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MBTI Cognitive Functions

Okay so I've had quite a few questions asking me about cognitive functions and what they are and since giving links to answer these questions does not seem to work, I've taken the liberty of assuming that you guys actually want me to explain the little that I know about MBTI in my inarticulate, awkward manner that is so NOT better than those links in which sophisticated, intelligent people explain the same things. So here you go....(people who are far more knowledgeable about mbti, feel free to criticize and add to this post!).

So there are 8 functions or preferences and the one that influences your cognitive processes the most is your dominant function the next strongest function is called the auxiliary function and balances out your first function by being introverted if it is extroverted and vice versa. The third strongest function is the tertiary function and this function is the opposite of your second function so as an INFP, because my second function is Ne, my third function is its opposite- Si (don’t freak out I’m going to explain these functions in a moment!). Finally, the awkward function that we are least comfortable ways is called our inferior function and is the opposite of the dominant function- since my dominant function is Fi, my inferior function is its opposite- Te.

So here are my brief explanations of each individual cognitive function-

Perceiving Functions- Sensing and Intuition

Extroverted Sensing (Se)- Accurately experiencing the environment around you and what your senses tell you about it and in real time- being in the now, and “living in the moment” is very easy for Se dominants (ESxPs).

Introverted Sensing (Si)- Experiencing things but then immediately comparing them to past memories to reflect or act upon after consideration. Si dominants (ISxJs) have great memories for detail and tend to “store” sensory information for use in the future.

Extroverted Intuition (Ne)- Seeing several possibilities all at once, seeing connections between people and things and having a gazillion ideas about everything you see. Ne dominants (ENxPs) are big picture people that are spontaneous and don’t enjoy dealing with detail.

Introverted Intuition (Ni)- Focusing on the future, narrowing in on the one truth, want to understand how things work or are at a fundamental level. Ni dominants’ (INxJs) weakness is detail but their internal framework makes them pretty adept at knowing what is really going on.

Judging Functions- Thinking and Feeling

Extroverted Thinking (Te)- Making decisions using objective facts and logic, being organized and arranging the world to suit what they want to do. Te dominants (ExTJs) are awesome at separating subjectivity from objectivity and make logical, fair decisions. 

Introverted Thinking (Ti)- Making decisions based on their own personal logic, analytical, logical, have internal models of how things work and need to know how things work on a deep level. Ti dominants (IxTPs) are amazing at learning, coming up with and applying complex theories

Extroverted Feeling (Fe)-Making decisions based on important cultural/social values, tuning into and connecting with people and understanding global ethics. Fe dominants (ExFJs) are great at knowing what the people around them are feeling and give importance to interpersonal values.

Introverted Feeling (Fi)- Making decisions that align with your own personal set of values and morals. Fi dominants (IxFPs) cling tightly to their values and are capable of great empathy (they feel so much that they've probably felt how you feel).

Note: Te, Ne, Se and Fe are objective functions and Ti, Ni, Si and Fi are subjective functions.

Yeah, so I’m going to shut up now and apologise if I rambled and hope you guys can make sense of this and it helps!

Love, - Your INFP Princess

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Top 5 Things That Are Really Difficult For INFPs

1. Completing/sticking with ideas- We INFPs rarely lack inspiration or motivation because of our rich internal world and extroverted intuition always grabbing random ideas. So it is quite easy to get us excited and start a project but we really struggle with finding enough will power and consistent energy to concentrate on, and finish it. Often, this leads to us having  a lot of half-done things- a scarf that we didn't have the patience to finish knitting, a school project for which we had a brilliant idea at first but then procrastinated on, an almost finished painting of a sunset that we can’t be bothered finishing, a story that we ended abruptly because we lost interest after the middle….the list goes on and on. We also get very easily distracted so even if we had enough energy to do one thing, another more interesting idea catches our attention very easily and we start pursuing that instead. 

2. Time management- INFPs tend to have a very delicate grip on reality and because of this, we have really bad control over our time. You know those moments when you think you’ve been sitting on your bed for five minutes but it’s actually been an hour? Well, that is OUR ENTIRE LIFE. We are prone to daydreaming and frequently getting lost in our minds and coming back after a happy trip, only to realise we wasted a lot of time when we could have been doing productive things. The notorious INFProcrastination also plays a big role in contributing to our poor management of time. We characteristically just push things away for tomorrow, or some other day which we is never coming. 

3. Living in the present - We are not living-in-the-moment type of people, we are either regretting/wishing we were in the past or worrying about/getting excited for the future to come in with exciting things but we have to realise that we can only move on from the past if we focus on the present, (get your shit done NOW, work hard NOW, do NOT move important tasks for another time!) and committing to the present is the only way to build a great future! If we do not focus on the moments that are happening now, they will pass us by before we know it and they will add to our regrets very quickly. So forgive people, let go of things in the past and abandon your inhibitions or hopes for the future so you won’t be let down or live in fear of what could happen. Trust me, the present is more glorious than any of us realise (and once you move there, you can still visit the past and future!).

4. Small talk- Making small talk and chit chat is often hard for INFPs because when we want to talk to people, we want to discuss things like what their deepest fears are and if they believe in soul mates and when we don’t want to talk to people…we just don’t! So indulging in conversations just to be polite seems really unnecessary to us, especially if it involves us stumbling through our awkwardness to find interesting remarks about the weather. This is also particularly hard for us because if we see someone we don’t know that well (with whom we are expected to engage in small talk with) and they see sad or hiding some emotion, we will pick up on that straight away and have to fight our urge to ask them about it.

5. Making decisions- INFPs are constantly criticized for our decision making abilities with J types calling us flighty, wishy-washy, impulsive, and so on and we never say anything against it, because IT IS TRUE! Our Fi makes it impossible for us not to take forever to make a decision (unless it is extremely developed in which case our values have a compass that points to what we must do). We must analyse, weigh the pros and cons and make sure our moral code and emotions comply with any decision we make, whether it is choosing between tacos and a pizza or making a life-altering decision (Note: exaggeration :D). And when people push us and give us stupid time constraints to make up our minds, is it really our fault that we make impulsive, feeling-oriented decisions (that we might regret later) or flighty, vague choices? 

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Top 5 Books Every INFP Should Read

1. The Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho What it’s about- Following your dreams and listening to your heart. (That sounded so cliche but this book is amazing) Why you should read it- For inspiration and incredible wisdom.

2. The Perks of Being a Wallflower, by Stephen Chbosky What it’s about- An infp wallflower growing up and dealing with his past, high school and understanding himself. TRIGGER WARNING: Central theme of sexual abuse. Why you should read it- For insight into our dominant function- introverted feeling.

3. To Kill a Mockingbird, by Harper Lee What it’s about- Doing what is right, morality, ethics and courage. Why you should read it- To understand how to implement your personal values and principles like Atticus Finch.

4. The Kite Runner, by Khaled Hosseini What it’s about- Forgiveness (that’s all I can say, really) TRIGGER WARNING: rape scene. Why you should read it- To get slapped by reality and yet left behind with hope (every infp needs this).

5. EVERY SINGLE FAIRY TALE IN THE HISTORY OF EVER What it’s (they’re) about- magic, dreams, imagination, love, may contain occasional bursts of fairy dust. Warning: Dragons might be involved. Why you should read it (them)- DO YOU REALLY NEED A REASON TO READ FAIRY TALES?!

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Dear Habibis,

It is beyond my comprehension why I have 500 (Well over that now since I'm late) of you! I know it's not a big number and I shouldn't be feeling so overjoyed but when I first started this blog, even a 100 followers were wishful thinking so forgive my embarrassing declaration of affection for you! I simply cannot help it! The thought of people- REAL, STRANGE HUMANS- looking at my posts from different parts of the world, liking them and relating to them makes me feel like I am not alone. I want you guys to know that each and every one of you occupy a special place in my heart and can always message me about anything and I'll always be there for you to help you, be your friend, give you (probably lame and gooey) advice or even just listen! In short-

- Your INFP princess