#koianswers

[koithelittle]

me wans l'manbur to takes cares of meee wants to take his hat n run off w it >w<

l'manbur always inmy heart waaaa

-@littlesakura-anon 🌸

note; yah yah yah!! i awmos wost dis dwaft but.. aneways i wuv wmanbur!!

lmanbur is a really soft cg I think, but sometimes when he's stressed he's a little more firm than he intends. you don't hold it against him, and sometimes you like to make him laugh and smile when he's really upset, or working alot.

he's sitting at his desk in his office, while you're curled up over in your corner behind him. it's a little nest of pillows, blankets and stuffies that make you comfy and give you a space to be by him and close to him when he's working.

he was grunted and sighing, dropping his face into his hands and running them down his face. he was visibly annoyed and frustrated and there was nothing you could do. except, maybe make him smile?

you sat there for a bit longer, thinking and contemplating before you stood up and grabbed his hat. he glanced up at where you stood, and you took a few steps back; giggles and smiles galore.

his lips twitched into a small smile, "love, what are you doing with my hat?"

you giggled, waving the hat around, "twy n catch me, dada!" you hurry out the office and he chases after you. your laughs and giggles echo through the hall as he hurries after you.

"I'm gonna get ya, baby!" he laughs, catching up to you quickly and picking you up by your waist, "there you go, baby!"

he holds you against his chest as you wiggle and squirm, trying to hold the hat away from him. he manages to grab it as he rests you on his hip, setting the hat back on his head.

"nooo! wou gon be upset atain!" you huff, folding your arms over your chest as you look away. he kisses your cheek, humming softly.

"I'm not, baby. i was just stressed, ok?" he rests his knuckles over your cheek, thumb rubbing over the skin..

"wou wehe mad.." you frown, laying your head against his shoulder. he hoists you up, adjusting you on his side.

"I promise baby, I wasn't," he pauses, nuzzling his nose against your cheek as he sighs, "would it make you feel better if I take the rest of the day off?"

you nod quickly, cuddling against him as he carried you over to the bedroom, setting you on the bed before he slipped into the bathroom to change into comfier clothes. when he came back out, he was wearing one of your favorite sweaters of his (it probably smelled like you now), and a pair of sweatpants before he sat behind you and pulled you into his lap between his legs.

a movie was turned on and you were soon asleep, so all in all, he thought letting you steal his hat more often might pay off.

[koithelittle]

ooohhh idea idea!!!

when i was physically little, i used to take my mother's notepad she had on her and "write" in it during church but i didn't know what i was doin so it was jus scribbles

thinkin about that but w l'manbur n like doin paperwork w him but jus scribblin on plain paper

-@littlesakura-anon 🌸

note; mmm I'd do dis.. awso.. I got da ofeh one awmos done!! awso awso,, switchin ta tawkin big wehn wittwe is too hawd.. ums. das otay doh!! hopes wou wike da wittwe bwuwb!

wilbur liked to keep you close by in his office, always by him and near him. he didn't want his sight off you, since he'd be stuck there and he didn't want you hurt.

sometimes you were too bored to stay still in your corner, so he'd set you on his lap, a kiss to your cheek as he'd set out a little notebook. he had you decorate it with stickers on the cover, his arm snaking around your waist as he pressed little kisses the the back of your head.

crayons and colored pencils and a little quill and ink pot just for you, you'd scribble and coo, pretending to be just like your papa.

"whatcha writing there, honeybee?" his thumb rubbed over your belly.

"mm new laws, dada!" you giggled, wiggling your legs a bit as you scribbled more gibberish onto the parchment.

"for what, babe?" a kiss to your cheek this time.

"ta has mow candy fow aww da wittwes in w'manbuwg," you spoke matter of factly, without even glancing at wilbur. he chuckled as his nose pressed against your cheek and he sighed.

"maybe I'll have to add that, hun," you turned to look up at him and with a straight face, you simply spoke; "wou betteh."

to say the least, this was one of wil's favorite methods of spending time with you, even if he barely got his own work done. he swears you work better and faster than he does!

[koithelittle]

if you're comfortable with it, can you maybe clarify/explain some things for me??

it's fine if not.

so first;

when you mention a cg/caregiver, is it a friend you trust, a romantic partner, or either?

second;

are there certain triggers for regressing? like loud noises, stomping feet etc.?

and lastly;

ive always been horrible with terminology in any subject, but can you sort of explain what each role does? like caregiver, sitter (?), regressor?

i don't have much knowledge on agere and i don't know where i would begin with research.

yah of course!! don't be afraid to ask questions of course! being curious and asking questions is always a good thing!

agere is either a voluntary or an involuntary coping mechanism, its used to cope with many things, but mostly to cope with stress, trauma, anxiety. good thing to remember is that it's not sexual, it's a coping mechanism used primarily for trauma !!!

there's age regressing and age dreaming, honestly it doesn't really matter imo which term you use for yourself but most people will say like acting like a younger age more than feeling it is age dreaming and having that fuzzy brain feeling and feeling like that younger age is regression. but it's so personal that I don't think the specific terms matter, just what feels right!

cg's can be really any trusted person, really what matters is that your cg is someone you trust with you, your inner child and that vulnerability. it depends on the little and the caregiver!

it depends on the person!! for me personally, involuntary slipping for me is usually triggered by big emotions or events happening that are similar to something I went through as a child. but it depends on the person and could be anything! when regression is triggered, it's called an involuntary slip. you don't intend to regress but the trigger sort of sends you into that headspace and it's terrifying especially when you're in a grown up situation with big feelings and a little brain!

a caregiver is what it sounds like, a primary person that cares for a little. they sort of just care for them most of the time if not all when their little is regressed. a sitter is someone who either doesn't have a little or has one and also cares for other littles on a less than regular base! like a babysitter! and a regressor is the one that regresses, in whatever way that is. some people are flips which means they regress but also are caregivers!

a good place to start, what I did, was just sort of watching how the community works and seeing what they say, and then I delved into psychological papers when I started to panic about my own regression bc science makes me feel better. a good rule of thumb is just, so what feels right and everyone's experience is different!

if you have any questions, shoot them my way!! asking questions is always awesome and I like talking so.. vdhfjf hope this helped!

[koithelittle]

haiii koiii >w< !!!!

me wanna make a moodboard but got no idea what to do

whas a photo of wilb that you weally like :3 ?

-@littlesakura-anon 🌸

otay dis is aww i tan fit on mobile… buts hewe!! my cuwwent favowites!

[koithelittle]

*bites you* :3

-@sillylittlekibbie

*bites back*

hiiii!!! hows awes wous??

[koithelittle]

I'm not sure if u saw my bear, Wilbur.

I'm also thinking of getting the fem version & calling her Wilma hehehe

gaaaah he's so cute!! I think you should get the fem one, so wilbur can have his sister!!

I have a bunny who I called beebun, I carry him with me everywhere. he's named after the nickname I use for my daddy (in drs) which is beebur! (wilbee/wilbur)

[koithelittle]

Pssst...

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Have at it buddy! ^^

heheh I knooooo!! use dem aww da tim, dey comfowtin!! I use my own dat awe fow my drs sometims too! day aww fun :3 hewps stay wittwe sumtims! fank wou doh <33

[koithelittle]

I went to get the femme version of my Wilbur bear but they didn't have her anymore..

She was in the local second hand store, so re stocking is not an action. Sads :(

nooo!!! I'm sorry!!! if wilbur still has his tag, you can see what his brand is and look online to see if you can find wilma!! check Poshmark and eBay! maybe Amazon might have one but- I hope you can find wilbur a sister bear!!