On this article, Shaikh ‘Abd Al-Khaliq Ash-Sharif (may Allāh be pleased with him) presents some suggestions to get your daughters accustomed to wearing hijab without the need of “forcing” it on them.
1) To get small girls accustomed to wearing long clothes, even if they were wide trousers and blouse, when they are at seven years of age.
2) To make the girl accustomed to covering her hair by wearing a scarf, even a short one, on her head by the age of ten. 3) At the age of puberty the family should oblige the daughter to wear the Hijab and to abide by its specifications and conditions- these steps prepare the daughter to accept wearing the Hijab pleasantly and naurally. It is better to let her live as a human being and not as a machine that is directed auotmatically by pressing a switch. 4) The mother should carefully monitor the changes in her daughter’s body and the development of her secual maturity. - this is because some girls seem older due to having a larger physique. They reach puberty at an earlier age. Therefore, the mother should not look on her daughter as a childm focusing only on her age while being oblivious of her growing maturity, because other people do not see her in the same way. 5) Some of the things that make wearing the Hijab easy for girls include the kind of upbringing she receives in her house, the Islamic morals and values implanted in her, along with her family’s glorification of and adherence to Allaah’s obligations and rules. 6) Appropriate comments should be made by the family on what the girl sees of women making dazzling display of themselves, like the women of the former times of Jahiliyyah(pre-Islamic era), to arouse men’s lustful desires. 7) Speaking about the distinct beauty of the Hijab and the gravity of shyness that it adds to the girl who wears it. 8) Emphasizing that: “Whoever holds in honor the rites of Allaah, (in the sacrifice of animals), such (honor) should come truly from piety of heart.” [Al-Hajj:32], and hastening to the obedience of Allāh is a sign of strong faith, and shedding light on the Companions’ example in fleeing to Allāh’s way in every thing they did. 9) Mentioning the many healthy benefits of wearing the Hijab such as protecting one’s complexion and hair from the harmful rays of the sun, from the severe cold, etc. 10) The mother should clearly explain to her daughter the psychological and social advantages resulting from wearing the Hijab. Explaining the benefits of wearing the Hijab, Allāh says: “… that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested…” [Al-Azhab: 59]. Wearing the Hijab, indeed, reflects the girl’s righteouness and accordingly protects her from the rudeness and insults of immoral and corrupt persons. 11) Before all these and along with it, we should implant in our daughter’s hearts strong belief in Allāh, the importance of obeying Him and the fruits of that to be found in attaining Paradise and fleeing from the Hell-fire by virtue of Allāh’s Mercy. After all, we ask for the help of Allāh, as true guidance is the Guidance of Allāh, and He guides therwith whom He pleases.
SOURCE: [ Our Daughters and Hijab ]