ngl it saddens me to see how much Irina is disliked. I love Violet but I can’t hate Irina because she is also a character who is a woman & had her on problems w/her relationship & situation. She was royalty & in a position where she probably feared if she lost her husband she’d also lose her place in society & it would look bad on her as well. You’ve got to hand it to her, she fought to keep him instead of saying let him go run around w/whomever what do I care? We don’t really know how she felt or what she was going thru being married to him. And yeah after many years & probably having to deal w/his other affairs she may have hardened herself & believed that all the women he tried to leave w/were just the same so why should she care for them?
I find Irina utterly fascinating. I can understand the hate - she was in effect set up as the villain of the piece, not aided by her rather terse manner in the 2 minutes that we saw her on the show. I think that's one of the reasons why the Christmas Special was such a monumental let down - not only did we get no substantial emotional conclusion between Violet and Igor, but we got no conclusion between Violet and Irina either. It was a situation pregnant with possibilities, and with two amazing actresses, and there was nothing. It just felt like such a waste of talent and situation.
Everything about Irina is interesting; she's a wronged woman in so many ways. His affair(s), the loss of her old life in the revolution, being shipped off to Hong Kong, and then everything compounded in its awfulness by the fact that it's Violet, Igor's former mistress, the woman he wanted to leave her for, being the one to rescue her, and then having to wear her clothes. It's like hit, after hit, after hit - she has literally nothing left but whatever modicum of pride that's still inside her. That's amazing. She walked into that reception room at the Dower House with such a powerful presence and demeanor that Violet, VIOLET!!! stepped back. And she managed that in one of Violet's hand me down dresses. A dress from the woman her husband was and still is in love with.
I have my own theories about Irina, and her marriage. I think what's clear is that there must have been love there at some stage, but something went wrong. At no stage is it mentioned that the Kuragins had children - which might well be an issue, if she couldn't conceive. I also sort of wonder if perhaps, like Igor, she'd fallen in love with someone else too and it hadn't worked out, so when it came to him falling for Violet, she was so determined to stop him from leaving - that she wanted to deny him what had been denied her. I do think appearances had a lot to do with it too. Marriage was a big damn deal in Russian society, with divorce extremely hard to get - and invariably, women bore the burnt of society's outrage for it, even if the man was in the wrong. It makes perfect sense that she'd put up a fight to protect her reputation and place in society.