I'm so sorry you had to go through such awful abuse :( I've been sexually abused as a child. Now, I'm too afraid to ever have a sub because I always worry that I'll accidentally abuse him (Not physically, but rather psychologically and emotionally). There is a fine line between sexual domination and sexual abuse, at least for me, and I don't want to accidentally and unknowingly blur that line and hurt someone. Do you have any advice, as a sub?
Thank you for your concern, but it made me who I am today. It showed me who i never want to become. Sorry to hear about what happened to you. It all depends on what you are doing, if the sub is heavily into humiliation/degradation Then that’s is a hard thing to stop. Have a talk with your sub, so they know and you know, tell him what your trigger conditions are. So they and you know what to avoid during both play and real life. Communication is key friend, But if you do accidently cross it, and your sub knows, then talk about what went wrong, and I am sure your sub will comfort and console you as you talk through it. and just go from there, I worry about being emotionally abused by a domme, so that why I am striving to be in a Role reversed/gentle femdom relationship, because it doesn’t have those hardcore elements. You would feel warm and gentle, rather than a cold shoulder and a firm grip you know. So my advice is just communicate, and think about what you want and need, and if need be try and see a mental health worker to work through this. Some free ones are beyond blue and headspace. It will be alright, I am sure a sub would be really lucky to have you as a domme, Hey if they are into gentle femdom, you could expect lots of cuddles and affection, ^_^.Thank you for the ask, it was interesting to answer a little hard, but if you have any other questions please ask away.