#jadope

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Bath

[jadope]

Torquay Beach, Victoria, Australia

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So I came out to my fiancé and close friends yesterday and started to where a binder, where do I go to get the ball moving with my transition? I've wanted to cut my hair for ages but don't no how to go about this as scared of looking like a massive lesbian with massive boobs (mine are and finding binding very hard) any advise on this? Thanks Kai

Itdepends by what you mean by getting the ball rolling.  If you meanmedically, the first port of call would be your GP who would referyou on to a Gender Identity Clinic where you can discuss transition,and access hormones/surgery if you desire them.  Even if you aren'tquite ready for that step now it's a good idea to think about gettinga referral anyway as the vast majority of GICs have waiting times ofat least a year.

Ifyou mean more in terms of socially transitioning, then it's really upto you what you feel comfortable doing next.  There's no right orwrong way to go about any of this.  One of the first places peoplestart tends to be playing around with their presentation and stylechoices, which it sounds like you're doing already.  You may findthat you get better at binding as you learn what works for your body,both in terms of positioning them and what clothes also help todisguise any remaining lumps and bumps.  As for hair, it might take awhile to find what works best for you, but as a rule of thumb avoidgoing too short, too exciting (keep it more traditionally male), andhave more on top.  You could ask those who you've already come outwith for suggestions, or even ask the barber if you're comfortabledoing so.

Tellinga wider circle of friends and your family, when you're ready, withthe support of the people that you've already told is another bigthing which people tend to do fairly early on in their transition. Once you've told those around you, including your workplace, you canthink about legally changing your name and getting all your documentschanged over.

These are all just suggestions, and you might not want to do it anything like this, which is fine.  Do what feels natural to you, and what you feel would help you to be more comfortable.

~ Alex