Shehecheyanu
In my whole adult life, I never before had my own menorah. I had an unfortunately dull Jewish upbringing and decided I was atheist before I even graduated high school. I went to college, found me a pretty boy with Norwegian cheekbones, and asked him to marry me. When our kids were little we belonged to a UU congregation. The festive December lights in our home have always been on a tree. After last year’s election, I felt compelled to lean into my Judaism since the Christofascists were openly gearing up, and Judaism is resistance and endurance. I so enjoyed seeing all of last year's menorahs on Tumblr that I went looking for one of my own, and found a gorgeous contemporary oceanic design from a glass artist. Later in the year, my 76-year-old aunt gave me her Bubbe’s traditional menorah. After so many years of having no menorahs, I suddenly had two. If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I’ve tried many ways to maintain or regain abilities my MS is eroding. There have been triumphs, annoyances, and disasters. I’ve tried to stay determined through it all. 2024 and 2025 have been my hardest years yet, marked by precipitous losses of function just when I think I’m making great progress. It’s a disappointment every time, but this past July’s setback was devastating. The trigger for the loss was never identified, but at the time, it felt like, “Oops, too much hope; we can’t have that!” It broke me. For several months, I could do little more than sit in a chair all day and wonder if this would finally be the crash I couldn’t climb out of. But the menorahs were there on a shelf I could see from my chair, and I resolved to make it to Chanukah to light them. And here I am. My daughter lit the menorahs each night because I didn’t trust my hands, but I sang the blessings for the first time in more than 30 years. Some days are better than others, and my ability varies even from hour to hour within a day, but I’m stronger than I was this summer. I’m still fighting. As we say with the Shehecheyanu, I am grateful for having been given life, sustained, and brought to the present moment. I’m so glad to be here with all of you. Thank you for being here to share the light. Happy Chanukah, my friends. 🌹












