seen from China
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from Malaysia
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from Australia
seen from Australia
seen from United States
seen from Canada
seen from Australia
seen from United States
seen from Brazil
seen from Philippines
seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from Malaysia
seen from Singapore
seen from United States
Fertility is a struggle a lot of people go through, regardless of whether or not you have an autoimmune disorder. I was recently told that it's embarrassing and I shouldn't be so open about it. It can be devastating, not everything in life is sunshine and unicorns. But it is never something to be embarrassed about.
Also, I contemplated making him just say "No!" like normal. But I'm in a mood so this is how it's gonna be
July 26, 2017
We’ve had multiple people send us info on therapists and the like to help us deal with “what we’re going through”. But here’s the thing -- we don't really have frustrations or anything like that, especially with conception. If we don't conceive, at least we had fun. We honestly, legitimately, truly *do not care* if we conceive or not. We try for a year then go to plans B and C. Remember, our goal isn’t to Have A Kid. It’s to Be Parents.
June 20, 2017 (again)
I want to say thank you for meaning well to the *many* people who have said they overcame their infertility. But please stop. I do not see it as overcoming anything. I am not broken. We are simply trying to conceive naturally before we move on to other means. We have plans in triplicate for both surrogacy and adoption. We know that in all likelihood, we will have to use these options, and we don't see it as "resorting" to them. We are perfectly happy with them. We just wanted to explore natural conception first. What you see as giving me hope is quite frankly detrimental to my mental health. I need to not have hope. I need to rely on statistics. That is how my brain works. That is not how everyone's brain works, and I know that. But for me, keeping real, staying analytical ("cold" even), being public about my experiences, and probably having a darker sense of humor about it all than I really should... these are how I am coping. You all mean well, and I know it. And I appreciate it. Thank you <3 ETA: I'm actually really okay with it. People keep saying that it sucks not to be able to get pregnant. And I'm sure for some people it does. But someone just put our situation beautifully: *Having* a kid was never our goal. Being parents was. We just wanted to try to the Grow Your Own At Home™ kit first before we went Free Range. (read: before we went with the options we thought were more likely from the start anyway)
