#hshqtask047

[barbiebraganca]

* ⠀ ⠀ 🐝 ⠀ ⠀ / ⠀ ⠀ task 47.⠀ ⠀ 、 ⠀ love language ⠀ ❫

expressing  — quality time, gift giving

receiving  — quality time, physical touch

it really is no surprise that a child of people with important and demanding jobs would show and receive love mainly through quality time. in the first few years of her life, henrique wouldn’t let barbara out of his sight; too protective to do so. having a child had been his wish, why would he want to be away from her when he finally got barbie ? it was when he dropped everything to sit in the middle of his office and play with a two year old that she felt the happiest. that she felt loved. and that’s the sentiment she tries to replicate and inflict on others: barbara isn’t one to speak of feelings, let alone confess them, so words of affirmation could never be her thing. physical contact for her is strategic, it’s done when she deems necessary. acts of service can’t be done when one barely has the time to breathe. now if she finds being with you is more important than whatever is pinned and marked on her schedule, that’s how you know you’re loved by barbara. but she can’t always be there, dropping everything is easier said than done — that she learned from her mother — so she makes up for it by giving you something that will have you know she cares. a birthday might be missed but the birthday present will never be forgotten. she couldn’t make it to an important night ? you’ll get the biggest congratulatory present. and it was never about the present itself but the time and effort she puts into finding a way to say she loves you into an object: a personal one that shows she knows you. 

just as much as she enjoys both of those things by giving does she enjoy receiving them, but neither catches them off guard as physical touch could. because she isn’t one to do it herself, rarely does she expect another to do it for her. often she thinks of how much peace and care can be showed by a simple touch, so much she almost wishes she could do it herself. but it feels so much better to be given this kind of affection when a tight and warm hug comes out of nowhere or someone lays their head on her shoulder, holds her hand, touches her hair. if she judges it truthful, barbie will for sure melt into the action. from a romantic partner she expects contact at all times — never initiated by her, god forbid she does it herself.  a hand on her arm, waist, small on the back, shoulder, hand, hip, even if it’s only their arms touching she’ll appreciate it. it really isn’t hard to make barbie feel loved: she likes to hear it but actions do speak louder than words.

[vrnvuld]

HSHQTASK047 — LOVE LANGUAGE

under a read more because i got carried away !

[tvkla]

HSHQ TASK FORTY SEVEN  /  tekla’s love language.

GIVING: 

i. QUALITY TIME. 

tekla is a woman on a mission, always has been !  when she was younger, time management wasn’t exactly her strongest suit, and there was apprehension on coming off the wrong way or offending people — she wasn’t as good at saying no as she is now. her time is extremely precious to her, especially the time that she carves out of an already busy schedule. if she takes the time to spend with you, it really means you’re special. this goes for friends, family, and of course, especially @thcrc. 

with thore, they are both busy, they both have separate lines of work that don’t always converge — when they do, she’s all business. but it’s in the evenings as they’re winding down for the night, the mornings when they wake up, when they’re getting ready to go somewhere, when they plan something together or when she begs him to take her somewhere on a respite from their life, even if it’s just for dinner is, when she makes the effort to be completely and absolutely present. she cherishes that. it strengthens their bond, it gives her life.

ii. PHYSICAL TOUCH.

her physicality speaks volumes. tekla has a sinuous and fluid form, it’s often easy to tell when she’s completely relaxed around a person. she’ll touch friends on the arm or elbow while talking, nudge them playfully, lean on them if they’re sitting next to each other, squeeze them when she gets excited, clasps their hands in hers sincerely when she is listening to something deep, loops their arms with hers when they’re doing something mundane. with the best of friends, this happens a little more in subtle ways — part of it is a sense of belonging and safety, it not only bolsters her emotionally and psychologically, but it’s something she wants known. her friends. her favourites. it is less about being possessive than it is about love and pride.

with family & thore, hugs are plenty, but she is careful not to overstep. nilsa of course gets the full brunt of her urges. she doesn’t love being attached to thore at the hip during events, it’s counterproductive, but when they are in safe, familiar territory, some part of her body is always touching his: whether her hand rests on his lap, or their knees are pressed against each other, or she is absentmindedly rubbing his arm, or has her fingers laced with his. in a way, he is like her social power battery, she feels him around her and a surge of energy boosts her to carry on doing whatever she’s doing. i don’t think i need to explain how physical tekla is with thore when they’re alone together ;) , she loves playing with his hair, it’s one of her favourite things and can be annoying about it sometimes. 

RECEIVING

i. PHYSICAL TOUCH. 

this is really not as relevant for platonic relationships as it is for thore & her family. as far as romance goes, nonsexual acts of physical touch were not as important to her from a romantic partner until thore — she can’t explain it, and neither can i. it’s this inexplicable form of comfort and need for it that drives this. if he doesn’t reciprocate the way she touches him of his own volition then what’s the point ?  

ii. ACTS OF SERVICE.

i feel like this is self-explanatory. loyalty and understanding are two things that are very important to her, and people with both tend to get into her closer circles very quickly. this is because these are the types of people who learn what she needs the quickest and are there before she even realises she’s bitten off more than she can chew, or might need a little boost. 

just look at the important people in her life: 

thore, because he’s been raised to treat women the way they want and need to be treated. the croÿs may be problematic, but they are loyal and it is the occasional lack of support in actions that sometimes make her struggle to feel valid despite @fannicroy‘s sweet words, @olimpiacroy’s praise and @lcvcntc ‘s occasional acknowledgement. @ebbv got her through a very trying time in her life when she was entering into the glücksburg clan officially without tekla ever needing to ask and surpassed nearly everyone in her wedding party. she will return the favour or die trying ( or lavish time & attention where ebba needs it because it’s how she gives love best: see first section ). i’m mentioning very very few people — there are a few more, but i am tired and lazy and very sorry about that.

                                                  xoxo, brought to you by lea,                                                       happy valentines’ day !!

[yihwa]

047 # HSHQTASK  :  LOVE LANGUAGE .

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HOW KWON YIHWA NEEDS   ‘  LOVE  ’  !

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION    __    baby, tell me you love me . as a child, when you’re told you are beautiful, you believe it. as an adult, if you still believe, you’re a fool, however, that proves not to be the case for yihwa. nothing makes her happier than being told she’s appreciated  --  that she is loved  --  that she’s as perfect as she’s been trying so goddamn hard to be ; little compliments that may sound pretty to the ear but make her heart swell ten times its size. communication, itself, is important to her and plays a huge role in how she perceives her relationship with others. if communication begins to drift, she begins to feel less secure. 

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HOW KWON YIHWA EXPRESSES   ‘  LOVE  ’  !

QUALITY TIME  & PHYSICAL TOUCH    __    let’s stay together . for others, yihwa believes quality time and physical touch go hand in hand. she will clear time in her schedule, drop whatever she’s doing, hail the next plane ticket if needed, in order to spend time with the people she loves. when she’s there, she’s giving you her undivided attention, actively listening and giving others the focus and meaningful attentiveness they deserve. physically affectionate, yihwa isn’t one who shies away from giving others hugs and kisses on the cheeks  --   even if it means rumpled clothes and lipstick stains on unblemished skin. she wants others to know that her presence is there for them and will make it known through small gestures like stroking their hair back, brushes of the thumb against the back of their palms, or even being the shoulder to cry on.

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BONUS !   HOW KWON YIHWA PERCEIVES   ‘ V-DAY ’  !

&    _    a heart half full, a glass half empty . since valentine’s day is the same day as her birthday, yihwa is usually indifferent about valentine’s day. she doesn’t necessarily celebrate nor does she think negatively of the holiday or anyone who likes it / celebrates it, even if it is oh-so-obviously a capitalist’s dream. if her friends are free, then she’ll have dinner with them for her birthday. but more often than not, they usually have valentine plans so she spends her birthday full of birthday greetings and wishes but no actual plans and usually a night in with wine. however, she does like the aesthetic of the holiday since red is one of her favorite colors. 

[highsocietyhq]

HSHQTASK047: LOVE LANGUAGES

in the spirit of valentine’s day, this task requires you to consider your character’s love languages ? how do they express love ? similarly, how do they receive love ? dig into their psyche and show us why you think this is ! are their love languages the same in platonic relationships vs. romantic ? this task is OPTIONAL and the tag is #HSHQTASK047.

— click the source link to read up on chapman’s five love languages !

[mchaeleicn]

HSHQTask047: Love Languages

giving love: touch receiving love: touch

Michael is incredibly sensitive about touch. He’s not entirely sure where it came from but he knows it started before his father started hitting him. Not that that helped. He find physical contact to be an incredibly personal and intimate thing and does not share it likely. So anytime he does so, it is incredibly special. 

PDA is very uncommon for Michael so when photos started showing him holding hands with Parker, the press knew it was a big deal. People hardly even see him hugging or being close to his sister, even though he was famously protective. That’s what started the rumors of him being unaffectionate. Cold. The opposite is truth, Michael is merely private. He saves his hugs and shoulder squeezes for when he’s alone with someone. 

When Michael wants to convey support or comfort he will grab someone’s hand and squeeze. His grip is always firm but never domineering. Michael likes to leave space for other people to be, he knows he has power and tries not to overwhelm people, he wants people to have the space he never had. 

Because Michael is so reluctant to touch and be touch he is also touch starved meaning then when you touch him he’ll lean into it. He does this mostly with Parker, leaning into touch and sinking into being cuddled like a man taking a drink of water after wandering in the desert. 

It’s also important to know that Michael would never and will never raise his hand to another in anger. He is a solider and commanders of the Irish military and nows that he will send men and women to kill and be killed. That he can accept. But he had committed himself to never striking another person out of anger. Michael has the scars that come from that and he not become his father. 

[kscniya]

hshqtask047 »  love languages.

pulled an all nighter preparing documents before a deadline ? she’ll bring your coffee order to your desk just when your eyes start dragging in sleep. just stepped into the shower ? she’ll throw your towel into the dryer, so it’s warm by the time you come out. important meeting on wednesday at noon ? she’ll have your dress shirt ironed and hung up on your door by wednesday morning. 

in both platonic and romantic relationships, kseniya expresses love through acts of service. her psyche plays heavily into the way in which she demonstrates affection — she takes upon acts that she hopes will make her loved ones feel appreciated and tasks that will assist in lightening their loads. 

despite this, she does not enjoy receiving love through acts of service. although they are greatly appreciated, love expressed towards her through acts often make her feel burdensome. with such a strong tendency to second guess her place and her worth, she feels most loved when affection is given to her through words of affirmation. 

[fannicroy]

RECEIVING — words of affirmation

It’s all very simple: you tell her she is important, make her feel seen, make her feel loved — and she’s content. It’s one of the reasons why she very much prefers straight forward people. Directness makes her worries disappear and she doesn’t spend time second-guessing the relationship. Be it friends, lovers or family, she needs to hear she is wanted around, adored, loved. She can sometimes have trouble reading between the lines and her mind is very capable of filling her head with doubts. Words are important to Fanni. 

GIVING — gifts

The difference between acts of service and gift giving is small when it comes to royals but Fanni’s thinks little trinkets are the best way to express her love. Someone crosses her mind when she sees an item, she buys it. If it’s something more expensive, she saves it for a special occasion, otherwise she simply surprises the other person. She puts in a lot of effort into birthday and Christmas presents, plans them months ahead and is terribly displeased if she feels like her present is lacking. It might not be a lot considering how wealthy everyone are but it’s just goes to show how the people she cares about inhabit her mind and how often she thinks of them.