Is he the one? Is he a counterfeit? Is he wasting my time? The answer is: TIME.
The time you don't want to wait for, time you're being impatient about not realising the man you choose to be with is the single most important decision for your entire life. It affects your nervous system, how you feel with him either keeps you in the gutter or takes you to new highs. It impacts your health significantly. Not only that, but further down the line, the man you choose will lead your household, your children, is this a loving man? Is this a man I can rely on?
Time reveals his intentions. It reveals his heart. You need time to see the truth. Time to see if his words hold any weight. Time to see his mood swings and bad habits. Time to see how he handles conflict. Time to see what he’s like in his weak moments. Time will reveal everything you need to know. But I've seen TOOO MANY times, you want him to be the ONE. You don’t want to wait, you don’t want to know the truth. And that is how you end up with a counterfeit. Impatience.
The answer you want to know, is this your husband? It’s hidden in the time you don’t want to wait for.
Is he in his word? Is he who he says he is? Is he patient? Is he kind when things aren’t going his way?
Things can only be revealed through time.
Your role in the dating period is observation and learning. Not catching feelings, desperately hoping he's the one. No, you're smarter, you're wiser, you know better. Dating and is for observing his actions to see if he counterfeit. Noticing the signs, so next time you don’t waste as much time on the next one.
Before you put all your feelings into him you need to have time.