@jenfluff replied to your post “I think I’ll never understand all those “would you date a XXX”, XXX...”
I understand why you feel like that, but I always look at those posts as solidarity posts. Because so much of the LGBT community faces erasure, and some people just need to feel wanted, hence those posts.
If it’s how it is, then it’s sad. All those sort of messages could be addressed to those who feel too fat, too slim, too tall, too small, and anything else.
Being heterosexual and feeling comfortable in the gender people attributed to you at your birth doesn’t mean that you’ll ever find someone who accepts you because it has nothing to do with being part of LGBT+ or not.
We all have our fears and complexes, we all see our own flaws and unless being overly confident, we all have our moments where we feel like we won’t experience love at all because of X or Y.
I am uncomfortable with the fact that being LGBT+ is what is pointed at in those posts, maybe I didn’t pay attention to it, but I never saw one of those message saying “Would you date an obese ?” for example, while I’m sure people suffering from obesity need to feel wanted as much.
Our society tends to obsess on the wrong things, and while I understand the importance of LGBT+ and am myself part of it, I feel bad to see this odd separation, even if the mean is to be supportive.
Acceptance of others also goes by not calling them by what you consider them as being different. Whatever it might be.
I don’t know if my message is clear there, I don’t want to lack of respect to anybody, my dream would be that people cease to separate humans into communities, physical attributes and so on. I know it will never happen, I’m not this naive, but that’s why all those messages make me uncomfortable. It’s like.. Pointing at someone, forgetting their name and calling them by their sexual preferences or gender or whatever else..
I know it’s meant to be supportive and I believe you when you say that it comfort some people, but to me it’s giving a contradictory message basically meaning, “those people need support because they are different and thus might not be dated like a ‘normal’ person”. Do you see what I mean ?
