INFP super ego
I think that INFP is seriously the least fortunate of all mbti types. No, it is not because INFPs are sensitive. No, it is not because they like their comfort zone or whatever other bullshit. You want to know why? Here you go, sweetheart.
INFPs lead with introverted feeling Fi and their inferior function is extroverted thinking Te. If you are turbulent to that and are not practicing your Te sitting at home endlessly drawing unicorns you basically have no fucking idea of reality. I know right, so many times it is repeated in case of INFPs, ‘’perception becomes reality’’ but seriously how dangerous that is, think about it. I don’t get the idea when people think INFPs are cute and adorable whereas, if that how they look like, they don’t even live in reality! Their Fi was cherished over their entire life, they have no discipline to accomplish anything = weak Te and instead are in their bubble of comfort Si. They don’t experience real things. They don’t have even real Si.
Well then, yeah, that sucks, but what then would happen when INFP decides to actually get out of their comfort zone and move out and start working and be independent? Reality hits them. Reality is brutal, life is a jungle. It is not about being pessimistic even here, it is true. People hurt each other, people don’t understand each other, people compete, are cruel, people disappoint. Any other type would deal with that better than INFP. Why? Well, INFP hero is Fi and parent Ne. INFP IMAGINES his reality and he fucking believes in it (if Te = objectivity is weak and Ti not used = demon). So he goes there and offers smiles and rainbows and very well if he meets mind like people but most likely he will meet variety of people. Fi starts to crush. Crushing and crushing... Oh, INFP can’t make much sense of what is happening, I mean, what happened with my ‘’reality’’? If INFP doesn’t feel good about reality, if he isn’t respected with his Te, if he doesn’t think he is doing something meaningful and important for him, then INFP’s soul is dying. In such case, INFP should go see therapist. What is happening then? Fi is taken over by... Ti. yep, his demon function. INFP is no longer INFP but becomes ISTP, super ego replaces ego, and now original INFP is just broken, demon rules his mind and mody, yep, Se. This is why you can read INFPs are sluts, well, that is because they are most likely taken then by their super ego, no morals, ding something completely against themselves. They abandon ideas Ne (imagination and “reality”, I mean, it didn’t work anyway, right?), doesn’t have comfort zone Si anymore, and weak Te is replaced with even more weak, childish and lash outing Fe, wonderful. INFPs are so interesting.
All right, things are bad for our INFP now. What INFP can do to snap out of it and become healthier and stronger? Well, there are couple of options. Like you maybe know, our psyche is split into 4 sides, conscious = ego, unconscious, subconscious and super ego = demon. Our INFP knows his ego and now discovers his super ego, but doesn’t have any control over the latter as it is our most primitive and often pathological instincts and fantasies. Think now how INFP can go bad now with ISTP super ego. Exactly. So best would be if INFP from earlier stages was developing his Te. Then he wouldn’t trust blindly Fi but that Fi would be balanced by objectivity. This is the key, the ultimate key to happiness for all types. To balance hero with inferior function. To not let demon out. Demon lets out through having inferior function violated or through inferior function not working well enough. I should probably make some algorithm for that. Te violated (people don’t respect you), but you actually have Te -> take care of your Te, change environment, change what you are doing, change attitide you have toward those people, whatever you do you have to feel important and that your input matter. This is relatively easy to solve in my opinion. As adults and assuming with an income we can change our environment and job. Okay but what if demon is entering ego and INFP does not any longer believe in good in world? Go use your Te. But not work wise. Write your feelings. Understand them. Fi + Te. Know what went wrong. Ultimately this is why that happened. You failed to see reality. So now go and check how that happened and understand (!!!) that life is not like Fi + Ne. Or Fi + Si. Life is Fi + Te and then you work on what is in between. So organise your feelings and impressions, expectations, understand you can’t control people develop healthy and Te. It is not about work. Many INFPs turn to work when under stress, organise some random stuff. Don’t. Or maybe at first. But the key is to relate Te to Fi and that will save you and you will be so damn strong. So yeah, again, it is not about work. It is defining your own, personal strong life philosophy based on values AND OBJECTIVITY. I recommend that INFPs read works on objectivity btw, e.g. Ayn Rand, that will make you tougher. Only then you can go and rule the world. What else? Toughen yourself up with stuff like discipline, discipline your mind, wake up early, have cold shower, meditate, workout. This Te is not about work and achievement and supposed feeling of importance that that gives to you! Never let your self esteem go down by not speaking up, say what you think, be blunt sometimes, use Te not only to defend yourself (so in stressful situations) but also daily things.
And what else. Of course you have 3 sides of the mind, after having ego set up, you are in you subconscious pretty much, you are working on your Te, become ESTJ like. Te being the gate to happiness. But the right Te! Okay, want more? You enter your unconscious = shadow, ENFJ, develop it, you become wiser and mature. Finally you master your super ego and you gain enlightenment -> your all 4 sides of psyche are integrated and you no longer lead with merely ego side.
Summing up. What INFP should do to survive in REAL world? Go develop your Te that works for your Fi. Learn what is objectivism. Accept it. Use Te to balance Fi. Fi is awesome but if not balanced, then combined with Ne is most dangerous for the user of all types! This is why it is so important to develop healthy Te. If in super ego stage already, then go also to Te and understand in an objective way your Fi feelings and values and how they are really helpful for you, update them.
Ah, so much to say, but for now I am done.