Hi Daddy,
I haven't talked to you in a while, and I've only asled you about dd/lg once anyways. I hope you're doing okay, I come check your posts when I need help relaxing and being little, and when I see you're not doing well, I worry about you. You do a lot for a lot of different people! I really mean it, I hope you're taking care of yourself just as well as you take care of all the good girls on here.
I had another question, if you don't mind. Lately, my need to be babied cannot be soothed by online content and stuff. It's driving me crazy. I start crying when I read your posts or listen to good girl asmrs because I want someone in my life so badly to praise me, to my face, and someone to lay on top of me when the world seems too scary. But I can't find that.
Maybe it's my own fears. I've only ever had one boyfriend and he wasn't fun to be around, and I think I previously mentioned that I don't know how to trust someone when I'm feeling little. No one knows about it, I have to hide my feelings and 'grow up' every songle day so no one takes advantage of me. It's really hard. Even when I'm touching myself, I can't turn my brain off because I'm always overthinking. I've tried everything, I'm even trying to save up for some new toys, but nothing can replace the loneliness. I really wanna be in love, but dating apps suck and...
Well, I think the rest is stuff I need to work out with my therapist (assuming I can finally work up the courage to admit all this to them). But my main question I suppose was how do I find a daddy? I don't do well with sharing, and I need it to be physical, someone real I can actually *hug* when I'm sad.
I hope you never feel this way. You're such a loving daddy, I would hope you never feel unloved in return.
Idk. I know this is a lot. I'm having issues feeling safe around people, especially when those who should make me feel protected have been doing the opposite. And I want someone in my life to love me, all of me. If you have the time, I would be very thankful for some advice. And I also hope I didn't dump a bunch of nasty negativity onto you.
Thank you for listening, daddy. I love you and everything that you do ❤️
- 🦆
First, you haven't dumped anything on me, little one. I completely understand. This Daddy has felt how you're feeling right now and I've been taken advantage of for it. The advice I have to give in this case will not be easy to hear, but I do hope it will help.
Loneliness is like starvation. When you're starving, you'll do things that you never thought you would, things you never thought possible to sate that emptiness you feel. But your stomach shrinks and your metabolism slows and eating what you find, even if it is good and enough, becomes dangerous all at once. Becoming healthy again is slow and it hurts. Adjusting to healthy love is no different.
Tell your therapist about your little side. Regression was covered in my psychology classes and I switched out of that major, so it's pretty basic knowledge. It isn't wild or shocking. It's actually incredibly common. But most importantly, you need someone who can't show you the affection you need who knows about that side of you. Because you need to overcome that guilt and shame and start feeding that void your own love. Self-acceptance and self-love comes first, because without it, no amount of love anyone gives you will ever be enough.
Second, you want someone nearby, so my dating strategy is not going to work. I don't know anything about dating apps, so I don't have much advice there. I do know that I will gather what information I can. I check blogs, but you might check their social media. You might select for people on dating sites or apps that let you list your kinks. You might find a hobby to look for people with common interests. You're looking to maximize your dating pool since you're severely limited by location already.
Finally, you want to see who they are when they're free, when they're private, when they're separate from social pressure. Healthy relationships are friendship plus, so you're looking to make friends. Ultimately, you're looking to make a hot, single Daddy friend who will love your little slide and suplex your whole family if they're mean to you about it. But you'll make other friends too, people who will protect you, shoulder your burdens, and love you in ways friends do. You won't be as vulnerable, as lonely, or as dependent on a perfect Daddy if you have friends who aren't afraid to hug you and know what the binky is for.
Filling your life with love isn't about finding one perfect person. It's about finding your tribe. It's about sharing your authentic self and making room for all the love you crave that comes in ways you don't expect. It starts with you. It grows into book club or game night or your local munch crew. And one day, when you are comfortable in your skin and you have someone who would flatten him with a sledgehammer if he ever hurt you, you'll find a nice guy who gives great hugs and who steps up to earn the right to call you babygirl.
I know that sucks to hear right now. I know it's so much work and so much time and it's basically long distance with extra steps. But if you met him right now and hung all your expectations on him, you'd just be lonely together. I wish I had better advice or a shortcut or something that doesn't feel so big, but if you want the real thing, you have to make it, not just find it.
If anyone has something to add, please do. Good Girls deserve good Daddies and my perspective isn't the only one. Good Girls help each other, so let's give this Good Girl some wind beneath her wings!
