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[visthemyth]

lukas full body ref Ive made

[lovngs]

gonna  be  making  a  brand  spanking  new  blog  and  be  highly  selective  ,  since  this  one  is  cluttered  and  idk  what  to  do  with  it  </3  when  i  make  the  blog  (  probably  finish  tomorrow  )  give  this  a  like  if  you’d  like  me  to  follow  you  !

[wakemeup-enoughisenough]

this post is gonna be tmi and way more than i usually share, but honestly i’m very fed up and so it is time for a rant

with pelvic pain awareness month upon us and vaginismus awareness day approaching, those with vaginismus are going to see a lot of “inspiring” messages about dilating and encouraging you to do it and saying that you “just need to make time” for it and make it routine/it’s on you if you aren’t making time for it. i’ve seen this message a lot over the years and it’s come up again already as a month long conversation and we are only on september 2nd. these messages are garbage to me and make me feel so truly horrible, so i wanted to share my experience in hopes someone out there like me can feel a little better and take comfort that these messages are bullshit.

i don’t want this to invalidate anyone who DOES have success with dilating or who sees it as an easy thing to make time for. i’m happy for you and i wish your experience were universal for dilator users.

i just want to validate those who are like me, for whom it is a physically and emotionally painful task and who have to keep seeing the message pushed on us that if we choose not to do it we deserve to still have pain...

i struggle to “make time” for dilating because it’s not a cookie cutter experience for everyone. for me it isn’t something that can be simply added to my routine. i don’t think i’m alone in that or should be blamed for “not making time.” as someone who has pain after dilating and needs to do external massages before, ifc treatment after, and shower after to avoid further irritation and infection..... as well as drinking d-mannose and trying to urinate after with IC and a spasming pelvic floor...

these messages about how easy/routine dilating can be are not as inspiring as you think they are and are actually quite invalidating to my dilating experience. it takes so much time and literally all of my energy to do it and if i do it then i am committing to not being able to do anything else for the rest of the day. and i don’t think i’m the only one for whom dilating is a big task. it is easier for some than others but for those who it’s a hard task for: i see you and your experience is valid. don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. no, not even the official vaginismus network.

[angel-pirate-child]

So I’ve been home sick, and bored af, so I drew @softsiriusblack​. I got an anon ask suggesting this a while ago (I think, may have been a dream), so anon, if you’re out there (and real) then I hope you like it!

[the-sanders-sides]

charms

charms - are you religious?

im honestly not sure. ive been thinking about religion a lot lately, and i really don't know the answer to that question. like, i follow the doctrine and philosophy of the religion i was raised with and i mostly agree with it, but i don't know if i believe in any god as an entity, if that makes sense.

[evilbound-remade]

this is like the hundredth time ive changed my url this yr

[halcy0n]

ng i want to make brownies but its 1am

[themorbidjam]

Fandom Exhaustion

Read more for bitching about Transformers.

I absolutely hate the Transformers fandom. I hate people nitpicking language and calling other people's takes that ultimately align with theirs 'weird sentiments' because they decided to blatantly misinterpret a stranger's meaning and intent. Extra impolite when they reblog the post directly from said person to make sure they know you personally disagree and think their tags are gross.

I get that the TF fandom has very few female characters and therefore we need to challenge the status quo in focusing too much on male characters and trying to fix some of the STUPID fandom verbiage because it's genuinely fucking weird, but fuck you.

This is why change is difficult in progressive spaces because you losers can't hold your fucking tongue and assume the best of strangers and you have to try and cripple someone for trying to change or improve, even if you disagree with how.

Mech is a fucking word. A word for robot. A word that the transformers fandom has used to refer to exclusively as men. Therefore, I think it's best to JUST use a different word for A: clarity that I'm NOT USING IT FOR MEN and B: because i personally just don't like the word mech for anything but a piloted robot. I'm allowed to feel that way. '

Femme is a word for lesbian culture and should never have been used in TF fandom in the first place.

Okay? Cool? Fuck you, Rando for making me feel shame for AGREEING with you because you didn't give me the benefit of the doubt! Fuck you for not having the decency to NOT reblog it from me so I'd never see your rotten take! AND! I bet you're really fun at parties!!