I lied put your clothes back on I’m going to rant about how people view AroAce people
There’s this really popular stereotype where people deduce aroace people to garlic bread or overall a food they are obsessed with. Don’t get me wrong, I have my food that I love but it has nothing to do with being aroace. “AroAce people don’t want relationships, they want garlic bread! Haha!” No- that shouldn’t be what our sexuality is based on. We are not a food. I shouldn’t see garlic bread mentioned every time I see an aroace video.
Next, I hate when people say “It must be so easy because you don’t have to worry about love!” or “I wish I was aroace so I didn’t have to deal with my crush” WE ARE NOT A SOLUTION TO YOUR PROBLEMS. I think society forgets just how much the media and just life pushed love onto people. It is not easy to be aroace. I struggle with it daily and I hate thinking of the future. From a young age kids are asked how many kids they want, main characters always needing a love interest, “true love” in movies, just the other day I saw a video saying that they hope the person watching will find my soulmate. “Just ignore it!” It’s hard when it’s EVERYWHERE. In this day and age it’s a struggle when people can’t even live without the income of their spouse, it’s so hard to live on our own when everything’s so fucking expensive
I’m not saying we should stop bringing love into everyday lives, I understand that some/most people need and want it. I’m asking for people to have a little bit of sympathy and realize that we exist. I just want me to say “I don’t want to be married” and for the topic to be dropped. I don’t want to hear “You say that now…” or “You’ll find someone one day.”
Also, some aromantics are in a relationships, some asexuals have sex, YOU DON’T HAVE TO BERADE THEM BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU KNOW THEIR OWN SEXUALITY!! Just because I’m aroace doesn’t mean I’m some hermit who hates talking to people and hates physical touch. I’m an extrovert! I love physical touch! Yes I want to cuddle! Yes I want a hug! Being aroace isn’t just for the people who hate touching others. Some of us are introverts, some of us are extroverts, some of us hate physical touch, some of us love physical touch.
On top of this, some people in the queer community don’t even acknowledge AroAce being a sexuality! It’s crazy just how much hate is pressed on this sexuality.
AroAce struggles go so much deeper than I discussed, I just hope that people who need to see this do.
