This was probably the nicest advice anybody have ever given me.
I go through patches of feeling like I’m a burden to people so I ask for very little & I’m such an emotional person that it honestly hurts more that people around me don’t even genuinely want to be there for me.
It’s was mostly you saying I could vent to know & nobody has ever told me that… I always have to sneak in my venting in conversations. I actually downloaded a journal this week because o has so exhausted from holding so much in.
Thank you.. I probably won’t vent but it’s nice to know that somebody would let me
Aw hun! I'm glad it was okay, I was a little worried I was coming off as a bit preachy which wasn't my intention at all because god knows I never have my shit together enough to be preaching to anyone haha!
I know the feeling, I'm pretty familiar with the idea of burdens but I promise you it's a feeling that it very much inwardly faced and rarely has an outward projection. By that I mean, it's far more likely that you feel like a burden rather than feel someone is a burden- and that works for everyone.
I think one of the best things I ever got told was ask for what you need. If you don't ask, you don't get. It felt so counterintuitive at the time because I didn't want to feel like I had to ask but, in reality, people aren't mind readers and that's my whole mantra now. I try my best to communicate, especially with Dan, because I so often feel like not saying anything at all. But people aren't mind readers. So I try.
You absolutely can talk to me, I'm not that active but I'm online a lot if you know what I mean, if you wanted to talk off anon I wouldn't publish anything.
Journals are amazing for that! I tend to write and half my characters are sprinkled with my real life bullshit because that's how I expressive myself best.
But you'll find what works for you! I hope journaling helps! My psychiatrist buddy does pottery and then smashes it lmao. Something about the idea that nothing good lasts and not clinging too hard, idk haha, it's whatever you want it to be.
I think, honestly, you should work on the idea of "burden" that you have in your head. Are you a hinderance? Or are you a normal person? Because a lot of the time my love, our idea of "burden" comes from our own negative self worth, it's not a reflection of reality at all.
It takes time hun, so honestly, don't rush yourself and remember to take care of yourself, to give yourself that time. Changing the way we think is hard, I've been in therapy half my life, but it gets easier.
All the love my dear, I hope you are doing okay this week 💕💕💕
