Am I The Asshole for asking my boyfriend to stop being friends with his ex-gf?
i dont wanna seem controlling by asking him this, but im genuinely terrified that im gonna lose him to her. i've never met her, so idk what her intentions are, and i dont wanna meet her because a lot of the time, girls will lie to get what they want.
my boyfriend is madly attractive, and if i know the girls at our school, they'll do anything to get with a guy like him. he's attractive, strong, smart, funny, anything that anyone would find attractive. i dont care if he promises "i'd never do anything to hurt you," or "im not gonna let anyone try anything" because most of the time, something happens and i get cheated on. it's not that i dont trust him, cus i do. i dont trust her.
im scared. i dont wanna lose him to her. but, at the same time, i dont want him to think im trying to control who he hangs out with. i just..... i dont know. im terrified and i need help.
edit: he wasnt mad. apparently she cheated on him and they left on bad terms (but they're still friends cus he would rather be friends with an ex than an enemy ?) so we should be fine :]
another edit (06/24/23 0154hrs):
i broke up with him in May because he
1) called me controlling for asking him to stop talking to a girl that i god bad vibes from
2) accused me of cheating, said some people had told him i was cheating on him and that i wanted to leave but couldnt because i was scared to; when i asked who said it, he just said "people" which turned to "people i trust/have known longer than you"
and 3) when i asked him the next day why he said what he did abt the me cheating bullshit, he said (and i quote) "nobody said any of that, i was just mad at you for no reason."
he used me. he hurt me in such a way that you would've thought i attempted that night cus i was sick of everything, and that didnt hurt him whatsoever. hurting me never hurt him, therefore he used me. i was, dare i say, in love with him, but he didnt love me back. he was emotionally and mentally abusive, a user, and just an all around shitty human being. im glad i caught on as quickly as i did.
im doing a LOT better now, with someone who is mutually obsessed with me as i am with him. he's the sweetest human being and honestly, i think i found my genuine soulmate. i know he would never hurt or betray me at all. im glad.
i found my reason to live ♡
