Since there's so much drama and just yuckiness in tiktok witch (I can't remember the name) and drama in witchblr, any advice on a place someone can go to find resources and chat/get advice
The answer to this is complicated, as most things are. Thereās no one place, and you should never attach too much weight to any particular person. If you fall into the habit of taking one person as the be all end all Authority On Everything, you leave yourself vunerable to exploitation and bullshit.Ā
Yes, including me. I implore all of you to not hold me up as the One And Only Authority on things. Do not hang all of your own path and practice on me. I am happy to help to guide if asked, but I do not have answers for everything, and you ought to seek out opinions other than mine in all things.Ā
You need to be able to seek out these opinions, spot the ones that are closeminded or exploitative or hateful, goĀ āWell fuck thatā and discard them.Ā
You need to be able to takeĀ ānoā for an answer. As in, if a closed practice saysĀ āNo, not for you,ā you need to be able to take that respectfully and not react with self-centered entitlement.Ā
The commonality that most witches and pagans I trust is this; they have read widely of books on many subjects relating to witchcraft and religion, not just their own but many. They have read the worst Silver Ravenwolf and also obscure academic works looking at the historical cultures from which they draw. They have read the Bible as well as the Quran as well as the Eddas as well as Greek myth as well as Gerald Gardnerās work as well as the works of anthropologists studying the archeological leavings of those who came before us. They understand then the context in which modern paganism and their path exists.Ā
They have sought out knowledge themselves rather than only getting it in approved doses from another.Ā
The people I chat with/get advice from must past a simple test; do not look down on or hate others for things they cannot control. They cannot be racist, or deinigrate those unilke them. And they cannot insist that all must follow their way, and that All Others Are Doing It Wrong. They cannot insist that some cannot practice because of physical issues beyond their control.Ā
If a person passes this simple test then I may chat with, bounce ideas off, ask advice from, ect.Ā
The vast majority of the questionable content on both Witchblr and Witchtok, from what Iāve seen, stems mainly from people with a very very narrow view of things who have not read widely and sought out opinions from a wide variety of people. They tend to be self centered, entitled, and to not like to be toldĀ ānoā. They assume their way is the only way, and become upset when other people do not conform to what they think is the Right Way to practice.Ā
So my answer is this; speak with many practitioners and cultivate friendships with thoughtful people who have done a lot of self-introspection and wide study. Quality over quantity, always.Ā