in an echo chamber of asexual people who are sex indifferent really affected me I think in regards to how I view my sexuality and self worth related to it and feeling so alienated and like I don't belong in it). I don't really feel welcomed in either community and it hurts. (Especially on top of that being bisexual and ambiamorous, which I feel isolation and exclusion in similar ways too unfortunately. It all just sucks!!!)
So when I was searching for a Grey-Aegosexual Flag and couldn't find one, it reinforced the majority of my feelings above. I truly felt isolated, even though it was just a silly flag. It kept its toll on me for a while before the thought of creating my own flag drifted into my mind. I was hesitant at first, creating something to personally resonate with when I had been struggling with my identity seemed impossible, but it kept getting to me there wasn't a flag (that I could find at the time) so I decided to attempt it. And I did did resonate with the one I created <3 not at first, I actually created this alternate version.
Which if anyone else prefers, is awesome <3!!
I had to sit there for almost a month before I really felt anything towards either of the designs. I'm glad in the end I was able to go “Meee <3” when looking at one of them. I'm not sure what made me suddenly like the design, it just kinda grew on me.
I based the flag design off of hunterinabrowncoat's (Tumblr) aegosexual flag with the format of the flag having a triangle in the middle with switched colors and Milith Rusignuolo's grey-asexual flag with the colors! As.. I like both flags and being them both and feeling represented with them both, I wanted to combine them into one!
I created both variations of the flag in Ibispaint in around 7 minutes on November 26th.
However, as it turns out, I was not the first to create a grey-aegosexual flag <3!!
It turns out, at least since February of 2025, there had been a grey-aegosexual flag!! I was still nervous posting this design (I actually still am.) so I searched again in a last ditch effort to see if anyone had created one yet, and I found one from no-fear-queers (Tumblr) reposting it!! I think searched around again on google to no avail, then on the LGBTQIA+ wiki again and found the flag there too!!
I felt so relieved finding one, and much less isolated. I hadn't been that alone that whole time, someone else thought to make one and share it somewhere publicly. On the LGBTQIA+ Wiki, the creator is listed as Rainbow cat thing but there's no links to their socials and the Wikipedia page itself seems to be incomplete? Which I don't mind, I'm just happy to find a flag related to my identity. One I love the colors of, nonetheless.
My first thought I had outside of anything related to my identity and feeling seen was that I didn't have to even worry about posting my flag design as there already was one! But then I thought about it.. And despite how nervous it made me, I did want to share it. As the one I created to try and comfort myself also meant something to me. Maybe it could mean something to someone else too, as silly and corny and egotistical that may come off as.
So, that's why I still decided to post this <3 and that was also my process for creating it. And a really crazy rant.
✧ ‧₊˚ ꒰ 🖇 ꒱ ⋮ Terms of Use
The majority of my works that involve some form of editing or graphic designing are free to use, this flag/design is no different.
This can be used for personal use such as:
- Referring to it as a flag you identify with.
- Reuploading or Reposting it under your own account or different platforms.
- However, unlike the majority of my edits, I do feel comfortable with this design being used in promotional material or monetization! (such as merchandise) The reason for this is so people could manufacture and sell merchandise being grey-aegosexual (though that's not required to sell anything related to this design) and so I could possibly grab some merchandise related to it..
For any of these cases, permission to use or reupload is not required nor is credit, but it is appreciated as always.
