My Thoughts On Crushes & Internet Flirting
I'm not really the sort to ask guys out. Maybe that's just me following the whole stereotype of 'guys should ask girls out'. Maybe I'm just shy. But I don't think I know how to ask guys out without making a fool out of myself, or just making things awkward.
But maybe I need to approach things differently. I might have a feeling that I could like you, but at the same time I'm not sure. So maybe instead of asking you out, I should find some clever eway to ask if I can simply get to know you better. And not through texting or the internet.
Because, let's face it: if you can only send me flirtacious messages on facebook, or through a text, but can't be there to physically talk to or hang out, then how am I supposed to think of you as anything more than a passing fancy?
I'm sure I'm not the first one to admit that I like getting that message now and then in my inbox that says "You have a pretty smile!", or "I think you're cute!". Everyone likes little bits of attention like that. But if I'm honest with myself, what good does it do to get all uppity about a person you cannot physically speak to or interact with? Somebody might read this and say, "It's a long distance relationship, we can make it work." But can youreallydo that if you don't know the other person in real life? I'll be completely honest and admit that I tried it once; I didn't know the guy personally, but I liked the attention--until he started trying to convince me to start sexting with him. Call me a prude, but I did not (and still do not) find sexting to be a 'turn on.' If anything, it's a 'turn off', especially in such an impersonal relationship. Needless to say, he got more annoyed the more I said 'no', and I ended up breaking it off. Not really a true relationship, so I don't count it as one.
So here's the bottom line, as far as my opinion goes: you can have a crush on someone, be it in real life or online, but I don't think you can really say you truly like the other person until you've gotten to know them better through time spent together (and not via phone, facetime, skype, facebook, etc.).
I know I'd rather have somebody ask me to 'hang out' a few times before they ask me to 'go out'. It's less awkward once you truly know someone and can feel comfortable being yourself. As my mother always told me--and I find this to be very true--it is better to start off as friends, and build a relationship from there.
I guess that's my 'food for thought' for the evening, dear starrlings! I hope you all have enjoyed your week so far; it's halfway over! :)
