#infp help

[infp-warrior-cinnamon-roll]

Somedays getting a single load of laundry is all you can muster up the energy to do and thats ok. Be proud of yourself for the small accomplishments even if you feel like they aren't worth celebrating.

[infpsupport]

INFP super ego

I think that INFP is seriously the least fortunate of all mbti types. No, it is not because INFPs are sensitive. No, it is not because they like their comfort zone or whatever other bullshit. You want to know why? Here you go, sweetheart.

INFPs lead with introverted feeling Fi and their inferior function is extroverted thinking Te. If you are turbulent to that and are not practicing your Te sitting at home endlessly drawing unicorns you basically have no fucking idea of reality. I know right, so many times it is repeated in case of INFPs, ‘’perception becomes reality’’ but seriously how dangerous that is, think about it. I don’t get the idea when people think INFPs are cute and adorable whereas, if that how they look like, they don’t even live in reality! Their Fi was cherished over their entire life, they have no discipline to accomplish anything = weak Te and instead are in their bubble of comfort Si. They don’t experience real things. They don’t have even real Si.

Well then, yeah, that sucks, but what then would happen when INFP decides to actually get out of their comfort zone and move out and start working and be independent? Reality hits them. Reality is brutal, life is a jungle. It is not about being pessimistic even here, it is true. People hurt each other, people don’t understand each other, people compete, are cruel, people disappoint. Any other type would deal with that better than INFP. Why? Well, INFP hero is Fi and parent Ne. INFP IMAGINES his reality and he fucking believes in it (if Te = objectivity is weak and Ti not used = demon). So he goes there and offers smiles and rainbows and very well if he meets mind like people but most likely he will meet variety of people. Fi starts to crush. Crushing and crushing... Oh, INFP can’t make much sense of what is happening, I mean, what happened with my ‘’reality’’? If INFP doesn’t feel good about reality, if he isn’t respected with his Te, if he doesn’t think he is doing something meaningful and important for him, then INFP’s soul is dying. In such case, INFP should go see therapist. What is happening then? Fi is taken over by... Ti. yep, his demon function. INFP is no longer INFP but becomes ISTP, super ego replaces ego, and now original INFP is just broken, demon rules his mind and mody, yep, Se. This is why you can read INFPs are sluts, well, that is because they are most likely taken then by their super ego, no morals, ding something completely against themselves. They abandon ideas Ne (imagination and “reality”, I mean, it didn’t work anyway, right?), doesn’t have comfort zone Si anymore, and weak Te is replaced with even more weak, childish and lash outing Fe, wonderful. INFPs are so interesting. 

All right, things are bad for our INFP now. What INFP can do to snap out of it and become healthier and stronger? Well, there are couple of options. Like you maybe know, our psyche is split into 4 sides, conscious = ego, unconscious, subconscious and super ego = demon. Our INFP knows his ego and now discovers his super ego, but doesn’t have any control over the latter as it is our most primitive and often pathological instincts and fantasies. Think now how INFP can go bad now with ISTP super ego. Exactly. So best would be if INFP from earlier stages was developing his Te. Then he wouldn’t trust blindly Fi but that Fi would be balanced by objectivity. This is the key, the ultimate key to happiness for all types. To balance hero with inferior function. To not let demon out. Demon lets out through having inferior function violated or through inferior function not working well enough. I should probably make some algorithm for that. Te violated (people don’t respect you), but you actually have Te -> take care of your Te, change environment, change what you are doing, change attitide you have toward those people, whatever you do you have to feel important and that your input matter. This is relatively easy to solve in my opinion. As adults and assuming with an income we can change our environment and job. Okay but what if demon is entering ego and INFP does not any longer believe in good in world? Go use your Te. But not work wise. Write your feelings. Understand them. Fi + Te. Know what went wrong. Ultimately this is why that happened. You failed to see reality. So now go and check how that happened and understand (!!!) that life is not like Fi + Ne. Or Fi + Si. Life is Fi + Te and then you work on what is in between. So organise your feelings and impressions, expectations, understand you can’t control people develop healthy and Te. It is not about work. Many INFPs turn to work when under stress, organise some random stuff. Don’t. Or maybe at first. But the key is to relate Te to Fi and that will save you and you will be so damn strong. So yeah, again, it is not about work. It is defining your own, personal strong life philosophy based on values AND OBJECTIVITY. I recommend that INFPs read works on objectivity btw, e.g. Ayn Rand, that will make you tougher. Only then you can go and rule the world. What else? Toughen yourself up with stuff like discipline, discipline your mind, wake up early, have cold shower, meditate, workout. This Te is not about work and achievement and supposed feeling of importance that that gives to you! Never let your self esteem go down by not speaking up, say what you think, be blunt sometimes, use Te not only to defend yourself (so in stressful situations) but also daily things. 

And what else. Of course you have 3 sides of the mind, after having ego set up, you are in you subconscious pretty much, you are working on your Te, become ESTJ like. Te being the gate to happiness. But the right Te! Okay, want more? You enter your unconscious = shadow, ENFJ, develop it, you become wiser and mature. Finally you master your super ego and you gain enlightenment -> your all 4 sides of psyche are integrated and you no longer lead with merely ego side. 

Summing up. What INFP should do to survive in REAL world? Go develop your Te that works for your Fi. Learn what is objectivism. Accept it. Use Te to balance Fi. Fi is awesome but if not balanced, then combined with Ne is most dangerous for the user of all types! This is why it is so important to develop healthy Te. If in super ego stage already, then go also to Te and understand in an objective way your Fi feelings and values and how they are really helpful for you, update them.

Ah, so much to say, but for now I am done.

[infpconfessionsoflife]

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Being an INFP is tough, especially at the part that you tend to overthink and exaggerate stuffs. I am a social, sympathized person and I never mean to hurt anyone’s feelings. Sure, sometimes I tend to say something without thinking properly to a friend, but I never mean that in a negative way. A few days ago, I knew for a fact that a girl, whom I wasn’t even close with in high school, called me names, told me that I am a two-faced person and talked behind my back. It hurt me deeply. I was not even close to that girl, either contacted her ever since college, but she called me that. I acknowledge that I should not care about that, and what my friends & people that I love think about me matters more. But her sayings affect me considerable, and I could not be comfortable for 2 days straight because of that. How to get rid of these discomfort out of my head and chest? Do you have any advice?

[infp-warrior-cinnamon-roll]

I know things are hard for you right now. The world is not treating you right and there seems to be no way to fix this. I am truly sorry that you have to go through this right now. It must be hard. I want you to know that though things look bleak, hopeless, empty, or frustrating...it will get better. Find one thing each day that helps you remember that life is beautiful even with all the troubles that are going on in the world. It could be the smallest or most random thing. It could be something that no one else thinks it's beautiful but that's ok because as long as you find it has beauty... that it is. I wish the best for you in all that you do.

[infpconfessionsoflife]

March INFP :3 I do notice that on Tumblr the INFP personality is being matched with Pisces a lot and it really does fit in my case. I have a question too. I see a lot of INFx personalities making very radical and not-logical things. Like everybody tells me I NEED to keep long hair, but I ignore them and decide to cut my hair by half all of sudden. It has something to do with "always-changing" mind set of mine, but maybe these radical decisions are an INFP thing too?

Hello Fellow INFP,

LOL to me that just sound like being a bit of a rebel XD Which honestly, I am guilty of it ;) I think the stereotype that we are push overs and have really no opinion, um that doesn’t mean we can’t be a bit rebellious and have our own thoughts. Being a rebel doesn’t mean you’re an all out “hell raiser”, just means you do thing say certain way and no one can tell you otherwise. Far from the truth I distinctly remember telling my friends that “no one could tell me what to do and I’d do what I wanted!” lol Because we are independent thinkers I think that is what sparks that.

How about you guys? Does anyone have an “always changing” mindset? Love to hear from you!

[infpuh-leeze]

How do you motivate yourself to study or do work in general? I'm literally ALWAYS daydreaming, and I never get things done on time.

I highly value self discipline to an extreme level. I want to have full control over how my emotions effect me and my choices in my life.

How I feel at the moment never dictates my choices, and while I allow my self to feel deeply about pretty much everything, I tell myself that I need to also think rationally. Because we INFPs are natural brooders (and day dreamers), we can use this time within our heads to evaluate which areas of our lives are causing failure and eliminate these little energy and time suckers. Feelings are fleeting. If the emotions are leading me to be against the choice I know I should make I say things in my mind like, “This is how you feel, but this is what you should do.” Sometimes I go as far as “Your emotions are irrelevant to the choice you need to make right now.”

Note: Deep emotions are powerful, if we tap into these and use them as sources of energy (especially pain and anger), we can become more successful in our lives :)

I’ve noticed that I, have a tenancy to seek out lots of various pleasures that if I indulge too frequently also control my life and hinder work/study that needs to be done. Pleasures like laziness (naps, laying around), foods (comfort foods), relationships (infatuations), and more. First I separated healthy from unhealthy “pleasures” and reward myself with “healthy pleasures” after completing a goal that I did not feel like doing. For example, I will not eat a food I really want or watch a show I’m interested in until I finish or make specific progress on a task I need to do. I found out this works better then creating a schedule because I’m more eager to get it done rather then feel stress from a time constraint. Not only does this prevent me from wasting time, but it also encourages healthy eating and living for me personally. Think about the pleasures you really enjoy, reading a chapter in a book your into, eating your favorite treat, and reward yourself for reaching a point you set in work and study.

I also don’t start projects I know I won’t finish. Make goals that you are passionate about that require you to work and study harder. All your work/study will be moving towards that goal. Also, I use that passion to master skills (think languages, instruments, ect) so time spent on these is improving these skills not becoming overwhelmed with various projects.

This isn’t overnight. 5 years ago my number once deciding factor for choices in my life was how I “felt” at the moment or how much pleasure it would bring me personally. Mastery will probably take a lifetime.

I’ll reblog some resources to help increase self discipline into your life (since everyone is a bit different and the ones I listed were more specific to my own issues) if you think it’s something you (or anyone else reading) is interested in.