aph0bes will be like "it's not possible to be in a life partnership with someone if you're not sexually intimate with them. sex is essential, otherwise you're just best friends lol" and "just say you'd rather be single, stop making up words to feel special" without bothering to even try to understand that it goes beyond that.
ultimately the only people who can define their relationship/partnership are the people who are involved in it.
but aphobes are so insistent that sex is a necessary part of a fully realized and fulfilling life partnership that, rather than respect ace experiences* or simply mind their own business, they're dismissive and resort to calling aces sad lonely prudes desperate for attention.
like. what if I said "oh no your partner cheated on you? well actually, adultery is not a big deal because sex is not important to me personally and your experience of being 'cheated on' is trite. so, you're not special. move on."
that would be ridiculous. who am I to invalidate your experience within a relationship you deem important? with someone whose life and soul you regard as intertwined with yours.
