SUPER ATTRACTIVE MAN: You're cute. Really cute.
*further flirtation, leading to sexy chat about wanting to meet*
ME: So, are you looking? I'm seriously looking to play.
HIM: I seriously would love to, but my partner and I only play together, and that big bear is out of town.
ME: *crushed and a little annoyed that he led me this far*
HIM: Do you wanna swap private media?
ME: *even more annoyed* I'm looking seriously to play, honestly. I've wasted too much time already on flakey or unavailable people. If we swap private pics, it would only be a big, merciless tease of something we both know we cannot have.
HIM: That's fair. Too bad. You're really cute. Are you sure?
ME: Have a good one, man.
HIM: *flashes dick pic ten seconds later*
ME: DON'T TEASE PEOPLE, DAMMIT.
What are the morals of the story, kids?
1. When someone asks you not to be a tease, respect their wishes.
2. If you're on GROWLr and you've got an "only with my partner present" rule, that's fine but don't lead people on when you know you cannot meet.
3. Swapping pics is totally cool if you've clearly established early on that THAT is all it's going to be.