It genuinely boggles my mind how people don't see "are they trans?" as a deeply invasive, dangerous, entitled, and harassing question. It isn't your business. It's not exactly safe for them to speak on their identities, and even if it were, you certainly would not be owed that information. And I can tell you're a dickhead by the way you ask. Because it's not, "Hey, I'm new. Have they explained this? I don't want to misgender them." It's always, "They dress so feminine. Are they girls?" You are ignorant at best, an absolute piece of shit at worst. And it's exhausting. And heaven forbid you point it out! The way they dig their heels in! Tell you that *you're* the problem, the bully, rude, and it's just a question! Miss me with your bullshit! God! It is SO privileged to believe that asking that question is like asking someone how their day went. It is that deep! You're a despicable person! You should be ashamed! Log out and grow the fuck up! Some of you grew up not talking face to face with people, and it shows! Ugh!
