Is it sane to break up a working relationship? 29M/27F
Been together for 3 years and all is great. We have good communication, similar humor and like similarthings. However, for the last year we've started to emotionally disconnect. Stopped having sex as well. Not bc of a fight, it kinda just slowly fizzled out. My partner is usually very busy with uni, friends and hobbies. I want to prioritize the relationship but she's quite content with being always busy and having dozens things on her plate. The time we spend has mostly just become falling asleep and waking up together. I don't feel particularly loved or seen, even though she says she loves me a lot, I don't feel it. We never argue, the relationship isn't bad. It just feels... like it's not enough. idk. She says she does want to settle down with me eventually, really wants it. But for now just also wants to grasp life while she can before she starts a full-time job. I understand that. But I also don't wanna have to wait 3 years until she finishes uni for her to start prioritizing our relationship sometimes. I feel that by wanting "more" I'd be giving up on a relationship that works, isn't bad. I'm scared that I'd be giving up on something I in hindsight would realize was rly good. And then I'll die alone and unhappy. Am I being rational?
Who taught you that a relationship was working if you weren't even happy in it? That's the one baseline requirement people should have for a relationship imo.