So I ended up deciding to combine these asks. I realized pretty quickly that I wasnāt sure what a platonic relationship was. I figured it was just good friendship, but from what Iāve read it was originally defined as a āspiritual relationshipā. So itās sort of like being in love but not sexually. All the support of lovers but no physical attraction / sexual desire basically. Which is almost the same as having a very good friend, at least from what I get from it. Like a best friends who trust each other fully and are inseparable, etc.
Hopefully I interpreted that properly, you can tell me if I screwed up and Iāll try again. Iām going to be splitting this into two parts: general friendship, and platonic relationship.
Hanahimus - Hi again friend! Sorry for taking so long with your request. Itās definitely a great request by the way! I shouldāve written it earlier but Iāve been unsatisfied with the amount I had for a while and wanted to write more.
Cereal Anon - Glad to hear from you again! You shouldnāt feel nervous to come off anon, but itās fine if you want to stay that way. If you identify yourself as cereal anon with all your asks youāre still anonymous but recognizable. So if youād rather do that itās also an option. Again, let me know if I interpreted your ask wrong, I can always go back and write another.
General Friendship Headcanons:
Fyodor enjoys having conversations with friends about books, theories, current events, or anything else that he finds interesting at the moment.
Heās interested in hearing his friendās opinions on topics as well. Itās an indicator of him considering someone a good friend if he actually pays attention to what theyāre saying and values their opinions. For the most part, he has no interest in listening to the opinions of others. The only exceptions are people heās close to, people he finds interesting, or people who already have expertise in whateverās being discussed. He also has a tendency to not listen to people that he dislikes out of spite, either that or listen and pick apart their arguments with incredible cruelty.
Fyodor isnāt one to talk about his own life or his past, even to friends. Heād rather talk about things separate from himself, and doesnāt mind hearing about his friendsā lives occasionally as well. Ā
Will recommend books to his friends, especially if itās something he figures theyāll like. Heās usually spot on.
Fyodor isnāt one to make jokes all that often. Though with friends Fyodor will joke about things occasionally. His friends may find it hard to tell if heās joking since he says them all in monotone with complete seriousness though.
Most of his jokes are dry and sarcastic, and a lot of the time he uses them to mock people based on their opinions or the way theyāre acting. Theyāre almost like a peek into his inner monologue, as he makes more of these remarks to himself constantly. Ā
Fyodor is fairly introverted and works all the time, so friends usually have to take the initiative to ask him if heād like to do something with them. If the friend doesnāt have anything specific in mind they can just ask him if heās free, Fyodorās fine with brainstorming ideas with them.
Fyodor would rather hang out with one friend at a time than in large groups. He even has a tendency to become isolated in groups as his mind will start wandering. Having to devote his energy to one person is easier and doesnāt allow him to space out thinking of something else.
He particularly enjoys going to museums, films, and performances with friends. Heāll occasionally invite someone himself if he finds out about something interesting he thinks they might like to see with him.
There are two types of outings he may invite a friend on:
1. Something slightly formal and well known, like a ballet, opera, or a special history/art exhibit in a local museum.
2. Something surprising and wonderful. Including strange independent art galleries in dilapidated buildings, vague and philosophical foreign films in small practically unknown theatres, or hole in the wall restaurants that have surprisingly amazing food. Itās a mystery how he discovers any of these places.
If his friend is into it they can also go to bars and casinos together. Fyodor will only go to quiet bars however, and he doesnāt drink much so itās only on occasion. If you go to a casino with him he always wins big, as heās terribly good at strategic games like poker due to his great memory and strategical skill. He tends to give his friends tips during and between games too.
I decided to use the term āplatonic s/oā for the following section.
Platonic Relationship Headcanons:
Pretty much everything from the general friendship hcs apply here as well.
Fyodor is more likely to invite his platonic s/o places, as heād have a better sense of what they like and would want to spend more time with them naturally.
Would trust his platonic s/o to take care of his pet rats while heās away. Which is a huge deal considering how much he cares about his rat companions.
Fyodor would be more likely to open up about himself to this person. He may talk to them about past experiences or even the reasons behind his strange beliefs. This is something he rarely does, so when he first begins opening up to them he may worry about it not being the right thing for him to do.
If Fyodor is feeling particularly out of it one day, he would find spending time with his platonic s/o comforting. He would likely invite them over or ask them if theyād like to get dinner or go for a walk. Just hearing them talk is something that would help him keep his mind off of things for a while.
Fyodor may even decide to confide in his a platonic s/o a little bit. He would give them some information about a problem heās facing and trust in the advice he may receive. This is also something incredibly rare for him, due to his pride and aversion to asking for help from others.
Fyodor would be surprised that he could ever feel so close to another person. At first this may cause him to feel some discomfort, as he wonders if it makes him weak for relying on another in this way. Eventually as the relationship progresses further, Fyodor would become more reassured, likely because he realizes over time that his platonic s/o was also having the same doubts but still trusting him with the same intensity. In other words, the feelings are mutual.Ā
