I need some advice: so me and my friend have been sexting and like we're planning on doing it but lately ive been having some doubts because i dont wanna ruin our friendship but on the other hand i really wanna fuck him. But i know i shouldnt. Idk what to do
Okay, so here’s the thing, dude:
If you think you shouldn’t, then you shouldn’t. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been sexting or if you have a date planned to have sex, if you’re second-guessing, you should not be having sex with him.
That said, I think there’s a level of you’re already sexting so really, you should just not have sex since you’re unsure and instead just make out and take steps that way if you DO really want to have more a friends with benefits thing with him, it’s there, ya know? If you guys can’t have those “smaller” steps without there being some type of tension or friction within your friendship, you’ll have your answer, ya know? But still, this is also only if you WANT to do it like 100%, no second guessing.
Also, you should talk to him. Like, yeah talking about sex can be awkward but if you can’t talk about sex with him should you two be having sex? And, you should talk to him because either A. he’ll understand and y’all can talk it out and it’ll be perfectly fine because he respects you or B. he’s a complete dick and thinks he’s now entitled because you’ve made plans and if that’s the case, you should NOT have sex with him.
Open communication, especially about this, is always going to be your best bet.
(also I mean, I’m assuming y’all are legal, consenting age but if not, literally forget everything I just said and don’t have sex at all because illegal)