#psychology

[lugiadolphin]

Moral of the Story was really good live and Ashe had amazing vocals but tbh I think she did better with the conformity experiments from the 1950s

[ajwithnogender]

I like how Freud is well known in pop culture and yet in Psychology, it's always ERIK ERIK ERIK

ERIK ERICKSON DID THIS, HE MADE THIS, HE SAID THIS

Meanwhile Freud is like "Oh, we know him, anyone else know him? Yeah, we know him

Anyways, Erik-"

[kammartinez]

[drasadonbrown]





I am thrilled to announce that WAITING TO LIVE is currently being revised and we expect that it will be available by the end of November 2026.


#WaitingToLive #Manuscript #Inspirational #Motivational #AsaDonBrown

[rambles-of-mental-illness]

Do you ever get that phase when you're in therapy for a mental illness but also not progressing that much where you're just like "I'm not getting better! HA-HA! social emotional learning IS for chumps!" and then you start getting worse

I’ll be honest, I quit therapy when I was 17 (I’m 21 now) and barely avoided the paper trail of my diagnosis due to the legality of diagnosing a minor with any personality disorder (they had me set up to be diagnosed since I was 14 it was just paperwork at that stage).

I refuse to go back because it’s probably in my medical records that I was supposed to have it put on paper the second I turned 18

Therapy only works as much as you want it to work, that’s a hot take I know I know but hear me out:

- If you don’t want to put in the work it’s not going to happen

- If you don’t want to change you won’t

- If you’re incapable of understanding that you’re doing either of these things due to a mental illness you probably won’t even see it until they get you on the right blend of psychotropics (and some people DO need psychotropic medications to be able to function and that is OKAY)

The therapist will not fix you. No one can reach into your brain and pluck out what makes you tick, they can just make educated guesses at it but you’re the only one with access to all of that. The therapist can *help* you learn how to correct your own cognitive dissonance but they themselves cannot reach in there and pluck the right strings. A therapist is supposed to be a guide, and occasionally a safety net to fall back on.

Basically you have to think of therapy like school, and yes that is why they give you “homework” so you learn to do it without them holding your hand through it. They are playing the role of a teacher but just like our teachers don’t always know that we just sometimes aren’t going to understand it the way that they’re teaching it until it’s happened so do therapists.

Sometimes the solution is to find a new therapist

Sometimes, like in my case, the solution is to do it yourself. I have been studying psychology and neuroscience for going on soon to be 8 years now (yes, since I was 14, god forbid a woman have hobbies). I even went to college for it and completed a year of psychology classes! I didn’t graduate but that’s because I had a two month long psychotic episode due to isolation (rip)

I went off all of my medication when I turned 18 and I don’t regret it but that’s MY experience and that may not be the solution for you or someone else. For me that was my solution because the mood stabilizers were actually killing my emotions all together and my specific blend of disorders (particularly ASPD) have proven to be extremely medication resistant. (Now I just drink water and be social and do things that make me happy and try to eat enough each day and it’s not always perfect because I have several life long mental illnesses but I’m relatively content)

Now to get to the original statement, I have been “self therapizing” for years now. Four if you want to get specific. I’ve made more progress on my own than I was in therapy because no therapist wants to tell you that you can’t fix your mental illness (but I *cant* fix mine I will always have ASPD, I will always be schizospec, I will always have ADHD, I will always have dysthymia, etc these are life long problems) and so when I went to therapy it was always about “how do we fix what’s wrong with you” instead of “how do we make it easier for you to live like this”

That may be your problem

Or you may be stuck in a small low. I get stuck in small lows too. As an AFAB individual my hormones do NOT play nice with my disorders (especially ASPD) and to couple this off I have PCOS so they’re even more dysfunctional. So every few months I think I’m doing worse and it will never get better and everything sucks and I want to kill myself and my friends hate me and etc etc etc blah blah blah

And then I have my period and I’m physically miserable for 1-2 weeks and then everything is sunshine and rainbows again for the next 2-5 months

My personal advice is: Life has its ups and its downs. You’re not walking on a bride you’re crossing a bunch of hills and mountains and in order for them to be hills and mountains they need to have highs and lows. But honestly I don’t even like that metaphor, I like to think more of its worse trying to get to the top

You’re sitting at the bottom of a hill and it’s nice, you have a good valley you get to have smooth sailing you cross it and ah fuck it’s another hill and so you have to climb alllll the way up and gravity sucks and going uphill sucks and it’s all so shitty

And then you get to the top and it was worth surviving uphill because the view is beautiful. And going downhill is easy too and you have another valley to cross but eventually you do have to struggle up the hill again and there will be moments when you’re climbing uphill where you have to stop and rest and you’ll wonder if it’s even worth it. You’ll want to go back down the hill the way you came and while you can it’s not really a good idea because everyone else is over this hill. The hill of course is representative of the passage of time, and you can’t physically go back in time but often when we’re dealing with mental illness we regress back down because it’s easier than trying to make new progress, which puts us “back at the start” or “back in time” but it’s not a very good method because you can’t actually be the same person you were at the bottom of the hill

And when you do that you’re going to realize you have to climb up the hill all over again and you’ll hate your past self because they were halfway up and now you have to restart. And it makes it easier to want to just stay where you are instead of trying to progress because you’ve already proven to yourself you’ll give up once so why can you trust that you won’t do it again

If you end up in that situation you should climb up the hill again anyways, and it will probably be easier too because you’ll remember the path up up until the point you stopped last time, but it’s better not to try to backtrack all together so you don’t have to restart in the first place

It’s okay to take rest breaks of course; climbing mountains takes a lot of energy

[daydrinking75]

"[...] seeing what you can do with the time you have because you will die regardless[...]when we were afraid we were afraid together, by the campfire." - Alex, Excerpts From an Honest Conversation

[daydrinking75]

"I know Im a good person, I know what I bring to the table, if you don't appreciate that, you can fucking leave." - Alex, Excerpts from an Honest Conversation