#interviewreflection

[allieulnick-blog]

.the.interview.

I started the interview process a little hesitant. I was nervous I wasn’t going to get the information I needed and I was nervous the youth I was interviewing wasn’t going to be responsive to the questions I was asking. I began asking questions and right away my youth was extremely responsive and wanted nothing more to tell me the tale of her music world. She was letting me into her world and without even paying attention I had gotten lost in her music and forgot the interview was even taking place. I guess what I learned about youth through listening to her talk was that we are full of passion for the things we care about. You can say all you want about how lazy and careless our generation is but when it comes to their dreams and their passions the youth will not stop until they are fulfilled. This generation is wildly searching for an enriched fulfilled life and won’t stop until they find it.

[societyoftheyouth-blog]

My interview experience was a pretty good one. The topic I had to ask about was Family and Friends, who has a bigger impact on the youth. I interviewed one of my friends and it actually was a pretty fun experience. I learned a lot about her family and views that I didn't know about! It was a very lighthearted interview and felt more like a conversation than an interview. She responded to all of my questions the way I thought she would. I know her way too well.

[librarose97]

Seen & Heard Interview (What Shocked Me, What Didn't)

So I conducted my interview with a female colleague of mine and the interview topic I was assigned to was "dating." 

Going into the interview, I explained to her what my idea of dating was: two people who go on a physical date (usually more than once) to a set location who both have the intention of turning this particular date into a lasting, committed, relationship. I was told by my interviewee that such a definition, at least among youth today, applies more to "relationships" than to "dating." I did ask what the stage before dating was called, and unsurprisingly, she told me it was "hooking up"; two people engaging in un-committed, consensual sex (or sexual acts) that have no-strings-attached, and said people are fully aware that one sexual encounter (or many sexual encounters) will not lead into any kind of committed relationship. Again, I wasn't surprised by that answer. 

What I was surprised by, though, was that whether or not the hooking up goes from just hooking up to dating is dependent on the how the man (or the dominant person if it's a same-sex situation) feels. For example, she told me that how it works in her social setting is that if two people have been hooking up for a while and the girl starts to get feelings, it's up to the guy to determine if he'll reciprocate her feelings, or if he'll tell her he'll no longer hook up with her (because he doesn't have the same feelings). Just the same, if the guy and the girl have been hooking up for a while and he starts to get feelings, and he tells the girl he has feelings, by that time, the girl herself probably also has feelings; thus, the two start dating. 

In essence, no matter who gets feelings first or who feels bad first, hooking up always turns out to be a win-win situation for the guy, or the dominant person, in the situation.