Message for today: Learn to fight clean if you are in the midst of am argument. Learn to recognise when someone is being a bully and stop making excuses for their behaviour. It's NOT okay to belittle and humiliate someone just because you feel upset It's NOT okay to criticize and say things that imply the other person is stupid, irrational, or an idiot- in other words insults should be a hard NO in any argument. Everybody hurts sometimes, but I'd you are the one being a bully because you feel hurt, stop. Bullying the person you're supposed to care for,protect or say you love isn't going to benefit you OR the other person. All it does is drive a wedge between you. You may feel vindicated or avenged , but if that's the feeling you are after then you skipped the boat of fixing, and are heading into the land of destroying. Why? Because people will try to fix things and love you right, but everyone sooner or later understands that being constantly lashed out at isn't love, isn't a sign of affection and most definitely iant kind, and sooner or later you will end up killing the thing you started out thinking you are defending. Arguing is normal in any friendship or even relationship. Between friends ,with parents, with lovers, or siblings. But someone who resorts to bullying as a coping mechanism for their pain is still just bullying. And nothing kills a friendship or love faster than that. It may take weeks, or months, or years, but someone who opts for bullying at the table of love usually finds that they end up eating alone. This is how you destroy thing: lash out relentlessly until they feel the other is adequately punished for any perceived "crime". This is how you fix things: acknowledge your inner hurt, talk about it, and decide if what's more important to you is the relationship or having an upper hand. Remember an upper hand is what you want with an enemy, not a friend. Keep it kind. Fight clean. #keepitkind #fightclean #brokenpeoplebreakpeople https://www.instagram.com/p/CAAKY15gEnk/?igshid=5e7jv2oavf1e
