I was reading comments on the Maren Sanchez, and I saw something that pissed me off but made me think. The way society's going now, we're teaching kids that everyone's always a winner and you don't ever have to lose, and they're not learning how to deal with rejection on all fronts. What are your thoughts on that?
Yeah, it kind of starts with those little league games where at the end of the season they give everyone trophies (and not even like different trophies depending on how well they did it’s just the exact same trophy) even if they never actually hit the ball. It’s like, well, we don’t want to hurt their self esteem because they tried, but I think that’s bull. Yeah, they tried and that’s great, we should praise them for that but we shouldn’t reward them because then they’ll never be urged to improve and they’ll just expect things to be handed to them.
Things like that where, oh you tried or oh you actually did something are the reasons why I had a guy in my english class who would ask for extra credit on the few days when he actually did his homework because that was an improvement for him and some great achievement when the girl who was striving for a 4.0 couldn’t get extra credit to bring her A- up to A.
Not everyone is a winner, we can’t always be winners. If we want to be we need to strive to be one and work hard to get there. If we’re just handing kids trophies for sitting on the bench, we’re not teaching them that. We’re teaching them it’s their right to have these things. It’s their right to get a good grade, it’s their right to get into college, it’s their right for the pretty girl to go to prom with them. It’s NOT their right, it’s their reward, their privilege for working hard and being a good person.
And yeah, sometimes when you try really hard, you still fail and you still get rejected but we should be teaching them that that is completely normal and that not everyone gets everything they want all the time and they just need to bounce back.