Just read your IXTJs being IXTJs post. Reminds me of how seamless and easy it is to converse and make plans with other XXTJs. I just recently tried putting something together with an ESFP close friend of mine, and he doesn’t even want to give me at least a hint of time or any kind of schedule – he just says “just trust me, I’ll get it to you”. And I’m like, eisuebdjuxrhid it’s difficult for me to naturally do that can’t you just give me at least an estimate of time? He refuses. - INTJ
Oh, I get the struggle. To be fair, these pseudo-science theories can actually help understanding how different people have different minds that work in diverse ways. When I spot xxFPs I try to focus on the advantages of their spontaneity rather than on the downsides. You can be the one setting the major points of a schedule (or just abstractly having them in mind if the xxFP gets overwhelmed by too many plans) and see what they provide you that you lack. I mean, as long as their laxity does not imply irresponsibility when results affect you, I’d try not to stress too much about it – better for you!
– your fellow INTJ