Hi! Been so long since I sent an ask. Hope you are doing well. I saw this list of questions and I want to know what's your headcanon on GSR and why. Always looking forward to your answers.
• Who's the cuddler?
• Who makes the bed?
• Who wakes up first?
• Who has the weird taste in music?
• Who is more protective?
• Who sings in the shower?
• Who cries during movies?
• Who spends the most while out shopping?
• Who kisses more roughly?
• Who is more dominant? ( in bed?)
• Rating of the ship from 1-10.
hi, @hiei29!
good to hear from you! i hope you’re well, too.
to the surprise of literally no one, my answers ran long.
under the “keep reading” for those interested.
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who's the cuddler?
they both are.
i mean, it’s canon.
considering how physically affectionate with each other they have always been even since long before they had any right to be, i’ve just gotta believe that once they’re actually able to be with each other in the way that they’ve always wanted and can express their feelings more directly through physical touch without having to censor and/or restrain themselves, they take every opportunity to do so.
i imagine that they watch movies curled up together on the couch, that in bed they spoon, that they constantly swoop in to give each other little hugs throughout the day, etc., etc.
they’ve been violating each other’s personal space since day #1—it’s part of their love language with each other—so i’m pretty convinced that once they’re married, they’re just all over each other as much as they can be.
who makes the bed?
i think they make it together.
no elaborate reason why—they just wake up together and go to sleep together, so it makes sense that they would, and especially since (at least when they’re living on land) it’s a big, ol’ king-sized mattress, so it’d be easier to get the fitted sheet and quilt on with two people than one.
and we know they do make their bed based on what we see in episodes 06x24 “way to go” and 07x22 “leapin’ lizards.”
who wakes up first?
i think they usually wake up together.
i mean, after all, for years they work the same shift, so unless one of them gets called in early, they typically have to go to work at the same time, so it’d make sense to just set one alarm.
on some occasions, one of them might have trouble sleeping and get up before the other one does. but most days, i think it’s fairly simultaneous.
who has the weird taste in music?
i don’t think either one of them has a musical taste that is particularly “out there.”
grissom primarily listens to classical music and opera and also has broad familiarity with “the music of his childhood” (i.e., pop music from the 50s, 60s, and 70s). sara seems to be kind of a top-40 radio kinda gal whose preferences crystallized when she was young in the 70s, 80s, and 90s.
while of course classical and opera music aren’t everyone’s favorite genres and pop has its fair share of detractors, all of it is pretty standard. it’s not like either one of them is into super underground/indie/experimental stuff.
who is more protective?
they’re both incredibly protective of each other.
while we’ve had more opportunity in canon to see grissom be physically protective of sara (see episode 01x23 “the strip strangler,” for example) than she be physically protective of him, we have had the chance to see her be emotionally protective of him, both in the face of his own doubts and self-criticisms (see episode 02x05 “scuba doobie-doo”) and others who would try to disparage his character (see reboot episode 01x04 “long pig,” when she defends his reputation to nora cross).
time and time again, the show has proven that these two will go to the mat for each other’s sakes—they just tend to go about doing so somewhat differently, based on differing emotional needs.
due to sara’s traumatic history, she needs grissom to make her feel safe, both physically and emotionally. due to grissom’s poor self-esteem, he needs sara to buoy him up and champion him.
his protection of her manifests more in the form of “i’m going to be a shield for you. i won’t let anything hurt you.” hers for him manifests more as “i’m going to be your life vest. i’ll keep your head above water when the swimming gets tough.” they each meet each other’s emotional needs in this way.
who sings in the shower?
it’s canon that sara sings to herself (see episode 01x16 “too tough to die”), so i tend to think it’s probably her.
side note: whatever you do, don’t think about the fact that sara probably originally developed a habit of singing to herself out of loneliness—as a way to fill the silence of living by herself and having no one to talk to when she wasn’t on the job.
while grissom sings to sara sometimes—and god love that he does—i don’t imagine he sings much without her as his audience, whereas she probably sings just whenever the mood strikes her. (as she tells nick, it’s a subconscious habit, and half the time, she doesn’t even realize that she’s doing it.)
side note: whatever you do, do think about how grissom probably loves few things more than walking by the bathroom and catching a snatch of sara’s voice mingling with the sound of the running water as she croons out some 90s song he’s never heard before but suddenly finds himself inordinately fond of.
who cries during movies?
the girl who feels sympathy for the monster in the monster movies, anyone?
i mean, sara is just a crier kinda in general. she’s quick to tears when she’s angry, when she’s sad, when she’s scared, when she’s happy, and basically any time she experiences strong emotion of any kind—she just has a reactive temperament, you know? very much wears her heart on her sleeve—so it’d make sense that she’d cry over movies, too.
thankfully, grissom is always there to wipe her tears and kiss her head and make some purposefully horrific pun in order to get her laughing afterward.
who spends the most while out shopping?
prior to getting together with grissom, sara had been poor for her entire life—as the child of mentally-ill, alcoholic hospitality workers who ran their own business out of their home, she likely spent the first few years of her life living around or below the poverty line, a situation which wasn’t improved upon once she entered the notoriously underfunded us foster care system; then, she got out of the foster system at age sixteen with literally just the clothes on her back and maybe a few personal items to her name and had to spend most of her formative years scrimping and saving to “climb out of the hole,” first while going to college and graduate school full-time and then while working what is (as the canon of the early seasons often reminds us) a relatively low-paying job while still not yet fully credentialed*—so i tend to think she is pretty frugal.
* remember, baby girl didn’t become a csi level iii until sometime after she moved to vegas, so she didn’t get the raise nick and warrick talk about in the pilot until at least 2000/2001; she was still getting a more entry-level salary prior to that point.
she’s probably spent her whole life budgeting and thrifting and just generally trying to make her money stretch as far as possible, using what little “extra” she may make to pay off loans and make “rainy day” purchases when needed.
that so, i just can’t imagine she’s ever very comfortable making big purchases, even once she does move into a higher income bracket, just because it’s so ingrained in her to save, save, save.
meanwhile, while i don’t think grissom is by any means a big spender himself and certainly is not someone who throws his money around carelessly AT ALL*, i do think that since (at least in adulthood) he is fairly financially comfortable, to the point where he is accustomed to having disposable income, he is disposed to spend a little bit more for the sake of quality.
* though he admits to having spent money somewhat more recklessly in college, purchasing cadavers and fetal pigs for the sake of his experiments, i think he’s grown out of that habit as he’s matured, particularly now that he can get access to much of the scientific equipment that he needs through the lab.
though not an everyday thing, he will “put in the extra penny” for big-ticket items like furniture, cars, appliances, etc.* in order to make sure that what he’s getting lasts, and when he does, i don’t think he feels bad about it whatsoever.
* for example, we know that at one point he drove a mercedes (see episode 02x21 “anatomy of a lye”), and the furniture in his apartment is all high-end leather.
conversely, sara, who, even though she has moved up the economic ladder both by virtue of advancing her career and marrying someone more financially solvent than herself*, is still always kind of that poor girl at heart, probably has trouble justifying purchases with too many zeroes on the price tag, even if doing so will be “an investment in quality.”
* of course, we don’t know if grissom and sara ever do combine their bank accounts.
while i don’t think it’s something they necessarily fight about, i do think there are times when they’ll be considering a big purchase and grissom will have to present a fairly compelling argument to sara as to why it’s actually worthwhile for them to buy new rather than used or name brand rather than generic.
though in time, i think she does start to see the logic of buying something nicer (but pricier) that lasts longer—the whole “sam vimes boots theory”—and especially because they do actually have the means to do so, and so becomes easier to persuade in this regard, i also imagine that that old “save, don’t spend” instinct never fully goes away for her.
so even if in practice neither one of them is actually too much of a spendthrift, grissom is the one who is more mentally disposed toward spending, whereas sara is pretty resistant to it.
who kisses more roughly?
they’re not rough with each other physically, like, at all.
passionate at times, yes, but given sara’s family history, i don’t think either one of them is really comfortable introducing any kind of aggression/pain into their intimate behaviors, including kissing.
grissom would rather die than hurt or scare sara in any way, and sara’s whole mo with grissom is just to be so soft and gentle with him.
so to my mind, it’s just not in their lexicon of physical touch to be bruising or hard or rough with each other.
i mean, we can see in canon that even with their big parting and reunion kisses, while they may be intense/desperate/pleading/emotional, they’re not cracking teeth or drawing blood or blurring lines between aggression and affection.
as i talk about here,
one only need look at how grissom expresses love for sara outside of bedroom [or in this case, kissing] contexts in order to get a feel for what love is to him: this is a man who speaks to his wife using all manner of tender endearments, who is incredibly protective of her, who wants her to feel safe with him, who strives to place her needs ahead of his own, who delights in nothing more than making her smile, who treats her with respect, and who is just generally so incredibly soft with her on the whole that it seems incredibly unlikely that he would ever be comfortable with (let alone actively interested in) introducing any kind of harshness or degradation or violence even of a controlled variety into their sex life [or kisses]—and especially not because he knows that sara grew up in a home where intimate partner violence was a norm and that she is therefore incredibly averse to unequal power dynamics, as well as to aggressive sexual behaviors, between romantic partners.
what he wants is to care for her and make her feel good, showing her how much he loves her through his attention to her needs.
that's what gets him going.
that's the whole point of sex [and showing any kind of physical affection to her], as far as he's concerned.
—which is also where sara's at, as well...
like grissom, she wants their sex life [and kissing] to be about connection and expressing love to each other and building each other up.
again, one need only look at how she treats grissom outside of bedroom [and kissing] situations to see what love is to her: she is gentle with him and his feelings, she tries to bolster him and encourage him to feel good about himself, she is consistently soft in how she touches him, she loves making him smile, she's defensive of him to others, and she is open about showing him just how much she delights in the things that he does, always wanting him to know just how happy he makes her.
so the way i see things, while they’ve had plenty of electrifying kisses over the course of their relationship, “rough” isn’t a descriptor that would generally apply to them.
for them, passion translates to something that is intense but still gentle.
who is more dominant in bed?
like my answer above, i don’t think “dominant” is a word that really applies with them once they get together, either sexually or otherwise.
theirs is a very equal partnership, and neither one of them is necessarily “more powerful” than the other.
to quote again from the post just linked in the last answer,
while grissom does find bdsm fascinating from an anthropological perspective—just like he finds all aspects of human sexuality (including furry culture, swinging, staging elaborate fantasy scenes, various fetishes, etc.) fascinating—i don't think he gets off on the idea of manipulating sexual power dynamics or on inflicting or receiving pain as part of sex himself...
[likewise,] due to her family history, i just can't see sara ever being all right with the idea of deliberately introducing power imbalances into what she and grissom do in the bedroom, either, nor with enacting any kind of violence while they're in the act. she gets really freaked out by male aggression—just see how triggered she is in episode 01x10 "sex, lies, & larvae"—and doesn't find domineering behavior attractive in the least. seeing the way her dad treated her mom, there's just nothing sexy about one partner controlling another in her mind...
not only would she never herself want to be dominated, but she'd also never for her part want to dominate grissom—not when she knows how he struggles with his self-esteem and how much he wants to please her; not when he's so precious with and sweet to her. she has no desire for them to humiliate or harm each other, even within boundaries.
while i do believe that, due to the fact that (as i headcanon things) grissom is demisexual and sara is allosexual, and she is somewhat more sexually confident than he is, particularly at the start of their sexual relationship, she is often the “initiator” of their sexual encounters, i also don’t believe that’s always necessarily the case.
grissom definitely gets ideas all on his own and starts things going frequently.
i also think that when they’re together, it’s not situation where one of them is the “top” or “bottom” all the time or where one is more enthusiastic and/or adventuresome and/or intrepid than the other. they both enjoy their sex life a lot and probably alternate the roles and actions they take depending on circumstances, mood, etc.
i’m sure there are times when sara comes onto grissom very strongly, saying something provocative as she takes him by the hand to pull him away from whatever project he’s working on, guiding him down so she can straddle him on the couch, just like i am sure there are times when grissom looks at sara from across the room and all of a sudden is all silent, steely determination, coming over to her and kissing her all the way into the bedroom, peeling her clothes off of her as they go.
I don't know if I should ask but I am asking anyway 😁
Watching CV 01x04 The Long Pig again (for the nth time) and I am fairly convince that Sara & Gil have the same frame on their eyeglasses.
Because when Nora Cross gave Gil the access to the case files, he wore his glasses. Then when Gil informed Sara that he got access to the case file from Nora Cross, she was wearing the same glasses. I don't think the glasses teleported to Sara after Gil wore them.
Am I correct or am I hallucinating? 🤣
Appreciate your response. Always 😊
hi, @hiei29!
while there are indeed two pairs of glasses in episode 01x04 "long pig"—the ones grissom wears when nora cross gives him the files at pd and the ones sara is wearing when he comes home to her at the hotel later that night—i tend to believe that both of them belong to grissom.
my reasoning?
like many people entering their fifties, sara seems to be developing the first stages of farsightedness*—see, for example, in reboot episode 01x08 "pipe cleaner," how she holds her phone away from her face in order to be able to read the screen when the undersheriff calls her—however, we never actually see her wear glasses aside from during the scene in question, a point which suggests she doesn't actually own a pair of her own.
* outside of the universe of the show, jorja fox of course regularly wears glasses, not just for reading but across the board.
baby girl isn't vain, so if she had glasses, she'd wear them, especially while at the lab working on the investigation, having to read over official documents with small, cramped print.
the fact that she doesn't whip out a pair of "cheaters" every time park or penny passes her a printout of test results therefore suggests that she doesn't actually have any to be whipped out.
ipso facto, both pairs of glasses in episode 01x04 "long pig" are most likely grissom's.
like many an "absentminded professor" with a tendency to get distracted and leave pairs of spectacles lying in random places around the houseboat, baby boy likely owns at least two pairs of reading glasses, in this case, one of which he takes with him to pd for his interview with nora cross and the other of which he leaves back at the hotel, lying on the nightstand.
it is this latter pair that sara commandeers and is wearing at the time when he comes in to present her with the files.
as for why sara doesn't own her own glasses even though she seems to (at least occasionally) need them:
if her farsightedness is something that's fairly recent in its onset, then she may not yet be to the point where she has actually gone to the ophthalmologist and gotten prescribed glasses of her own.
instead, she probably just "borrows" grissom's glasses as needed, a system that generally works for them when they're living in tight quarters on the ishmael, probably with a pair of his prescription readers in every compartment of the cabin, within easy reaching distance, but which breaks down a bit when they go to vegas and suddenly their work and their residence are, for the first time in many years, in two separate places—hence why we do occasionally see sara squinting to read things while they're on the job.
while admittedly it could be possible that sara has glasses of her own (and that she just so happened to choose the exact same frames as grissom), i personally favor the idea that she is an opportunistic glasses thief not only for the practical reasons outlined above but because of the cute factor.
imagine after the dozenth time grissom walks into the berth on the ishmael to find sara in bed, reading a novel and wearing his glasses:
“you know, we could get you a pair of your own, darlin’.”
“i don’t need one; i have you.”
thanks for the question! please feel welcome to send another any time.
I have always been curious on the possible conversations between CSI Team Graveyard when they found out about GSR after Sara's Rescue (Living Doll/Dead Doll). I have read a couple of fanfics but I am interested in your headcanon.
Do you think all of them readily accepted GSR as a couple or there is/are person/s that might blame Grissom for Sara's abduction? If Grissom isn't dating Sara, Natalie would not have kidnapped Sara.
Do you think Catherine or Brass would have been upset that Gil did not tell her/him about GSR even though they have been friends for a long time?
Will there be someone who will remember a memory that confirms GSR has been ON for a long time?
Will Team GY help in confronting Ecklie not to be stringent regarding lab policy when it comes to GSR? so Ecklie will not fire GSR...
Will Team GY found out that GSR is living together?
Will they be shocked about GSR living together?
Is there anyone in Team GY including Brass/Robins/Super Dave that have suspicions and has proven that they/he/she is/are correct?
Do you think Brass would have mentioned the interrogation scene in Butterflied (04x12), in which he will tell to Team GY as evidence of Grissom's deep love for Sara?
Do you think Catherine would have been horrified with her Lady Heather scoop to Sara during TGTBTD since she found out about GSR?
Do you Greg/Nick/Warrick will be jealous or resentful to Grissom because of GSR?
Who will pry Grissom away from Sara's hospital bed so he can get food and sleep?
Do you someone will go to GSR home to get clothes/toiletries for Sara/Grissom and make sure Hank gets a dog sitter? If yes, will this someone do a little snooping inside GSR's home?
Will anyone confront Sara for not telling them about GSR since they can't confront their Boss Grissom?
Do you think Ecklie has a prior conversation with Grissom before Ala Carte (08x02) since Grissom would need approval for his LOA to take care of Sara during her recovery?
Do you think Hodges will be full of himself telling anyone who can hear that he knew all along about GSR?
Do you have headcanon dialogue about my questions?
Sorry about my very long ASK.
I always appreciate your response
hi, @hiei29!
so in order to tackle this litany of questions, first we have to acknowledge that not only does canon not give us much information to go off of regarding the issue of “the team finding out about and reacting to news of grissom and sara's romantic relationship following sara’s abduction” but what little information it does give us is more complicating (and confounding) than helpful.
obviously, in the moment when grissom blurts out that natalie is targeting sara in order to take away “the only person [he] ever loved” as an act of retribution for the death of ernie dell, we only briefly get to see team graveyard's stunned (silent) expressions before grissom then immediately remembers the detail about forum user noturlittlebisquedoll and rushes out of the room, leaving both the team and the moment behind, after which point both the investigation and the episode move on.
from then on, there is never really a second of pause in the desperate rush to rescue sara until she's actually found and safe, so the team can't really afford to take any time to react or process the news of grissom and sara's romance, much less ask questions about its logistics or try to retroactively fit pieces of the puzzle together, until the events of episode 08x01 “dead doll” are concluded.
unfortunately, because the episode ends with sara's rescue—and even her rescue still in progress, as she has yet to arrive at the hospital at the point when the episode actually concludes—we are never then given access to the immediate aftermath (if there is any) to grissom's gsr revelation to the team, and particularly not as, within the universe of the show, there is over a four-month time jump between the events of episode 08x01 “dead doll” (which takes place, in-universe, on 05.18.07) and the events of episode 08x02 “a la cart” (which takes place, in-universe, on 10.04.07), which purposefully skips over any kind of fallout there might be during that timeframe.
however, while it might be natural for us as fans to assume that there is fallout during that four-month period of time that we simply don't have access to, the show itself then complicates this notion by what it presents in episode 08x02 “a la cart,” when sara first returns to work and we are shown our initial glimpses of how things have shaken out for team graveyard in this new “post-gsr reveal” era.
as i talk about here,
in some ways, the idea that sara is away from the lab (and grissom away with her, for the most part) for over four months seems very viable, but in others, it’s difficult to accept.
on the one hand, it does make sense that after enduring such intense physical and psychological trauma—severe dehydration; broken bones; shock; severe sunburn; numerous abrasions and lacerations to the face, hands, and arms; possibly internal injuries and organ damage; etc.; to say nothing of the ptsd—sara would not return to work for several months, and particularly not as her job is one that requires lots of stamina and dexterity to fulfill.
however, on the other hand, if over four months really do elapse between those two episodes, then sara should, by all accounts, be much farther along in her physical recovery process when she returns to the lab than what we’re shown, specifically in terms of her facial injuries...
moreover, one would think that there would have been more discussion about her and grissom’s relationship by their coworkers in the time while they were away from work than what little there seems to have been.
are we really to believe that in over four months of knowing about grissom and sara’s romance, nick and greg have never discussed the subject with each other and compared notes prior to the events of episode 08x02 “a la cart”? if so, it seems odd that they haven’t.
from a storytelling perspective, it’s understandable that the writers wanted to save some of the questions surrounding this “brave new world” of grissom and sara’s romance being a known entity to their teammates and employers to be answered at a point when the audience was actually around to hear what got said rather than just dropping us into a situation where the answers had already long been given, as doing so allowed them to play off of the anticipation and curiosity we felt in a productive way in-episode.
i mean, that moment when we first start to see sara walking toward ecklie’s office but we’re not shown her full person right away is just a fun tease, you know?
however, the fact that said questions are shown to still be lingering four plus months after the fact in show time is also, frankly, weird and does in some ways strain credulity, just in terms of human behavior.
like.
had the events of episode 08x02 “a la cart” taken place six weeks after sara’s rescue, that would’ve been one thing, but since they take place over four months later, that’s another.
by that point, it’s just odd that there seemingly hasn’t been any larger conversation among the members of team graveyard regarding grissom and sara’s romance. it’s odd that ecklie apparently hasn’t been able to pin grissom down to talk since his return to work. it’s odd that whatever disciplinary action the department is going to take against grissom and sara for their violation of lab policy hasn’t already been decided upon and implemented. it’s odd that everyone is just starting to determine how they feel about grissom and sara being a couple, as if they’d only found out about that they were one very recently.
and all that oddness makes it difficult for us as viewers to figure out how to interpret the whole situation.
there’s so much that just plain gets skipped over, falling into the time gap between those two episodes, never to be brought up again.
there’s so much that given the existence of that time gap just doesn’t really make much “real world” sense.
and even beyond what is skipped and what is nonsensical, there’s also this—i don’t know quite how to describe it—but almost outright refusal on the parts of the writers to see some of the plot hints they’d made previously through to their logical narrative conclusions, as doing so would require them to place more mainline focus on a romantic relationship than they were at that time comfortable giving.
like.
in s7, it is consistently implied that grissom and sara have good reason to fear that various teammates (including nick, warrick, and catherine) might, once they found out about it, be upset with them for lying about their relationship and/or not approve of said relationship, given the fact that they work together. however, come s8, we are never given any indication that anyone on team graveyard is at all upset to learn that grissom and sara are together and that they’ve been lying through their teeth to everyone about their entire lifestyle for the last 2+ years. there’s no sense that anyone feels at all betrayed or confused or offended or even has any professional qualms about the potential legal implications of their actions.
i mean, what grissom and sara did is something their friends could have reacted to both personally and professionally, possibly taking issue with it on the level of “we’re supposedly friends, but you guys lied about something super important for a very long time. how are we going to trust you after this?” AND/OR on the level of “you guys lied about something that affects us all professionally. your relationship status might call into question the legitimacy of cases we solved together. it could lead to overturned verdicts. lawsuits. hurt the overall reputation of the department. affect the future of our team. and you guys made us complicit in this whole mess, just by virtue of our association with you. you unilaterally decided that you were okay taking on these risks without giving us any opportunity to weigh in on that choice, let alone decide for ourselves. what right do you have to play with our work and our careers that way?”
and yet the show never got anywhere close to broaching these issues or depicting these potential reactions, despite having raised the possibility for them previously.
see, for example, in episode 07x13 “redrum,” sara and warrick’s conversation about how sara hates deceiving people and warrick hates being deceived, which obviously has some big potential gsr implications and yet is never followed up on in any way after warrick becomes aware of grissom and sara’s deception following episode 07x24 “living doll.”
in a way, it’s like the writers were saying, “grissom and sara were worried that their friends would be mad if they found out. but guess what? they weren’t! of course everyone is just happy that they’re happy. yay love! good guys would never be against love.”
—which would maybe be a fine conclusion for the storyline to have arrived at eventually; a kind of “all’s well that ends well,” “eventually everyone came around to it” kind of beat.
but the thing is, not only do we not see any exploration of any more complicated feelings about the gsr reveal play out on our screens in episode 08x02 “a la cart” or later episodes, but there’s really also no suggestion that such feelings may have existed at any point during the time gap between episodes 08x01 “dead doll” and episode 08x02 “a la cart,” either. there’s no indication that anyone ever had to “go on a journey” to arrive at the point of being okay with everything that happened.
and the fact that there isn’t is, again, given previous characterization cues, frankly, odd.
while in general, the writing of the early seasons is solid, this place is one where i personally find it weak because there was story there to be told, but the writers deliberately avoided telling it because they didn’t want to delve into something that could potentially be messy or awkward.
this is one place where they dropped the ball by not probing deep enough.
and that’s not to say it’s entirely unrealistic that the team would eventually be accepting of gsr, and especially not four months in to them having found out the truth, but it is to say that the show doesn’t even bother to justify why everyone is being so cool about the issue; it just presents it as a given that they are.
there’s really no characterization work done to show how characters who had previously expressed opinions that at least suggested that they might be opposed in principle to two of their coworkers having an illicit office romance—for example, catherine, who had always been outspokenly against the concept of “fishing off of the company pier,” or nick, who has always gotten his feelings hurt when lied to (see episode 07x13 “redrum”)—could have plausibly come around to accept grissom and sara’s coupledom by the time that the events of episode 08x02 “a la cart” are taking place.
it’s all just very much glossed over.
what we get is a complete nonreaction from the team going both backwards and forwards across the narrative line.
the storytelling just plain “doesn’t go there,” either to justify why it is that everyone is okay with what happened OR to show that maybe everyone isn’t so chill with how things were handled after all.
there’s nothing to show that it currently is or even ever that it might have been difficult for greg, who has always had a crush on sara, to come around to the idea of her being with grissom or that catherine might resent grissom for jeopardizing the integrity of the team in order to date one of their subordinates. it’s just assumed that everyone finds the situation copacetic (and that they always have) because, really, why wouldn’t they? the narrative acts as if the question doesn’t even need to be asked, let alone answered.
the subject just basically gets dropped after the events of episode 08x02 “a la cart.” from then on, it’s just accepted that grissom and sara are together and that everyone is cool with the fact that they are.
the new normal is already firmly in place, bearing no residual evidence of how it came to be that way to begin with.
so.
all of the above is to say, answering your questions is going to be difficult because there is such a dearth of discussion in canon on this topic. very little is even actually implied, and, really, we have more questions than answers.
the best we’re really going to be able to do is to wildly speculate.
with that disclaimer in place, if you’re interested in wild speculation, discussion after the “keep reading,” below.
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we’ll take your questions one at a time, okay?
do you think everyone on team graveyard readily accepts grissom and sara as a couple? is anyone upset either about them getting together or the manner in which they did so?
as per what we see in canon, it seems like everyone does accept grissom and sara as a couple—or at least we’re not shown anyone who outwardly objects—by the time the events of episode 08x02 “a la cart” are taking place.
that said, as i mentioned above, just because “blanket acceptance” is what we seem to see in canon at that point doesn’t mean a) that’s necessarily what we should see—or at least that it’s not what should be shown to us without some explanation—OR b) that things necessarily always were that way.
there is actually a lot of canonical evidence to suggest that various members of team graveyard could or even should have been upset with the news of grissom and sara’s relationship for various reasons, at least to start out with.
certainly the show itself never touches on the issue, but the possibility does exist that at least somebody—if not multiple somebodies—might’ve been upset with grissom and sara initially and we just didn’t get to see it during that four-month time gap.
as mentioned above, catherine has frequently over the years expressed her patent disapproval of workplace relationships, opining that they never work in the long term and often foment awkwardness in the workplace when they inevitably flame out (see episodes 04x12 “butterflied,” 06x03 “bite me,” and 07x23 “the good, the bad, & the dominatrix”), so it stands to reason that she at least potentially might not be thrilled with the idea that two of her coworkers had been having a romantic relationship on company time—and especially not when their doing so could possibly have ramifications for the team, their cases, and even her own career trajectory.
she also just might not understand the relationship itself as a concept.
by s7/s8, catherine and sara have finally developed a pretty good working rapport with each other and certainly get along much better than they did when sara first moved to vegas. however, that’s not to say catherine would necessarily get why grissom would choose sara for his romantic partner and/or approve of his choice.
as i talk about here,
specifically for catherine, while she has over the last few years come to respect sara a lot more than she did when sara first arrived in vegas, she has also always had this kind of view of sara as a “kid,” remaining highly aware that she’s got 10+ years of life and work experience up on her.
in all honesty, though she has come to view sara as a friend on her own terms, she’s never quite understood grissom’s attraction to sara and has only been able to rationalize it as a kind of “okay, well, he’s obviously going through a midlife crisis” deal; otherwise, it hasn’t really computed for her why someone his age might want to be with someone who’s still so incredibly young (and, in her view, oftentimes markedly immature).
while i can see paths down which catherine could eventually be persuaded to support the relationship—in the 20+ years of their friendship, never has she seen grissom so happy, and the fact that he is is worth something to her—and even to accept that her general opposition to “fishing off of the company pier” as a practice notwithstanding, gsr is somehow an “exception to the rule,” i don’t necessarily think it would be automatic for her to feel entirely at ease with the situation.
like.
yes, in episode 08x01 “dead doll,” she is going to reassure grissom of the chances of sara’s survival and play the part of the good, supportive best friend, showing up to help him find the love of his life with nothing but words of encouragement and actions of aid, and she’s definitely going to be thrilled and relieved and happy when sara is eventually rescued, but in the days and weeks afterward, might she wonder what the hell grissom was thinking in getting involved with a subordinate (and especially one fifteen years his junior)? could she possibly be pissed that grissom and sara had undermined the work of the team and the lab through their reckless behavior? might she be somewhat judgmental about their choices? feel just kind of bewildered that they of all people had ended up together? just plain not see what appeal sara would hold for grissom as a life partner, given her youth and (seeming) immaturity?
sure. certainly. no doubt.
i mean, i’m not saying she’d be actively anti-gsr or that she’d hold a grudge about what happened (and particularly not forever), but i am saying there is at least the potential with her for some more complicated feelings about the issue than what the canon narrative actually depicts.
she might have to process some things. make a conscious decision along the lines of, “you know what? i’m just gonna have to let this go because done is done. they did what they did, and now whatever happens, we’re all just gonna have to deal with it.” just take a deep breath and move onto the next thing.
i mean, it’s a real possibility that she wouldn’t just immediately be on board with this whole sea change.
the same goes for warrick, who, as mentioned above, has in the past expressed his resentment at being deceived and who might then experience at least some initial upset that grissom and sara had not only lied to him and the rest of the team but had done so for so fucking long.
while i think he’d be less perplexed at the fact of the relationship itself than catherine might be—he has a good enough read on grissom and sara both to recognize some of the more deep-seated ways that they’re compatible—he still might not feel as if grissom and sara were justified in playing roulette with everyone’s careers and the integrity of the team in the ways that they did. much as is the case in episode 07x13 “redrum,” he might be offended that they had essentially chosen to make him complicit in something that could potentially affect his future without giving him the choice to opt out.
again, that’s not to say that there’s no way he might ever forgive them or that he couldn’t eventually come around to see why they felt they had to do things in the manner that they did, but it is to say (once again) that it’s not necessarily a foregone conclusion that he might take some umbrage to the way they’d chosen to conduct themselves.
he very much could be annoyed that they’d lied and he might require an apology before he could be expected to come around to them being together as a concept.
he might be somewhat hurt that they’d felt the need to lie in the first place (i.e., “we trust you with everything. why couldn’t you have trusted us with this?”).
along those same lines, out of everyone, nick has the perhaps the greatest potential for upset about gsr.
again, looking to episode 07x13 “redrum” as a guide, we can see that nick takes it hard when his team family lies to him, not only on a professional level but also on a personal one.
he might really have a hard time understanding how grissom and sara could justify going to such extraordinary lengths to keep everyone ignorant of their living situation—it’s no small feat to hide the fact that you’re cohabitating from your team of trained observer coworkers; there’s some real and deliberate planning that would go into maintaining that kind of illusion for as long as they did—and find that it was difficult for him to trust them going forward, questioning how much he really actually knew them at all.
he might be angry that they felt they couldn’t trust the team to have their backs and keep their secret for them or at least support them in bringing the truth of their relationship to the administration.
he might start to second-guess significant moments from his history with the two of them, wondering how many of their interactions with him were really “real.”
while, again, i don’t think it’s entirely unrealistic that eventually he could come around to being okay with the whole situation—and especially after he got to see “gsr in action” and realize that grissom and sara were still basically the same grissom and sara he had always known, not significantly different as a couple than they were “individually”—he might be the member of team graveyard who needed the most time to cool off in the wake of everything; the hardest sell, as things were.
either before grissom and sara got back to work or afterward, he might end up having some kind of outburst of the “how could they/you lie to us like that, man?” variety. then afterward, he might be standoffish with them for a while, acting curt toward one or both of them when they were forced to work together.
eventually, he might end up having to hash it out with one or both of them, confronting them about the breach in trust.
like warrick, he might require an apology before he felt things were okay.
of course, canon gives us no indication that nick is at all upset by grissom and sara’s choices or that he ever was, as he is (quite literally) the first person who greets them in their public debut as a couple in episode 08x02 “a la cart” and is nothing but warm and accepting toward them when he does so.
but that’s one of those areas where i feel like the show glossed over something that maybe should have been interrogated more.
certainly, nick’s prior characterization to that point suggested that he of all people might find it especially difficult to swallow not necessarily grissom and sara’s relationship itself but definitely the way they’d gone about conducting it.
as for greg, while i don’t think he’d necessarily be shocked to learn that gsr was a thing—as i talk about here, he of everyone on the team has perhaps had the most “up close and personal” view of grissom and sara’s dynamic over the last several years, so once he actually figures out what’s what, he can probably look back in retrospect and identify a lot of previously ambiguous evidence for what it actually was—i also don’t think he would necessarily be thrilled to learn the truth that they were together, either.
while he might not be as annoyed about the principle of thing as catherine or as personally hurt about as nick, i still think the news that grissom and sara were together might kinda knock the wind out of him, just given his feelings toward sara.
as i talk about here, sara has always sort of been greg’s dream girl and while after s4/s5, he has mostly given up on ever having any actual chance with her romantically (settling comfortably into the position of being her platonic best friend), i still think it’s probably a situation where learning that she is with grissom throws him for a loop.
much like catherine talks about in episode 06x01 “bodies in motion,” the great thing about a fantasy is “the possibility that it might come true,” so having that possibility taken away “sucks.”
sara has always kind of been greg’s fantasy, so it might potentially be a bit rough on him to realize she was “off the market,” and especially in such a serious way—and particularly given the grissom of it all.
knowing that his long-time crush is in a long-term, committed relationship with their boss, whom he thinks of as a father figure, probably messes with his head on freudian levels. like. if he was having anxiety dreams about having sex with sara while grissom was watching/scrutinizing him before (see 05x16 “big middle”), one can only imagine what he’s dreaming about now.
ultimately, while i don’t think his hurt/upset would run very deep, it still might cause him to act a bit squirrelly around grissom and sara once they got back to the lab after their leave, at least at first.
as for brass’s reaction, i think of everyone he might be the most understanding.
after all, he has himself in the past had an “office affair” of his own (see episode 05x20 “hollywood brass”), so i think he’d very much get that when two people in a high-intensity job work together closely for a long period of time, sometimes sparks fly.
while he might be confused that grissom would have looked at sara as a potential romantic partner rather than as something more like a daughter figure—after all, brass and grissom are about the same age, and that’s certainly how brass thinks of sara himself—once he knew they were together, i think his reaction would be to just shrug and say, “sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants, you know?” secretly, he might even harbor a “you know what? good for them” kind of attitude, taking some comfort in the idea of two lonely people finding companionship in each other.
though he wouldn’t be ignorant of the fact that their flaunting of department policy could have potential ramifications for the team and even for the lvpd at large, i think that he’d get that people are messy, and especially when it comes to love.
so.
all of the above said, while i don’t think it’s a given that any member of team graveyard necessarily would oppose grissom and sara’s coupledom or be upset about how they’d hidden their relationship for so long, i do definitely think it’s possible that at least some of them could have done so, for the reasons previously outlined.
that said, i do also think that it’s likely that even if some of grissom and sara’s teammates did initially disapprove of their relationship or at least how they’d gone about conducting it at first, they would for the most part all eventually come around to the idea and support it in the long run, given the passage of time and their increasing exposure to the grissom and sara as a couple.
i don’t think it’s likely that this reveal would have been a “deal-breaker” for any of them when it came to their friendships with grissom and sara or their willingness to work with them going forward.
it just might be a case where maybe there was slightly more pushback at least at first than what the show allows us to see.
the whole process might have been much more dynamic than what canon seems to suggest.
does anyone on team graveyard blame grissom for sara's abduction?
personally, i somewhat doubt it.
certainly, the show never suggests that such is the case during episodes 07x24 “living doll” and 08x01 “dead doll,” but even beyond the issue of what canon does (and doesn’t) show us, i just think, from a character perspective, that it’s unlikely that they do.
while grissom—notorious self-flagellator that he is—likely does blame himself, thinking that if only he’d caught natalie sooner or hadn’t been so handsy with sara in public, sara might never have become a target, i believe that most of his and sara’s friends, if asked, would remind him that no one is ultimately responsible for natalie’s actions except for natalie.
claiming that grissom is responsible for sara’s abduction makes about as much sense as claiming that any of natalie’s other victims had brought their own murders upon themselves.
like.
while some of them were repugnant people, none of them deserved to get brutally murdered or brought their murders upon themselves; they just had the unfortunate experience of being in proximity to a serial killer and her bleach kill-trigger. it wasn’t their faults (or the faults of their friends and family members) that they got killed.
it was natalie’s.
no matter how the various members of team graveyard might feel about grissom and sara being together or their secrecy regarding their relationship, i think all of them have been doing their jobs well enough to know that both grissom and sara are victims in this case; i don’t think any of them would have hard feelings toward anyone but natalie for what had happened.
grissom was already doing everything he could to solve that case as fast as possible, and he and sara were being about as discreet about their relationship as two people could be.
after all, they’d successfully hidden it from their teammates for years.
there wasn’t really anything he or they could have done differently to change the situation, and especially not knowing what (or whom) they were really up against. the members of team graveyard are all practical enough to realize as much.
do you think catherine or brass would have been upset that grissom didn’t tell them about their relationship even though they have been friends for a long time?
as talked about above, while i do think catherine might have reason to be upset once she learns the truth about gsr, i don’t think she’d be upset for this particular reason.
imo, catherine knows grissom well enough to realize that he was probably never going to confide in her about his love life, regardless of whom he happened to be dating.
for all of the ways in which their friendship is a very close one, that topic has just always been a one-way street for them; catherine may tell grissom about her adventures and misadventures with dating (and even complain to him about her “dry spells” on occasion), but grissom is never going to do the same with her, and she knows as much. it doesn’t offend her. she gets that that’s just the way things are with him.
she might even understand that in this particular case, he perhaps felt it was important to shield her from the truth so as to insulate her from potential professional fallout in the event that said truth was discovered by their superiors.
(after all, had she known about grissom and sara’s relationship and not “turned them in,” she could have gotten in trouble with the administration just as much as them. “aiding and abetting” in this instance could be a fireable offense.)
so of all the reasons she might be pissed at him for his behavior in this situation, i honestly don’t think this one ranks very high on her list.
the same probably goes for brass.
again, having himself had an office romance in the past, brass is aware that it’s just one of those things that one keeps to themselves. the more people one tells, the more likely the secret is to get out and the more potential damage will be done once it is.
he’d probably understand grissom and sara’s reasons for keeping this particular secret to themselves.
i don’t think he’d take it too personally, knowing that they did so not out of dislike of or distrust of him, per se, but just because that’s just how “secret affairs” are typically conducted.
once they learn the truth, do any members of team graveyard recall past events that now in retrospect seem to be obvious indicators that grissom and sara have been together for a very long time?
oh, yeah, definitely!
probably everyone on the team has at least one or two “looking back now, i definitely should have known!” type memories where gsr is concerned (and even some, “wait. were they together even way back then?!” type ones, too).
i mean, the truth is, grissom and sara have never exactly been subtle about their feelings for each other—and in fact, that’s kind of the reason they’re able to “camouflage” their relationship from their teammates for so long.
it’s the type of deal where because they have always in many ways acted like a couple, no one actually noticed when they became a couple officially, but then once they were a couple officially and finally “out,” their friends could look back and go, “oooh! so that’s the reason they were acting that way.”
i mean, warrick might remember a moment like the one where grissom brings sara the veggie burger in episode 07x01 “built to kill” pt. i and go, “oh, shit, i get it now!” or, thinking about it, nick might suddenly have an epiphany about how there was probably a reason why sara seemed a bit down/distracted during the four weeks that grissom was out of town on his sabbatical last year.
i’m sure everyone can think of some flirtatious exchange or weird interaction between grissom and sara that they’ve witnessed over the years that now, upon reflection, takes on a whole new significance, given the knowledge that grissom and sara are in love (and have been for a long time).
i’m sure there is a “5 + 1” fic to be written on this topic for anyone so inclined.
would team graveyard lobby for ecklie to be lenient with grissom and sara in terms of the rules violation?
eh, i don’t really think so.
i mean, regardless of what their personal feelings on gsr might be, i think the members of team graveyard know that the lab has the policies it does re: romantic relationships between team members for a reason.
there are a lot of serious ethical issues that could arise from two members of the same criminalistics team dating each other, and particularly when one of them is a boss and one of them is a subordinate, in terms of potential for the exertion of undue influence, and the legal liability in such a situation is very real. regardless of whether or not grissom ever did pressure sara to perform her job duties in certain ways in order to please him/earn his favor, just the possibility that he could have calls into question the validity of all of the work they did together.
i mean, even without them actually being in a relationship at the time, we see a defense attorney employ this very tactic in order to discredit sara/team graveyard’s work in episode 03x02 “the accused is entitled.” nora cross also gestures toward a similar point in reboot episode 01x04 “long pig.”
so while i don’t think anyone on team graveyard is happy about things having to change, i think they all understand that the fact that they do is somewhat inevitable.
grissom and sara can’t both keep working as supervisor and subordinate as long as they’re still in a romantic relationship together, and while maybe it might’ve been possible to shift the hierarchy of the team in order to allow them to still both remain working on the same shift together had they been more proactive about reporting their relationship rather than reactive about doing so—as ecklie suggests in episode 08x02 “a la cart,” perhaps catherine could’ve become sara’s supervisor or something along those lines, had they just come forward earlier—the fact is that, ultimately, they did break the rules, and there has to be some consequence for them doing so.
honestly, they’re actually lucky that neither one of them got fired or demoted.
in the scheme of things, sara having to switch shifts is a relatively minor punishment, given both the nature of their deception and the scope of it.
for as much as their teammates might not like sara having to move to swing, i don’t think anyone would argue that ecklie is being unreasonable in making her do so. like grissom and sara themselves, they probably realize that this outcome is one that they just have to accept for what it is.
does team graveyard find out that grissom and sara are living together at the same time they learn about their relationship?
yes.
i mean, considering that grissom takes four plus months off from work to stay home and nurse sara back to health after her ordeal, there’s really no avoiding the fact of their cohabitation.
would team graveyard be shocked to learn that grissom and sara were living together?
to my mind, the most shocking revelation in this situation would just be the fact of the relationship itself, so once they knew that grissom and sara were a couple, i don’t actually think it’d be that surprising to them to also find out that they were living together.
that’s just what people in long-term, serious romantic relationships (most often) tend to do.
that said, i do think they might be a bit incredulous that grissom and sara had managed to hide their living arrangements for as long as they did.
like.
the amount of work that must have gone into them keeping up the charade that they had separate lives/residences must have been extraordinary—to the tune of them purposefully leaving the lab parking lot in different directions at the end of every shift, staggering their comings and goings from work, maintaining a separate address for sara somehow (likely still paying rent on her old place so that they could tell hr that was where she lived), hiding the fact that they had a dog for whom they shared care responsibilities together, never eating leftovers for lunch in the breakroom lest someone notice they had obviously had the same meal for dinner the day before, remaining silent when the other person answered work calls while they were at home together so that no one could recognize their voices on the other end of the line, just never slipping up and saying to each other “see you at home” when someone else was around to hear them, etc., etc., etc.
it’s not easy to pretend you don’t live with the person you live with, and especially not when you work with a bunch of trained observers whose job it is to notice details.
they would have had to be so fastidious in order to keep their secret secret, and i think that’s the thing their teammates would find shocking: not the fact of their cohabitation itself but that they managed to pull it off for two full years.
is there anyone in team graveyard (including brass, doc robbins, and/or super dave) who might have had their previous suspicions about grissom and sara’s relationship status proven correct?
mine is an unpopular opinion, but i honestly believe that prior to the events of episode 07x24 “living doll,” no one on team graveyard knows that grissom and sara are in a relationship or even has real suspicions that they are.
while at various points throughout the early seasons, some members of team graveyard might suspect that grissom and sara have feelings for each other of some kind (or that at least one or the other of them does so) and while some of them might even suppose that maybe they had some kind of prior romantic history together before sara moved to las vegas, i don’t think anyone actually realized that they were dating between 2005-2007.
for my money, here’s how things shake down:
catherine is dead convinced that grissom and sara were having a sexual relationship prior to when sara moved to vegas and that they then continued to have one for a brief period of time after she moved, as well. however, by the time the events of s7/s8 are taking place, she figures that their “thing” is ancient history, so she is completely blindsided by the revelation that they are currently together. while learning that they are a couple might seemingly lend some credence to her suspicions about grissom and sara’s past, i don’t think she was savvy enough to their “present” to be vindicated in that sense.
as i talk about here, “we don’t get much information regarding what warrick knows about gsr, except that in episode 01x20 ‘sounds of silence,’ he states that sara doesn’t like it when grissom has other women in his life—a statement which reveals that, at the very least, he is aware that sara is attracted to and possessive of grissom. in s6, warrick is part of a group that teasingly refers to grissom as ‘single boy,’ which suggests that warrick is oblivious to the fact that grissom is dating anyone at the time, let alone that grissom is dating sara (see episode 06x23 ‘bang-bang’). in s7, he witnesses grissom and sara acting coupley around each other in the ‘i got you a veggie burger’ scene in episode 07x01 ‘built to kill,’ pt. i. however, the show gives no indication that he picks up the vibe that grissom and sara are throwing down. (and, in fact, part of the joke in the scene is that warrick asks ‘where’s the love?’ without knowing that it’s right in front of him, between grissom and sara.) given warrick’s reaction to grissom’s revelation in episode 07x24 ‘living doll,’ it seems that he is probably fairly oblivious to romantic gsr prior to that point. so to sum up: warrick may have known that sara had a crush on grissom early on, but the thought that grissom and sara were in love with each other and in a committed relationship probably never crossed his mind prior to the big reveal.”
nick is straight-up clueless. he tells us so himself in episode 08x02 “a la cart.”
meanwhile, while greg suggests to nick that he was knowledgeable of gsr prior to s7, i don’t he actually was. to quote from the same post linked previously: “i’ve always been of the opinion that greg is kind of messing with nick and bending the truth when he says that he had special knowledge concerning gsr prior to episode 07x24 ‘living doll.’ he’s not lying, exactly—but he is taking what is probably his nebulous sense that something was going on between grissom and sara from 2005 to 2007 and making it sound like he had an absolute knowledge of their dating relationship during that time, even though he almost certainly didn’t. if you look at the way nick and greg’s conversation plays out, nick asks if sara ever said anything to greg about her relationship with grissom. nick asks this question knowing that grissom would be unlikely to disclose personal information about himself to anyone on the team, though sara might confide personal information about herself in someone, and especially greg, who is her best friend. nick’s question seems to take greg somewhat by surprise; greg’s body language shows uncertainty. ‘not in so many words,’ he hedges. his answer suggests that, at the very least, he has never had an actual conversation with sara about her and grissom’s love life (i.e., that sara has never actually sat him down and confided her and grissom’s secret in him), and, even more likely, that if he knew anything pre-reveal about gsr at all, it was all things he read between the lines—clues that only really make sense to him in retrospect, now that he knows the context for them. nick senses greg’s hesitation/equivocation, so he presses greg’s answer. ‘so you knew about the two of them?’ he asks, annoyed that he somehow may have missed something that greg was able to pick up on. greg shrugs—a gesture which suggests that he is again equivocating and maybe even stretching the truth. ‘yeah,’ he says awkwardly. based on greg’s responses and body language in this scene, it seems to me that greg probably didn’t know anything concrete about grissom and sara being together before grissom made his big reveal at the end of s7—he just wants nick to think that he did because he knows nick will be miffed about having been ‘kept out of the loop,’ and greg and nick never miss out on an opportunity to razz each other. sara never sat down with greg and said she was dating grissom, and greg probably didn’t know anything about gsr for certain until after grissom revealed that he is in love with sara and the truth about their relationship became public when natalie davis had sara kidnapped.”
i’m also maybe the one person in the fandom who doesn’t actually believe brass knows about gsr pre-episode 07x24 “living doll.” you can find my reasoning here.
i also don’t think either doc or super dave know just because it’s never even hinted at that they do.
so all of the above said, while i do believe that various members of team graveyard might’ve been able to say, “hey! i was right: sara has always had a crush on grissom!” or “oooh, so when i thought that one interaction between them seemed ~weird~, it was,” i don’t think any one of them can truthfully say that they believed grissom and sara were dating each other prior to the big reveal.
to me, that’s part of the whole joke of s7.
they’re all so close to the truth and yet so far.
would brass mention the interrogation scene in episode 04x12 “butterflied” to anyone else on team graveyard in order to offer proof of grissom and sara’s longstanding and deep love for each other?
personally, i don’t think so.
while he may himself realize in retrospect the significance of that particular moment, i think if he does, he also realizes just how deeply personal it is and knows it isn’t his place to talk about it “out of school.”
grissom was essentially “unburdening himself to the void,” and brass just so happened to overhear it.
grissom had no expectation that anyone in that room would understand what (or rather whom) he was really talking about.
just like he had no idea that sara had listened to him make his confession, either.
brass knows as much, and he’s discreet enough to keep what he is aware of to himself.
do you think catherine is horrified when she realizes the implications of her whole “wears the chaps” spiel speculating on grissom and heather’s possible past sexual involvement to sara in episode 07x23 “the good, the bad, & the dominatrix”?
no.
honestly, even once she learns about gsr, catherine still might believe that grissom and heather had slept together at some point in the past (just like many csi viewers do), so i don’t think, given that she is generally a fairly shameless person, that she’d feel at all bad about speculating to that end—even given that she now knows that sara is grissom’s current girlfriend.
hell, she might even think the situation was funny, in retrospect—her going on and on about grissom and (in her view) his past lover’s sex life, all while grissom’s current lover was standing there, unable to say anything a damn thing about it or even let on that she had a vested interested in the topic. kind of hilarious, no?
in catherine’s mind, it’s a fair game subject to speculate about, particularly considering that sara, as grissom’s girlfriend, probably is already aware of his sexual history anyway (at least the way she sees things).
do you greg, nick, and/or warrick are jealous or resentful toward grissom once they find out that he is with sara?
i don’t think nick or warrick ever has any kind of legitimate attraction to or romantic feelings for sara period*, so i doubt that they care about grissom dating her, at least on those grounds.
* while they may both play-flirt with sara at times (and she with them), it’s always done in a very jocular way. at least to me, i don’t think there’s ever any serious intention behind it.
however, as someone who has always had a crush on sara, greg, on the other hand, might be a little jealous and resentful, not to an extreme degree—i don’t think he wishes ill on grissom and/or grissom and sara’s relationship—but to the extent that he might wonder exactly what sara sees in grissom that she doesn’t see in him and (as discussed above) feel a little bit disappointed that his dream girl is no longer available to him.
fwiw, i do think we see at least a hint of this jealousy/resentment in play with greg’s curtness toward grissom in episode 08x08 “you kill me,” when he seems to blame grissom for “causing” sara to leave vegas in a way that no one else on the team does.
who on team graveyard pries grissom away from sara's hospital bed so he can get food and sleep?
no one.
the end of hospital visiting hours forces him to leave eventually.
does anyone on the team go to grissom and sara’s place to get clothes and toiletries for grissom and sara and make sure hank gets to the dog sitter? if yes, does this someone do any snooping inside grissom and sara's home?
i don’t think anyone does go to their house, as
no one would have needed to deal with hank, as he would’ve already been at the sitter’s at the time of sara’s abduction anyway, given that she had already left for work by then (stopping to grab a quick bite at a restaurant on her way to the lab, as per what is shown in episode 07x24 “living doll”) and grissom was already at the lab himself during that interval, as well,
and, as stated above, grissom would eventually have to go back to the condo himself anyway once visiting hours in the icu were over, at which point he could procure everything he and sara needed himself without having to direct someone else to do it.
to my mind, the first time anyone gets a glimpse of “grissom and sara’s inner sanctum” is in the deleted scene from episode 08x12 “grissom’s divine comedy,” when catherine shows up at the condo to talk to grissom about the case of the day.
certainly, her snooping behavior in that scene tells us that she’s never been to grissom and sara’s place before, and if she hasn’t, then i doubt that anyone else on the team has, either.
does anyone confront sara for not telling them about her and grissom’s relationship since they can't confront grissom as their boss?
i don’t personally think so—or at least not in an angry, aggressive kind of way.
while that’s not to say that no one potentially would have hurt feelings toward her, i tend to believe that in a lot of ways the timeline of events plus her status as the victim of a crime helps to spare her any kind of truly fraught conversations.
of course, at the moment when grissom reveals the truth to their friends about their relationship, sara is not present to be reacted at.
then, even after her initial rescue, she’s in the hospital, where her teammates only have very limited access to her, probably in much worse shape than we as viewers are even shown, for a long time hovering in critical condition and then even afterwards still banged up and busted enough that it would take a kind of truly heartless person (which of course none of her teammates are) to show up in the icu or step-down unit and chew her ass for previous duplicitous behavior.
even once she’s discharged, she’s on leave, which means she probably a bit difficult to pin down.
while other fans may (and probably do disagree), i tend to think grissom and sara don’t really invite anyone over to their place while sara is convalescing, probably for myriad reasons; in all likelihood, they just “drop off the grid.”
all said, for four plus months, no one really probably has much of a chance to give sara a piece of their minds, no matter how much they might be inclined to.
during that timespan, i’ve got to believe that a lot of the initial kneejerk reactions her teammates have to learning the news temper and eventually even dissipate as the months wear on. for however mad they may have been at her (and grissom) initially, the more time passes and life continues, the more they get over having been lied to, and especially because, at least insofar as we’re shown, there never does seem to be any real professional reckoning for grissom and sara’s actions for team graveyard—i.e., no cases of theirs ever do get overturned, no lawsuits are ever filed, nobody gets fired or demoted, and sara is the only one who ends up having to change shifts in the end—meaning that for all their fear of what might happen when “the other shoe drops,” the drop doesn’t actually ever occur. it just becomes a moot point.
ultimately, for as reckless as what grissom and sara did was, it turns into a “no harm, no foul” situation.
that so, i tend to suspect that by the time sara does finally come back to work in october, her friends have mostly moved past the point of even wanting to confront her; by then, they’re all just happy to see her alive and well (which is certainly what canon seems to depict in episode 08x02 “a la cart”). any anger or resentment there had been has long since been muted.
and especially because it’s probably difficult to feel anything but sorry for sara, considering that she is still pretty hurt, even by the time she finally does come back to the lab. it’s hard to yell at the girl with her face all cut up and her arm in a sling, you know?
while there might be some conversations along the lines of “you could have told us, you know”—i can particularly imagine this type of discussion between her and warrick or her and greg—i don’t think that when/if they happen, they are had in anger. i also think that when sara explains, at least in part, her and grissom’s side of things (“we didn’t want to drag anyone else into it. it was our thing”), her teammates accept the reasoning/intentions behind the action, even if they don’t necessarily agree.
as for whether or not anyone ever confronts grissom: i think it’s more likely that he gets confronted than sara does, even though he is the boss, both because he comes back to work earlier than she does—we’re not told how much earlier exactly, but we’re clearly shown in episode 08x02 “a la cart” that he’s already back to working cases while she’s still making arrangements to make the switch over to swing—and because, unfortunately for him, in some ways he is the less sympathetic party in this case.
i also don’t think that grissom is necessarily the kind of boss the members of team graveyard would feel too intimidated to confront. i mean, they’ve always called him out on his bullshit in the past (see, for example, their comments to him in episode 02x15 “burden of proof” or nick’s heated conversation with him in episode 04x11 “eleven angry jurors”), so it stands to reason that they’d be comfortable doing so in this situation, as well, particularly given how his actions might potentially impact them/the team/the lab.
whether or not anyone actually yells at him, i don’t know. possibly they could, but even if they don’t, i do think it’s likely that maybe his reception upon his return to the lab is a bit frosty or that someone makes at least some kind of comment to him indicating their displeasure at some point.
(my bets would be on catherine or nick.)
do ecklie and grissom have any kind of conversations regarding grissom’s leave of absence after sara’s rescue and prior to the events of episode 08x02 “a la cart”?
the show completely glosses over the logistics of grissom taking leave, but the fact is that he would have to communicate with both ecklie and catherine in order to coordinate with them while he was away to make the situation work.
based on the statements sara makes in episode 04x23 “bloodlines” indicating that she has (at that time) ten weeks’ worth of vacation on the books, we can calculate, based on her having worked at the lab for four years by that point and never having taken a vacation to date aside from maybe attending a short conference or two here or there, that the csis each likely receive between 2.5 and 3 weeks of vacation time per calendar year.
considering that by the time of sara’s abduction, grissom has worked at the lab for about twenty-two years and has seldom taken any of his pto to date, he likely has well over a years’ worth of vacation time available to him at that point to take—and, legally, if he requests to take it, the lab has to let him.
that so, i think it’s likely that he flat-out tells ecklie, “i’m not coming back to work for the next few months,” and ecklie just kind of has to deal with it.
and especially because sara was injured more or less on the job by someone on the lab’s payroll.
like.
while it wasn’t actually the lab’s fault that sara was abducted, it still would have been a bad-faith move with potentially damning pr implications to deny grissom the opportunity to stay home and tend to her.
however, even though grissom can basically take as much vacation time as he sees fit without ecklie being able to say boo about it, he still probably has to communicate with ecklie enough to hand off his cases and supervisory duties to catherine and potentially other shift supervisors—somebody from day or swing or even ecklie himself likely has to step in while grissom’s away in order to give catherine her nights off—and make sure that his team isn’t left even more in the lurch than they inevitably are, missing both him and sara for several months on end.
it also might be the case that on occasion, he would have to come back to the lab in order to prep his substitutes for upcoming trials or even to take part in said trials himself.
for as much as he’d be loath to leave sara home alone while she was recovering, i’m sure she’d be the first to tell him, “i don’t want you to let murderers walk free for my sake. please go testify in this case. you’re the only expert entomologist at the lab, and your findings are the only thing that’ll put this guy away where he belongs. i can have one of our neighbors come sit with me. i’ll be okay for a few hours without you. i promise.”
all of that so, i very strongly believe grissom probably has spoken with ecklie—and probably even regularly emailed with him and had phone conversations—prior to the events of episode 08x02 “a la cart.”
it’s just that they haven’t yet talked about the elephant in the room by then, you know?
—probably as much due to grissom’s dodging as ecklie’s own awkwardness about broaching the subject.
say what you will about ecklie, but i genuinely believe that, as he indicates in episode 08x02 “a la cart,” he takes no pleasure in administrating this particular issue. he probably doesn’t want to discuss grissom and sara’s looming disciplinary action while they’re both still away from work, particularly as he knows sara is still very much in recovery. chances are, he’s only too happy to put that conversation off until they both return to work, knowing that until then there’s really not much to be done anyway.
part of him probably wonders if they’ll even ever come back to work at all (particularly sara), especially in the immediate aftermath of the abduction. he’s probably wondering, “is this the kind of deal where what starts out as an extended leave of absence just turns into them never really coming back? am i gonna be looking for their replacements a few months from now?”
would hodges be full of himself, telling anyone who’d listen that he knew all along about gsr?
i mean, potentially.
certainly, that would be one way to write his character in this situation, and i don’t necessarily think it would be ooc to have him behave in that way.
that said, i think it’s maybe a bit more fun to imagine a more nuanced version of his behavior, where in the aftermath of sara’s rescue, everyone keeps kind of expecting him to play that “of course i knew all along” braggadocio role, but he kind of just, well, doesn’t.
imagine a scenario where the news of grissom and sara’s romance has started to spread around the lab, beyond just with the main players on team graveyard. now it’s the hot gossip. every tech and trainee and secretary is playing the “well, did you know? what tipped you off? did you see when x, y, or z thing happened between them?” game, sharing their own “close encounters of the gsr kind” stories with their friends, trying to pin down the logistics of the whole affair.
rumors are swirling—“grissom only hired her because they were an item before she moved from san francisco, you know;” “did you hear they have a secret love child? he’s eight and he already goes to harvard;” “someone told me that they got married a few years back during that time when sara got suspended;” “they’re into all kinds of bdsm and have threesomes with lady heather on the reg;” etc.—and everyone is just wildly speculating about their sex life and their home situation and which of the other members of their team actually knew about them and when.
at some point, the lab rats are all going on about it over lunch in the breakroom and hodges is uncharacteristically quiet. archie tries to get him to contribute to the conversation, but he just kind of demurs. henry even goes as far as to tease him (“he’s sitting over there all quiet and mysterious-like, just hoping we’ll ask him what he knows so that he can pretend that he knew all along”). but hodges just gets up and leaves.
while the other lab rats suppose that he’s just being a sore sport because he can’t actually to pretend to have known anything more than they did—“he was just as clueless as the rest of us”—wendy gets up and follows him and asks him to explain himself.
at first, hodges just tries to brush it off, but wendy is nothing if not persistent, so eventually she gets him to open up.
turns out that hodges is kind of shaken.
grissom is his hero, and after what happened with sara, well—
hodges just can’t get that look on grissom’s face out of his head; how haunted he looked, how small.
maybe while everyone else is treating grissom and sara’s love life like a cypher to be decoded, hodges is just worried because “if something like that happened to the woman i loved, i don’t think i could come back to work at the place that made it happen. i think i’d have to walk away.”
of course, wendy can’t promise that grissom will be back—and hodges does actually make a good point; it would be difficult to willingly return to the darkness that had almost swallowed your true love whole—but she can reassure him: “if grissom and sara do walk away, i don’t think it’ll be a sad ending.”
“no?”
“i don’t think it’s ever the wrong thing to choose love. and besides—”
“what?”
she touches over his fingers where his hands rest on the desk. “—this lab will still be in good hands.”
do i have headcanon dialogue about your questions?
i tried to pepper a little into my answers here and there, but honestly these scenarios are not ones to which i have devoted a ton of brainpower to imagining, not for any particular reason—i mean, i’m certainly not averse to this part of gsr history in the same way i am the later seasons of the show—but just because i haven’t.
i don’t really have concrete headcanons about how everyone reacts to the news—like i’ve said, i could pretty easily be convinced that certain team members have much more complicated reactions (at least initially) than what we’re shown by the point that the events of episode 08x02 “a la cart” are taking place, but i could also believe that maybe they’re all fairly quick to accept the new status quo, as long as a convincing enough rationale was provided as to why so they did—and i especially don’t have fully mapped out scenes in my head for everything that happens.
anyway.
thanks for the questions! please feel welcome to send more any time.
Hello! I was wondering when are you going to update your meta list: comprehensive addictedtostorytelling csi meta and fic archive (current as of 07.22.21) 😊
You got a lot of new analysis and essays. The meta list has been very helpful.
hi, @hiei29!
i'll be real: it's probably gonna be a while before i get around to updating the archive.
i'll spare you all of the boring mechanical details, but suffice it to say that because tumblr limits how many active links can be included on one post, updating the meta archive is a fairly involved process that is going to require a lot of hard work.
it's not just a matter of adding the new stuff in with the old; i'm going to have to reconfigure the entire archive and create new subdivisions and additional posts in order to get everything to function.
atm, i have some other projects i'm working on, so i don't have much time to dedicate to it.
until i can get around to doing a complete overhaul, the best way to find specific meta is either by searching by character using the format #meta: [character]—so, for example, meta about grissom would be listed in the #meta: grissom tag—or searching by episode (with csi: crime scene investigation episodes tagged in the #seasonxepisode format—so "nesting dolls" would be #05x13—and csi: vegas episodes tagged in the #cv seasonxepisode format—so "pipe cleaner" would be #cv 01x08). otherwise, all of my meta can be found in reverse chronological order in the #my meta tag.
Hi! Thank you for answering my questions. I hope this "ask" finds you well. I just finished CSI S15 and I would like to know your opinion on these issues:
Why is Sara Sidle so angry? I have seen her spiraling with alcohol, depressed on her love for Boss G and anger about everything in general on S4 & S8 but the angry Sara on S15 is vicious and violent. Assaulting suspects on PD hallways, shouting during interrogation, slamming her hand on the interrogation table... Seriously, Sara Sidle is scary, way out of line and borderline unprofessional. The Angry Sara on the earlier CSI seasons are usually cause by Domestic Violence but the Angry Sara on S15, I can't explain the motivation. It's confusing.
And Greg Sanders is so dull. What happened to the rock and roll head banging, Las Vegas History lovin' Lab Tech turned CSI? His hair used to be so distinct and lively but on S15, his hair is dull and parted sideways. He looks so sad. Like life as CSI has sucked all the fun out of him.
(no complains about Pancho Nicky though 😁)
And every CSI is moonlighting as Lab Techs. No more Gun-expert Bobby, Tech Savvy Archie and Finger Print Reader Mandy/Jackie...now all lab tech duties are divided to Hodges, Henry and the CSI.
Also, I would like to comment on the writers of CSI S15. They are lazy. One case in an episode then a serial killer arc for the entire season. The tangents and possible explanation why a person is a viable suspect is confusing. Whatever happened to the 2 cases per episode concept? That concept worked with high ratings for so many years/seasons so why change it? Now, all CSI worked in 1 case per episode, it seems they are passing tasks with each other that they can do themselves. No wonder it ended on a low rating. I cannot see/feel the magic of CSI anymore. The episodes looks tired and dragging.
I am very sorry for the rant but I stopped watching when Gil Grissom left in S9E10. After multiple watching of CSI Vegas, CSI S01 to S9E10 and CSI Immortality, I finally got the courage to watch all episodes after GG left starting S15. Gosh, my disappointment and frustration were so high that I had to go back and rewatch all GSR scenes on CSI Vegas so I can remind myself that Sara Sidle is not angry and so beautifully in love with her hubby Gil Grissom.
I finished S15 but I am afraid of all the disappointment and frustration I will feel on S14. Still, I will push through so I can say I have watched all CSI Episodes from S01 to S15.
Again, apologies for the rant.
hi, @hiei29!
i’m gonna put my answers under the “keep reading” so as not to poison anyone’s dash, okay?
warning: this post is extremely critical of the writing in the later seasons of the show and especially of the characterization in those seasons. if you are a fan of those seasons, you probably shouldn’t read this post, as it contains a literal salt mine of negativity regarding them.
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so, uh, i make no secret of the fact that i hate the later seasons of csi with all the salt that is in me, finding them to be some of the worst-written and most disappointing television i have ever watched, a downgrade in every possible way from the early seasons of the show.
there is literally nothing about them i find enjoyable, and i refuse to rewatch them because to me they are so contemptible.
i am afraid to say, but i think you'll discover (since you're watching in reverse chronological order) that things are only going to get worse for you as you delve now into s14 and then s13, which is the absolute nadir of the series and by far the hardest season to watch as a gsr/sara sidle fan.
anyway.
to answer some of your questions, i will first direct you to several posts that cover a lot of the same topics:
this one talks about the poor writing and multiplicity of storytelling problems in the later seasons of the show, explaining why they came about from an outside-of-the-story world perspective. though a lot of the post relates specifically to s10 (and the clumsy way the writers wield ray langston as a character), the same concepts also apply throughout s11-s15, as well.
this one was written after the end of s15 but before news of the show's cancellation had come out and so is in some ways out of date, but it does outline many of the general problems with csi's writing during that late-game era, including its eschewing of character development, how only working on a single case per episode reduced many of the characters to "glorified lab tech" and/or "courier" status (as you describe above), its over-reliance on spectacle, its lack of serialization/continuity, etc.
this one explains in more detail the shift from the traditional a plot/b plot narrative format into the "one case per episode" one and what this move's effects on the show were overall.
this one talks about how greg's characterization and development were first flattened and then dropped in the later seasons of the show, while this one explains how he got stuck in an interminable holding pattern as part of a never-fully-resolved love triangle with him, morgan, and hodges, which ultimately contributed to his "unfinished" feeling as a character at the end of the series.
as for the topic of sara and her anger in the late series:
that issue is one that has its roots in many of the other issues discussed above.
as new writers came onto the show and, steered by their generally poor writing instincts, made the mistake of focusing their attentions on introducing and highlighting the newer characters (first langston, then russell, finn, and morgan) rather than dividing their attentions equally among the whole cast, they neglected the old characters, essentially relegating them to minor character status. though by all rights, once grissom and catherine had left the show, nick, sara, and greg should have moved to center stage just by virtue of their seniority and how invested the audience was in them, they were largely ignored.
nick got the most development out of the trio post-s12 (when catherine left the show and russell, finn, and morgan replaced her), which is perhaps why you find yourself the least disappointed with his characterization out of anyone's, though even he featured far less prominently and received less development than he should have.
in the meanwhile, sara and greg's development completely fell by the wayside.
while greg's "benching" happened in the wake of the failed love triangle storyline of s12 (as described in the post above), sara's came about following her s13 divorce, after which she never really was given another personal storyline again.
though they would both occasionally be the subject of individual "focus episodes" (e.g., see episode 14x16 "killer moves" for greg or episode 15x12 "dead woods" for sara), any and all development they underwent was consigned to those episodes only; all emotional changes, lessons learned or unlearned, progress/regression, etc. they experienced lasted just until the end credits rolled and then was summarily forgotten about going forward, as if it had never happened to begin with. neither one of them had any kinds of serialized arcs to speak of for the last several seasons of the show.
but here's the thing: not only did they not get any character development in the last several seasons of the show, but their characters themselves were also flattened, reduced down to be caricatures of their former selves.
the new writers who came onto the show following the 2008 writers' strike and later (see the first post linked above) hadn't done their homework. none of them read the show bible or really got a feel for the old characters; they knew them only in a very superficial way.
frankly, all of the characters of the later seasons, both old and new, have the same standard base personality: a very one-note, sitcom-esque “quirky smartness” with a uniform sense of humor, uniform approach to problem solving, uniform professional skillset, and uniform “good guy-ness,” which results in them all tending to speak and act mostly the same across scenes, to the point of interchangeability.
seriously: in 80% of the scenes in the later seasons, you could swap out any one character for any other and the tone, timbre, and outcome of the scene would not be altered at all. there’s no perceptible difference between how sara talks and how finn does, how greg would approach an issue versus how nick would, etc.; they’d all make the same quips and take the same actions across the majority of all scenes.
the writers then tacked on maybe one or two “extra” character traits to each character* in order to “distinguish” them from one another (so that russell becomes base personality + hippie dad, finn becomes base personality + maneater, hodges becomes base personality + self-important weirdo, etc.) and considered their characterization work done, making no further efforts to develop or change anyone over time.
* except for morgan, who is literally just the base personality and nothing else. i mean, seriously, aside from being “nice,” what even is she? how would one describe her? she has no distinguishing characteristics.
compare this very stock characterization in the later seasons to the rich characterization of the early ones: in s1-s8 of the original series, each main character has a very distinctive personality, worldview, and even diction. greg never would or even could have approached solving a problem in the same way that grissom would/could, nick’s dialogue didn’t sound the same across the board as warrick’s, etc. even grissom and sara, who were the two most similar characters, in terms of the basic temperaments, intelligence levels, ways of speaking and comporting themselves, etc., weren’t 1:1 the same as each other; they had enough that varied between them so as not to be mistakable for each other. the main cast felt like six different people, not six versions of the same person. and the storytelling was so much better and more compelling for it! even just on an emotional level, there was so much more dynamism and room for multiple reactions. not everyone was going to bust out the exact same quip at the exact same time, you know?
but whereas the new characters were never anything but this base personality + [insert the one individual characteristic they may or may not possess here], meaning that for as boring as they may be, there’s nothing really to mourn with them in terms of “lost potential,” with the old characters, this adherence to the stock formula is something far more devastating, as in order to make them fit the mold, the writers had to strip them of so much of their former characterizations, divesting them of all of the intricacies that had been part of them throughout the early seasons of the show, leaving them shadows of their former selves.
nick became “standard later seasons personality” plus
nice
texan
traumatized but we’re not quite sure how/in what ways/to what degree and aren’t consistent about depicting him as such
sara became “standard later seasons personality” plus
uncool/nerdy
sarcastic
angry
greg became “standard later seasons personality” plus
has a crush on morgan??????
(that’s really his only “distinguishing” character trait in the last several seasons.)
and all of them shifted from being dramatic characters who had occasional comedic beats to being comedic characters who had occasional dramatic ones. it was like they had been transposed into a sitcom world, despite the very macabre nature of what their procedural was all about; i call it the “ncis-ification of csi.”
it was as if never having watched the early seasons of the show themselves (or only having watched a few episodes here and there), the later seasons writers turned to the wikipedia character summaries for nick, sara, and greg and then based their entire depictions of the characters going forward on what they found in those few paragraphs of description.
there was no nuance or multivalence to how they handled the characters at all, no sense of recourse to their past developments, no sense of history with them, certainly no development going forward, etc.
so.
for as much as i hate the later seasons for what they did to gsr, i hate them even more for what they did to sara sidle, taking the most wonderfully complex, interesting, realistic, subtle, dynamic, well-wrought character i’d ever had the pleasure of watching on tv and turning her into what was essentially just “angry girl, version 1.0,” totally generic in every way.
i still remember my first time watching the scene in episode 15x12 “dead woods” in which sara stalks abby’s boyfriend slade down the hall at pd, runs him up against the wall, and threatens him. while my first reaction was to full-body cringe because, holy god, that was embarrassingly badly written!, my second reaction was to feel heartbreak, because what i was seeing was such a bastardization of my favorite character that she was almost unrecognizable to me, and it was such a shame.
it was like the writers were vaguely aware of older scenes like the one in episode 01x10 “sex, lies, & larvae,” where sara gets in scott shelton’s face, and wanted to replicate them, but they had no idea what would actually make sara tick or what her mechanics were.
theirs was just a bad impression of “sara being triggered,” lacking all understanding of her inner emotional world.
and that’s how sara is throughout the later seasons: most often, just the standard base personality, but with occasional flashes of intense and largely unexplained anger thrown in.
and, i mean—
had they wanted to, they maybe could’ve been more deliberate about depicting sara’s anger, making it an actual plot point that after the divorce, she started to be much more hair-trigger and prone to outbursts, constantly simmering with a low current of frustration that sometimes ignited into full-on flares of fiery temper in cases where she was provoked.
they could’ve shown nick and greg worrying about how on-edge she seemed and maybe even herself fretting over her inability to control herself.
they eventually could’ve written something about how the truth was, she found it easier to be angry at the world than to feel her actual, underlying emotion, i.e., heartbreak over losing the love of her life—because at least the anger was somewhat “empowering,” whereas the heartbreak just made her feel small, helpless, hopeless, and vulnerable, and particularly since she feared it might be unending.
because how could she ever be happy again without grissom?
at some point, they could’ve had the storyline come to a head, maybe with sara crossing a line with a suspect or even one of her team members, being confronted about it (or even faced with suspension) and then breaking down, finally admitting just how hurt she was, maybe going into anger management or therapy or at least just giving voice to her feelings for once.
like.
it wouldn’t have been a storyline i would have favored for her, but it could have been a thing if the writers had wanted to make it one.
it could have been some actual storywork.
but of course it wasn’t.
they never made anything of it.
there was never any sense that the writing of sara as angry was at all purposeful or that it had anything to do with events from her past, either from her childhood or more recently with the divorce.
in the later seasons writers’ incompetent hands, “angry sara” was always just a haphazard thing, something they did with her when the case-of-the-week called for it or when they didn’t know what to do with her otherwise.
never was it delved into.
never was it treated as the problem it was.
since in their minds, sara was just an angry person—ignoring all of her post-episode 05x13 “nesting dolls” development in the earlier seasons of the show—there was no reason to question or probe or explore her anger; it was just a given, something they could fall back on whenever they needed a quick and easy way to ratchet up the emotional tension in a particular episode.
the reason you find yourself unable to explain the motivations behind sara’s anger in s15 is because there aren’t any.
unlike gil grissom, the writers of that season are unwilling to ask what’s made sara so angry. they don’t ever go there, and neither do they want to.
they have no intention to ever look beneath the surface with her.
so they just don’t.
i wish i could tell you that there’s something to look forward to with s14, but there really isn’t. the writing is just as bad and the characterization is just as nonexistent as is the case with s15. sara is certainly just as wasted.
anyway.
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Hi! I would like to ask your insight whether Jim Brass knows about Grissom and Sara's relationship prior to the S07E24 Dead Dolls reveal. I ask this because of the following:
On S07E18 Empty Eyes, after Camie died on Sara's arms, the next scene saw her standing distraught and in shock beside Jim Brass. JB is standing way to close as if making sure Sara is alright even though Sara is a veteran CSI. Do you think Grissom ask Jim to take care of his "Honey" while he keeps on processing the crime scene?
On S07E23 TGTBTD, Jim Brass said "I know something a lot juicier than Grissom and Lady Heather" after Catherine tries to get gossip from him about LH & GG. Do you think the juicy story is GSR?
hi, @hiei29!
i think i am in the minority, but i don't think brass knows about grissom and sara prior to the events of episode 07x24 "living doll."
i talk about the reasons why i don't think so in this post, if you're interested.
the tl;dr version is i don't think that if brass knew about grissom and sara's romantic relationship he would have taken the risk of blabbing about it to catherine, when doing so easily could have ruined grissom and sara's careers (given that he had no way to know in advance how catherine might react or whether or not she would blow the whistle on them); he would have shown more discretion and kept what he knew to himself. that so, the fact that he seems willing to tell catherine whatever the juicy gossip is suggests to me that whatever he knows isn't specifically that grissom and sara are currently having a romantic relationship with each other. it's got to be something else.
as for the events of episode 07x18 "empty eyes," i don't think brass would necessarily need grissom to tell him to stick close to sara after her traumatic experience with cammie—that's just something he would do on his own, a) because he is, down to his core, a protector and he very much views it as his job to keep the members of team graveyard (sara definitely included) safe, and, b) because he is quietly very fond of sara and views her as something of a daughter-figure.
while sara is certainly a veteran csi, brass knows that there are some on-the-job horrors for which even experience cannot prepare you. just one glance at sara, and he would see that she was trembling, scared, and pale after having had a civilian homicide victim bleed out in her arms; his "protective father" instinct would be triggered in an instant.
grissom wouldn't even have to say a word.
and even if grissom did ask brass to keep an eye on sara, there's no way he'd have framed that request as "please go look after my girlfriend"—not when doing so would have outed him and sara and potentially gotten them in trouble with the department (depending on brass's reaction). if anything, he would have said something much more innocuous, like, "can you check up on sara to make sure she's all right?", speaking in his capacity as team supervisor. he wouldn't have given brass any indication that his interest in sara's well-being exceeded what was allowable between a boss and his employee. but that's if he even asked brass to look after sara at all—which, again, i don't think he did. for my money, brass acted 100% of his own volition.
anyway, my views on this subject are fairly unpopular, and ymmv, but, in my view, jim brass has no special insights into gsr before the rest of the team does.
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Hi! Thank you for answering my questions. I have valued your insight on GSR. I hope you will have time to enlighten me with your perspective regarding this matter.
Sara Sidle grew up in a chaotic household with an abusive father and a schizophrenic mother. I think Sara was drawn to Gil because Gil Grissom is the opposite of chaos. He is a man with a calming voice and presence. However, Sara had relationships prior to Gil and based on her relationship with Hank, she is blind when a man is cheating/using her.
Do you think Sara Sidle is the type of woman who would allow a man to be abusive to her, physical/emotional/verbal?
I'd like to think that Sara Sidle will never allow a man to be abusive to her given her past but I would like to know your thoughts.
hi, @hiei29!
note: abuse is something that can happen to anyone, no matter what their background or personal attributes may be. there is no way to tell if someone is an abuser just by looking at them, and not all would-be abusers show signs of being abusers from the start. this post is not at all meant to suggest that abuse victims choose to be abused nor that they could avoid being abused by being “smarter” or “stronger,” making better life choices, altering their behavior in some way, etc. the onus of abuse is always on the abuser themselves, never on the victims. all that is being discussed here is the hypothetical question of if sara sidle would stay with a significant other who had in any way begun to physically, emotionally, and/or verbally abuse her.
because of the subject matter, i’m gonna put this one under the “keep reading,” okay?
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so.
sara would not tolerate any kind of physical, emotional, or verbal abuse.
full stop.
no matter who he was or how long they had been together or how much she had liked him previously, the first time a boyfriend even started to gesture in the direction of potentially abusing her (e.g., raising his voice at her during an argument or getting in her face about something, purposefully trying to intimidate her, attempting to restrict or control her behavior in some way, getting too rough with her in the bedroom, talking to her disparagingly or using derogatory language toward her, setting his hands on her in an aggressive way, trying to gaslight her, etc.), she'd be out the door so damn fast, and she would give him no second chances.
abuse is 100% a deal-breaker for her, something she cannot and will not abide under any circumstances.
she has a zero tolerance policy.
probably a less than zero tolerance policy, if we’re honest—like even to the point where behaviors that are not actually themselves abusive or even necessarily tending that way but which are just generally kind of triggering for her might be enough to trip her alarm systems and make her call things quits (e.g., a guy being just kinda somewhat too loud all the time, not even necessarily in an aggressive or angry way but just with his regular speaking volume, might make her say, “you know what? i’m not doing this relationship” and cut ties because she finds herself too on edge around him).
being in the presence of abusive men is just too triggering to her for her to allow it even a little (see episode 01x10 "sex, lies, & larvae"). it's something she's promised herself she'll never excuse away or allow in her life. she never wants to end up like her mother.
now.
these statements are not to suggest that sara could necessarily tell who has the potential to be an abuser from the get-go, because she can’t.
like, yes, she’s hypervigilant about the warning signs, and, yes, she would never date a guy who seemed aggressive or domineering or violent or misogynistic from the get-go. but even for as aware as she is and for as much as she typically only pairs with men she views as being initially docile/nonaggressive/nonthreatening, she’s still not prescient, and she can’t always know how someone is going to behave behind closed doors before she goes behind those closed doors with him.
none of this discussion is to say that sara is immune to the potential to date someone who could be abusive.
frankly, it’s possible she has dated a guy or two who has started to eventually behave abusively toward her before.
rather, it’s just to say that at the first sign of any even remotely abusive behavior from someone she were dating, she would—as soon as it were safe for her to do so—get herself the fuck away from that person and never look back.
i’ve written somewhat about how her sex life with grissom is probably very decidedly (but wonderfully) “vanilla,” and, realistically, i think that’s true of all of her sexual relationships, even before she’s with him: she’s not into power play or bdsm or humiliation in the bedroom at all. she doesn’t even probably like having guys use degrading language in that setting.
as she mentions in episode 02x07 “caged,” she hates it when men call women the c-word.
the guys she’s with have got to be gentle, and, if they’re not, i think she bounces pretty quick.
there’s nothing less attractive to her than a man who is controlling or overpowering or who is comfortable trying to intimidate her as a woman.
to that end, i think she tends to engineer the logistics of her relationships to make it possible for her to exit them quickly if needed.
prior to grissom, she never enmeshes her life with the life of anyone she is dating. she tends to date casually as opposed to getting into serious, long-term relationships—while i can’t fully substantiate this claim, i strongly believe that hank is probably the boyfriend she dates the longest prior to grissom, and even after over a year of being with him, she still very much is keeping him at arm’s length—eschewing more formal commitments. it’s doubtful she ever gives out keys to her apartment, even to guys she dates for a while. she’s definitely never lived with a romantic partner pre-grissom. definitely never shared a bank account. she’s likely incredibly fastidious about using birth control. ditto for making sure that she never gets too predictable in her routines with any given guy or drops her guard too much. she almost certainly doesn’t let herself go home with anyone when she’s drunk*. in general, she probably requires that her boyfriend be okay with giving her lots of “alone time” and letting her keep her own schedule. refuses to let him know everywhere she’s going or everything she’s doing. never truly allows herself to become too emotionally involved (and certainly before grissom never falls in love with anyone or even gets close to it). she keeps her secrets entirely to herself**.
* that’s part of why i say her behavior in episode 13x15 “forget me not” is so wildly ooc: even when she’s emotionally spiraling, she’d never go into a strange man’s hotel room blackout drunk. that’s just not something that someone with her background would ever be okay with, no matter how emotionally distraught she were otherwise.
** as she reveals in episode 05x01 “viva las vegas,” before grissom, she had never told anyone else her life story.
she also has fail-safes in place for worst-case scenarios: as she mentions many times throughout the show, she’s trained in weaponless defense so she can fight back, if she needs to. she also has a permit to carry and keeps a gun at her place which she wouldn’t hesitate to use should a situation arise.
especially early on in her relationships, when she’s still getting to know the guy, she likely insists on public meeting places and won’t go off alone with him—honestly, good safety practices in any new social situation—and is probably slow to start inviting men into her personal life.
she’s got to really feel comfortable, just on a physical level, before she’s gonna actually relax enough to have fun with a new partner.
—but, of course, for as careful as she is regarding the red flags of potential abuse, she does have other potential blind spots.
as you mention, for as hypervigilant as she is re: abusive behavior, she’s somewhat oblivious to the warning signs of infidelity.
as she mentions in episode 07x17 “fallen idols,” hank is not the first boyfriend she’s had who’s cheated on her.
the cheating is a kind of unfortunate symptom of the kinds of men she tends to date and the types of relationships she tends to enter into pre-grissom: something she’s somewhat vulnerable to because she forms shallow, noncommittal connections with guys she chooses specifically because they are unlikely to form serious attachments to her.
it’s not that she actively chooses cads or is “okay with” being cheated on—even if she’s not in love with the guys who cheat on her, it’s still embarrassing/hurtful—but rather just that sometimes the lack of commitment in her relationships comes back to bite her in the ass.
of course, just like she wouldn’t hesitate to cut ties with any man who showed signs of potentially being abusive, she also won’t hesitate to cut ties with any man who cheats on her.
once she realizes what’s happening, it’s another deal-breaker for her.
it’s not something she’ll “allow” to happen to herself.
thankfully, for all sara has had bad luck with men in the past and for as hard as it is for her to find relationships she feels safe in, eventually she gets everything she is looking for in grissom.
as i talk about in the previously-linked post:
as for the matter of sara falling for someone who is the “opposite of chaos,” i think one has to look no further than her childhood to see why grissom’s evenness and stability would appeal to her.
i have always thought that sara could never love a man who reminded her of her father.
while grissom will at times express righteous indignation and even raise his voice when he is upset (see episode 02x05 “scuba doobie-doo”), the man has no violence in him; he would never fly completely off the handle or lose himself to rage with another human being in the same way that sara’s father did with her mother when sara was a child.
though grissom himself fears his own “darkness” and “misanthropic nature” and worries that he may somehow be capable of evil deeds, sara sees him as intrinsically gentle and believes strongly in his capacity to control himself. she knows him as a measured and deliberate man who is uncomfortable carrying a service sidearm despite working a sometimes dangerous job in law enforcement and who could never willingly hurt a woman, much less the woman he loved.
she also knows, in an instinctive, i-see-what-is-in-your-heart kind of way, that while he will sometimes rant and rave about injustices in the world or the brazenness of certain criminals (such as in episode 01x19 “gentle, gentle”), getting worked up while in her presence, he never truly yells at her, even when she has done something to scare him (such as in episode 05x02 “down the drain”) or to challenge him (such as in episode 04x07 “invisible evidence”); somehow he seems to intuit that his doing so would frighten her, so he finds other ways to express his displeasure. he goes with silky instead of loud, hands-in-pockets instead of wild gesticulations, measured reason instead of impulsive reaction.
though she trusts no one else in the world, sara trusts grissom—and not only because she knows that he is incapable of being abusive, but also because she knows she can depend on him.
even when they’re not together, even at times when they’re not on good terms, he always shows up for her when she needs him (see, for example, episodes 01x23 “strip strangler” and 04x23 “bloodlines”). he so consistently cares about her and will move heaven and earth to make things right in her world when everything seems wrong (see episodes 01x10 “sex, lies, & larvae” and 01x16 “too tough to die”). even when she successfully fools others with her old favorite lie of “i’m fine,” she can never fully fool him, because he sees her, even in darkness. he may not always know exactly what’s wrong—and especially prior to the time when she reveals her past to him—but he cares enough to keep searching. he cares enough to stick with her in the meanwhile.
and for someone who has been abandoned by every single other person who was ever supposed to love and care for her, to have someone just be consistently present for her—who will never just peace out when life gets rough—means absolutely everything to her.
grissom is something solid to hold onto in a world where everything else just slips through sara’s fingers.
and especially because, despite all of her flaws, he perpetually believes in her, never wavering in his confidence that she is, at her heart, a good person, worthy of respect, loyalty, and love.
that he can look her in the eyes and without hesitation tell her that he doesn’t believe that she is somehow inherently flawed or broken based on what she came from is the be-all and end-all for her (see episode 05x13 “nesting dolls”).
for a girl whose whole life has been chaos and who often herself feels out of control, loving a man who centers her makes all of the sense in the world.
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Hello! I came across a post about Nevada Rose by Jerome Preisler. The book is part of the CSI Novels in association with the TV series.
Here are my questions:
Have you read the book?
If yes, do you recommend it?
Do you think it's canon?
Do you recommend other CSI Novels that has some good GSR ?
hi, @hiei29!
i have read it! i actually own it.
as for whether or not i recommend it, i mean, eh, it's okay? worth a read if it's easily available to you but probably not worth spending a lot of money on or going out of your way to acquire. there's much better stuff available out there for free as fanfic. while there is a certain thrill to reading about gsr in official novel form™, nothing about the story itself really wows (and the gsr stuff, while cute, only comprises just a very small part of the actual narrative). overall, it'd make for a mediocre episode, had it been televised rather than printed. also, the writing itself is not good, prose-wise.
as for whether or not the novelization is canon, it definitely isn't. it doesn't take place in any particular season—the team is split like in s5, but warrick is getting a divorce like in s7—and some of the biographical details for the characters either flat-out contradict or at least don't mesh well with what we learn on the show. it very much reads like a canon-adjacent au.
the only other csi novel i've read is cold burn by max allan collins (which is the only other csi novel that features romantic gsr). it's also just okay-ish. i mean, there are some cute moments, but, again, there's tons of fic out there that's leaps and bounds better.
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