Just a question, What do you mean I have to get comfortable with hearing stuff that I don’t like and I wanna know the difference between that and just traumatizing myself.
When we've been traumatized, we've retreated into our own little comfort zone as a means of survival and protection. It helps for a period of time, but eventually we remain stagnant and stuck because we refuse to leave it. At some point we can become depressed or even apathetic because nothing exciting or new is happening in our lives, or we just want things to get better or be different because the comfort zone gets boring after a while. When it comes to growth, change, and healing in general, we're going to have to face the things we don't like. Often times these are the irrational and rational fears that we've accumulated as a result of staying in our comfort zone.
To leave the comfort zone means we have to face our fears, no matter how big or small they may seem to us or other people. There are healthy ways to approach these fears so that we don't end up relapsing back into the comfort zone (which I guess would be another way to say 'traumatizing oneself'). The idea is to learn new ways to approach our fears and dismantle them with logical and rational reasoning, so that they don't seem as scary as they once were. It's going to be uncomfortable, but it's something that we'll all need to get comfortable with if we want to heal and make progress. It's scary, trust me I know, but it's necessary.
I hope that gives some clarity. If not, feel free to send another Ask :) ❤