#havvkinsqueen

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❝    @havvkinsqueen  -   victoria  is  the  sweetest  person  on  this  planet  and  her  chrissy  is  a  gem.  both  must  be  given  all  the  hugs.  <3    ❞

[malka-lisitsa]

What's it like dating Katherine?

I'm so glad that you asked!

I see a LOT of 'Dating Katherine would consist of-" Posts and they're all so romanticized its so unrealistic!!! So let me tell you what dating Katherine is ACTUALLY LIKE, because she is NOT an easy person to be with!

Now quick disclaimer here- this doesn't mean she isn't a good person to date and that it's all bad. It's NOT and I will definitely list the entire spectrum here good and bad- but Katherine is not for the faint of heart and if yall want to fantasize about what dating her would be like you need the real guide book.

SO here's what dating Katherine Pierce would be like.

Katherine is BPD this is a terrible condition that affects her ability to maintain relationships especially.

Paranoid delusions are v common, Katherine has incredible trust issues already (can you blame her) so paired up with paranoia she would be very suspicious at completely random times. One day she could be completely ok with x person being around you and then the next day she could be so insecure and jealous bc her head has convinced her that you are in fact cheating on her.

Katherine's rapid mood swings? Not cute! :D She can go from fine, to white hot rage in a split second and then if you blink shes sobbing! WHY? SHE DOESN'T FUCKING KNOW!! And to top it all off!! She doesn't know what to do with herself when she has these mood swings! Could be anything from isolation, to being needy, or even lashing out randomly! Its a surprise for EVERYONE INVOLVED!!

Picking fights! Legitimate fights out of nowhere! Why? Bc abandonment issues! You're gonna leave her anyway why shouldn't she be in control of that right? She will push you away viciously!! The guess what?? After that episode is over she will try to smooth it over and pull you back because she doesnt actually want to lose you- shes just SCARED and has zero emotional regulation!

She will TEST YOU CONSTANTLY and you will never know, you will never be trained, or given a guide you are expected to know what the right thing to do with/for her is and if you DONT- FIGHT. This is super common in BPD, these tests and theyre almost ALWAYS unreasonable, again bc if you fail the test she gets to pick a fight and rationalize you dont actually care about her and she should push you away before you hurt her.

Intense emotions! My GOD lets not forget that she not only feels things vampire intense but she feels them BPD intense ON TOP OF THAT. SHE WILL BE UNREASONABLE. OFTEN. IT IS NOT HER FAULT. She literally has no control over it. She is not logical when triggered it is ALL emotional lizard brain. If you push her she will bite you- no middle ground.

She will get scared, and she will most likely try to run, or push you away. Anyone who can reach you, can hurt you- and Katherine has a built in warning system when someone starts to get close enough they can actually hurt her- the the instinct to sabotage that relationship kicks in.

Katherine is an impulsive liar. You will be lied to. Probably over the stupidest shit like 'we're out of nuggets' so you pick her up something else on the way home. Also probably about important shit. Katherine's most common lie is 'im fine'

Katherine is POSSESSIVE and she is NOT shy about it either. Reactions can vary from some heavy PDA to actual violence...

Dating Katherine is dealing with her insomnia. It's dealing with her waking up screaming, or in tears. It's having her climb in your lap to sleep because she needs to feel safe. Remember this girl has been HUNTED and FUCKED WITH for 500 YEARS. SAFE is never a default feeling for her. She is ALWAYS in fight or flight mode and it's EXHAUSTING when your brain keeps telling you 'cant sleep now there are enemies near by'

Dating Katherine is never knowing whats going on in her head because she wont tell you. You need to learn her very subtle language she communicates in to understand her mental state.

its katherine having very little emotional maturity, and lashing out at the first sign of rejection or criticism. Its Katherine having black and white thinking NO grey area.

Its learning a whole new dialect just to be able to understand what she actually means when she says or does certain things.

But it's also katherine routinely playing games with you. Random games of tag. Making up new rules youve never heard of in checkers that she swears are legit she learned them in mexico. Its secretly throwing games sometimes so she can win and you get to keep playing that game...

Its her snooping through your stuff to get to know you, because while she could just ask, she needs enrichment and snooping is very fun for her.

Its her plopping herself down next to you because she just wants to be around you (even if its picking a fight for attention)

It's her head on your chest as she listens to your heart beat and falls asleep on you.

Its seeing the way she looks at you, with a love so powerful you cant even imagine what it feels like.

its her doing little things to express that she loves you. Thes things vary from doing a chore, to leaving you a present, kissing you randomly, asking to cuddle and watch a movie- its a wide variety she uses to express herself with.

its her asking you to watch videos with her or read to her.

it's finding out all of the little details she knows about you, all the tiny stuff most people don't notice, that she has learned and even likes about you.

its her cooking you one of her 4 known and perfected dishes randomly.

its quiet evenings of just existing in each others company as you do whatever

its play fighting, that turns into a make out session.

its mind blowing sex tbh

Its being loved with a love that was more than love-

its waking up next to this beautifully complex creature and knowing she picked you.

Nah, dating Katherine is not a walk in the park. It takes a very special and dedicated person with a lot of courage to handle this girl. It takes someone with patience. Someone with determination, and the ability to love her at her absolute worst. It takes someone willing to UNDERSTAND that she is not always in control of her behaviors. That she is just as fed up and scared and done with the way shes acting, but shes TRAPPED on the inside of her own head just WATCHING herself tear shit apart and she cant do ANYTHING to stop it.

It takes someone willing to meet her aggression with a gentle hand. It takes someone who will reassure her constantly that they love her and want her. It takes someone who understands that she needs special treatment most people would deem unreasonable or entitled. It's a toxic relationship until you learn the cheat codes to bypass her defense mechanisms. It takes time and dedication. So if you're thinking all of that sounds toxic and terrible, then you honestly don't deserve all the good, all the light she can be when handled properly.

Katherine is a girl who loves harder than most people could even imagine. She's dedicated. Shes smart. Shes a wonderful charismatic person- but she is DAMAGED and requires special care- so if you cant handle the care needs for an exotic animal, it's best you just visit every now and then and let someone whos willing to put in the effort, reap the immense benefits. Dating Katherine, LOVING KATHERINE- it isnt EASY.... but it's WORTH IT.

I'm sure I missed a few things for good AND bad but honestly you get the jist.

[vitaegratis]

@havvkinsqueen “Don’t get me wrong I love winter because the snow is pretty, but it makes me so stiff. My arm and legs are like poles,” she complained as she drew the bath water to soak in.

Eddie gave a sympathetic smile, dumping in a generous amount of bubble bath and getting the tub all - well - bubbly for her. He remembered after her breaks, one of the doctors (or maybe it was a physical therapist?) mentioning that cold intolerance was common after hand fractures. One had to wonder if that extended to other bones as well. Or maybe it was just colder than a witch’s tit outside, and Chrissy was sensitive to that? Maybe both. “Hopefully this’ll get you all relaxed and loosened up. If you want, I can fix you some kind of snack? We can get all cozy on the couch when you’re done…”

[evilstalks]

"No one really looks at me any different. Maybe with a bit more disdain." Michael is not one to open up, has never been one to do so, even before everything happened with the "Mind Flayer", like he has heard it be called. He's had to sign a hundred papers and agreements to not speak about what truly happened that July 4th night, but they never said anything about trauma bonding with someone who went through something nearly identical. "Do you think they look at you different now?" @havvkinsqueen

[edhellfire]

@havvkinsqueen

Hawkins barely survived the events of 1986. Hell, Eddie barely survived the events of 1986. But after the dust settled it was life as usual. It was like no one ever remembered Hawkins had been hell on earth for a minute there. People graduated, people left, some kept in touch, some left Hawkins and everything else behind.

Eddie never quite moved on. He'd left Hawkins, was making a life for himself in Indianapolis but he always made it back to the shit hole. At least once a month he was in Forest Hills visiting his Uncle Wayne who refused to leave that place.

Life in Indianpolis wasn't bad. Eddie found himself a job at a tattoo shop. He just recently started tattooing. Felt like forever to get to that point. He got himself a studio apartment walking distance from his work place - convenient. And he was still making music. Got himself a paying gig every Friday night at a bar close to the university. Word was getting around about him too and he'd gotten called to play at other places. The only downside to the whole thing was that he mostly played covers people requested though every once in a while he'd sneak in an Eddie Munson original.

Life wasn't great but it was way better than anything Eddie could have expected and more than anyone in Hawkins expected from him. Besides, he'd only been out of Hawkins for a little over a year. He was just starting out.

Friday night, he'd closed up shop, went home to shower and headed straight to the bar. He figured if he got there early he could get something to eat while he was there, set up and start drinking early. Those discounts he got were excellent.

[bluejaycarver]

Continued from Here || @havvkinsqueen

Jason took an unconscious step back from Chrissy, his heart pounding as he watched her cough. He kept himself from flapping his hand as a nervous stim, giving her a tight smile despite how viscerally disgusted he was with the idea of being sick. He wanted to keep backing away and go take a shower. It felt like his skin was crawling, and he could already feel the back of his throat tickling with getting the cold himself. He wasn't. but his brain working overtime convinced his body that he absolutely was sick.

Feeling a bit like a deer in the headlights, Jason cleared his throat and tried to find the right words so he didn't make Chrissy feel bad, and didn't sound like an ass.

"Don't touch me," he blurted. Immediately knowing that sure as heck was not the right thing to say. "M-maybe. Wash your hands first. Or change your sweater-- or..." he could feel himself getting more nervous and bit down on his cheek to make sure he didn't stim. His whole body felt stiff, rigid with panic and despair that he couldn't hug his girlfriend.

Instead, he rummaged through his bag and produced a packet of tissues, offering them out but still keeping his distance.

[lcstinfantasy]

Good now, friend! It's good to see you again this week. I want to send you something I know I've sent before but I think it's helpful to remember! You are more like a garden than you are a machine. You need different things on different days- More sun, or more water. More productive one season and less so another. That's not a flaw. You will flower when your time is here, don't compare yourself to someone else because you're different plants. It's day 138 and I'm cheering for you making it to this page! Celebrate something small, celebrate yourself. Make sure to be kind to yourself, and in the meantime; I'm always here if you need it. I'll see you next week.

-- 💜💜 Victoria

vic's friday positivity!

i held on this for a little longer just cause i liked rereading it. i've been beating myself up about not being as active as i use to be. also in love it's been difficult to translate that same feeling into work as well. thank you for the advice my love. as always, i love you.

[tornblackedgcs]

@havvkinsqueen said: but i feel like we have some kind of connection, right?

"connection? i love the ambiguity here. a connection could be anything from someone you sell pot to and then best friends who usually end up in jail together and beyond," charlie tried to make a joke, but all the same the words of the other made him nervous. a good nervous. which was a nice change of pace. "right. right and left. correct. entirely...-yes, on my end- yes, there's a connection." god, he sucked at this.