12/16/17
Well well well, ya boy got a girlfriend ❤️ So thankful for a girl who fully supports, adores, and accepts me as, not only a guy, but as HER guy. It’s truly remarkable to meet someone who finally supports me as a whole hearted person. She’s been by my side as I’ve identified as a lesbian with a ponytail, as I’ve identified as a lesbian with short hair, and now as a trans guy navigating through the murky waters of finding my most authentic self. And she’s never flinched. She’s liked me in every form of myself. I’m not perfect and neither is she. We both make mistakes when it comes to the gender thing - when talking just to her, I sometimes still refer to myself as “she” and “Carissa”, and once in a while she’ll slip up too. But it’s a work in progress. The best part of it all is that she calls herself out on it. For example the other day, she called me a “hard working girl”... I let it slide and carried on the conversation after a kinda awkward silence and she laughed and said, “No, babe did you hear me? I said girl...I meant guy.” And I heard her, but sometimes don’t have the confidence to correct certain people....or, especially with her, don’t feel the need to because she knows, and is trying her absolute best. But it speaks VOLUMES about her respect for me as a trans man when she owns up to misgendering, corrects it, and apologizes. It’s so beautiful being on this journey with her...and I’m so lucky I get to be her boyfriend :) JMS <3 Thanks for loving me as Calvin, babe.