Internal Coherence and Self
Life can be difficult, to say the least.
I spent some time contemplating my shortcomings, in recent times, today. Most conflicts between values, morals, and beliefs and our actions are due to an area we lack in psychological development regardless of how intellectual we are, as far as emotions and education are concerned. A sense of coherence rises from meaningful interconnections of thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and behavior; which inevitably provides the sense of being our true selves. Anxiety, depression, stress, and other negative states arise because the brain desires coherence when we aren't in alignment. Cognitive biases manipulate our thinking to provide a false sense of coherence. It is only through a reflective period that our brains may deliberately create coherence in our daily lives. After all, such a reflection can be quite painful. It may feel easier to stay stuck and accept the pain/complication we know, rather than accept the truth.
To establish actions that align with our values, morals, beliefs, and feelings, we must assess the situation in isolation; only addressing, comprehensively, the series of paths our lives may take based on the series of decisions we come to, ourselves. We can take ideas from others to help(hence, partly, why therapy is effective in establishing change), but we must come to this on our own for it to be implemented in a way that creates longstanding internal coherence(which is why therapists always say the client is the one who makes progress, not that they have anything to do with it; at least the good ones think this way, but they do pose the ideas that may challenge our current thought process).
Furthermore, the reason therapy or an individual who is clear-minded, capable, and knowledgeable of the situation is necessary is that they bring aid in efforts to reduce restraints. Some issues are incredibly complex and continue to increase in the level of complexity over time. Too much contradictory information, negative reactivity to information, the tension between flexibility and rigidity, and moreover, the suppression of intellectual and/or emotional logic are all contributing factors of restraint(s).
