THINGS I LEARNT AFTER BREAKING MY (ALMOST) 3 YEAR CELIBACY FOR A 2 WEEK FLING.
GIVE THAT MAN TIME! I cannot emphasize enough how important the time is for a man to reveal his true self. The avatar men present when they first meet you cannot be sustained for that long. It's an Oscar winning performance. As relationship gets deeper, you will see his true character, he will reveal himself.
ABSOLUTELY NO HOUSE DATES/ SLEEP OVERS. If he lives in another country (this is how I slipped) he books a hotel PERIOD. Do not let that man into your home unless you are prepared for the outcome.
DO NOT BE FOOLED by the new spiritual wave of men. This one got me, just because he is a believer, does not mean his actions are that of a respectful man of God. A man that protects women, a man that does not fornicate with a woman who is not his wife. Most men claiming faith, do not lead with spiritual actions. Let his actions speak for themselves. Judge him by his fruits.
FIND OUT WHAT HE IS AVAILABLE FOR. A man will pursue like his life depends on it, but what is he pursuing you for exactly? Find out early that way, you can prevent essential wasting of time. Finding out he is not over his ex, is not ready for a relationship, or ready for the things you are is something you determine as early as possible, because believe me when I say, men will WASTE YOUR TIME, the big IF here is IF YOU LET THEM.
DO NOT BE FOOLED INTO THINKING HE IS THE ONE. When you’ve been single for a hot minute, you’re locked in, praying, reading, gym, focused. And then you meet someone who seems like everything, I mean literally EVERYTHING you have been praying for. You connect like a jigsaw puzzle. He makes you laugh so hard. He prays with you. He looks at you like a lovesick dog. Girl, don’t trip. Don’t drop your standards. And absolutely do not drop your knickers. And back to the first point, you allow TIME to reveal his truth.
I hope this helps someone, who might be caught in the wildfire of modern dating. xoxox
