Jun 18
cross posting this from my ask blog because it is easily the funniest oversight I have ever had in my writing ??? absolute melt. deserved.
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cross posting this from my ask blog because it is easily the funniest oversight I have ever had in my writing ??? absolute melt. deserved.
@pinkelotjeart
aph0bes will be like "it's not possible to be in a life partnership with someone if you're not sexually intimate with them. sex is essential, otherwise you're just best friends lol" and "just say you'd rather be single, stop making up words to feel special" without bothering to even try to understand that it goes beyond that.
ultimately the only people who can define their relationship/partnership are the people who are involved in it.
but aphobes are so insistent that sex is a necessary part of a fully realized and fulfilling life partnership that, rather than respect ace experiences* or simply mind their own business, they're dismissive and resort to calling aces sad lonely prudes desperate for attention.
like. what if I said "oh no your partner cheated on you? well actually, adultery is not a big deal because sex is not important to me personally and your experience of being 'cheated on' is trite. so, you're not special. move on."
that would be ridiculous. who am I to invalidate your experience within a relationship you deem important? with someone whose life and soul you regard as intertwined with yours.
Jokes that will never stop being funny
“I’m a slut for [insert very non-nsfw interest]
“Me? [Something stupid usually]? More likely than you think”
“I will eat your [kneecaps, elbows, etc..]”
“Fellas, is it gay to [something that is blatantly gay]”
That “WHEEZE” picture lmao I die every time
*slaps knee*
The fucking “That’s rough buddy” GIF from A:tla
Suddenly feeling a lot of ace emotions. my sister brought up a pride discussion which I supposedly got "heated" during as if I shouldn't have feelings about ace visibily. Then I had my weekly coaching session last night where my coachee pried into my relationship history. I get why he wanted to know but I shouldn't have to out myself to him and deal with explaining personal things unless I choose to when he's the one getting coaching. Then I came across ace/aro hate speech here on tumblr and almost cried trying to go to sleep. I felt better this morning but just finished watching Kissing Jessica Stein which triggered emotions again because of this coming up. I get that the point in the movie is that Jessica wasn't bi while Helen was, but the break up being over them not having sex got to me because Helen said it wasn't enough. It didn't matter that Jessica was there for her and that they were best friends. Anyway, it shouldn't bother me because Jessica pushed her away before that and was clearly fine having straight sex. The conversation just got to me because it felt like more of a confrontation toward me.
Can I ask you a very personal question. I tried google but I didn’t find the right answer. I think I’m ace; or at least, I don’t like sex.
However, I crave intimacy, but not physical, the one you share with a person at 3am talking about nothing and everything.
That makes me less ace?
Not at all. Asexuality is about a lack of sexuality. The wanting/not wanting of sex is considered a sub-category of asexuality, but is not included in its definition. Emotional intimacy is a totally separate thing and craving it doesn't make you any less ace.
Trust me. I'm as ace as they come and I'm also looking for someone to share my life with.
it's funny because i figured out i was demisexual like right before meeting you?? so seeing this conversation is making me think that the very second you figure it out it's like a magnet turning on and yoinking you to the nearest ace/aro/demi online
NO WAY FOR REAL???? (I dont doubt that, it's just thats kinda amazing no lie. amxnsjdjsjs) you know, magnets is as good an explanation as any (though louve-garou has an actual one that I think has a lot of merit) that's a good explination for it. Like a hive mind effect but for other aro/ace/demis.
Also I didn't know you were demi! I'm out of cake gifs (I only had the one) so uhhhhhh take this bee
would you look at that, i'm ace too! I call everything and anything sexy and my friends can't do anything about it heh. I'm very lucky to have such an accepting friend circle and I hope you find those people someday too <3 now, tell me anything ace related that you want to!!! this is a command!!!
Ahh so cool!! And thank you, I hope I find those people too 🤧
And um!!! I just got out of a relationship with someone who’s hyper sexual so !!! This ace is happy :)))
Also Sherlock Holmes is ace to me and we need more ace characters in the media 💔