#kossai thoughts

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some thoughts and experiences . advice is not bad to share , but definitely start to fall short once reach certain point , or even at smaller sizes if structure differently .

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comprehension disclaimer - 2026/06/27

one courtier of kossai create this comic personally , as vent about how people treat large collectives , which kossai is as well . this is why every panel start with piece of advice , then show negative consequences of large collective who follow that advice as given .

footer panel is not something someone directly say to kossai , but that is baseline of attitudes people often unconsciously have : only small collectives really exist and matter in discussions . footer panel is therefore also not reflective of anything kossai believe .

rather than attack or make ill wishes on kossai for this comic , perhaps reread .

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this june , please do sincerely listen when intersex people talk about issues , life experiences , and identities .

some words have violent history directed towards intersex people . if one would not argue that cisgender people can freely say tranny , then should not argue that perisex people can freely say hermaphrodite . no , scientific term is not defense for this , as even sciences phase out use of this term for alternatives with clearer definitions . hermaphrodite was always meant to devalue humanity and deviation from " human standards " - scientific use for animals come as result of that devaluation , not just coincidental .

ASAB indicate nothing about one's actual life circumstances . this is label for what doctors decide sex to be based on infantile measurements , and that decision may include surgical force . even so , external anatomy do not always match expectations for internal anatomy , chromosomes , and/or hormones . phrases like " AFAB chests " mean nothing : say breasts , say breast tissue , speak clearly . 

ASAB is also not indicator of how childhood go . some intersex kids will grow up with gendered expectations that change between places and time periods , never really just one . some will grow up with gendered expectations , but always lower class of this gender , free for others to take away and wave around as threat . some will grow up and have puberty that defy these expectations , then get legal reassignment to correlate . several of these things , as well as others not stated , may be true at once . if intersex person say that childhood relationship with legal sex , personal gender , and/or gendered expectations was complex , do not pretend that this is too uncommon to care about - stand for one another , not against . 

if intersex person identify with genders that do not seem to make sense , do not disregard this as simple troll . some intersex people will be cistrans , where experiences of gender fall into both modalities . some will be transfemmasc , or even cisfemmasc , because of how people degender and/or inconsistently gender . understand that most free and intersex-friendly definition of transgender is not one which rely on personal deviation from AGAB , but on personal deviation from any form of gendered expectation - be that legal , societal , or simply personal history . 

understand that personal freedom from gender binary is not enough - need universal freedom from sex binary .

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plural ask game ~ for large collectives

some ask games have prompts to ask about every member of collective , but beyond even 20 those can be really unwieldy , let alone when reach hundreds , thousands , and beyond . 

these questions gear for collectives with hundreds-plus populations , though some can still apply for any size , and write in way that aim to be framework and origin neutral . this is for any who would like to participate , no matter type of experiences :)

as always , use discretion as to which answers should be public , or prefer as private journal prompts - even if that might be all !

about general population :

📰 newspaper - if countable , what is population ? how much of that population can others expect to encounter ?

📊 bar graph - do population experience sudden booms of growth or loss , or is change more steady ?

📥 inbox - how much do collective record about population , and with what tools ? is there requirement to get entry , such as certain amount of front time or personal elaboration ? 

🧮 abacus - what is overall feeling on size ? hope to get smaller , bigger , or remain at current size ? 

about member experiences :

🎈balloon - have any experience with members that express less development or identity than others , such as fragments , walk-in silhouettes , and precursors to animism or creation ?

🎁 present - if answer to balloon is yes : have any particular methods to help develop individuality or take root as part of collective ? is there any method which hurt more than help ?

🪆 matryoshka doll - have any experience with duplications or doubles , where multiple separate members share source / mirror ? 

🛎 bell - have any experience with snapshots , where multiple separate members embody life stages of one shared source / mirror ? 

🪞 mirror - do source-based words such as fictive , chrómtive , and aesthetive get much use around collective ? why or why not ?

🖼 painting - do origin-based words such as walk-in , split , and animaborn get much use around collective ? why or why not ?

about experiences of front and switch :

🌧 rain cloud - do collective switch frequently , infrequently , or not at all ? if switch is usually possible , is there ever time where anyone get stuck in front ? 

☂️ umbrella - do collective have control over switches ? if so , how much ? 

🌊 great wave - is there any large consistent group of fronters or front observers , or do most only like to show up once or twice every so often ? 

🌥 sun behind cloud - how many tend to be in or around front at once ? is front more often blurry or clear ?

🌈 rainbow - do front contain some sort of mask , vessel member , or inherent function which grant sense of unity ? if so , how do this feel when contrast with fronters' individual identity - erasure , blanket , or something else ?

about collective life :

🥅 goal - what is process behind collective presentation , hobbies , and life choices ? who get more or less say in these matters ? do any areas of life allow total freedom ?

🪃 boomerang - what is process behind compromise when , inevitably , not everyone is happy with choices ? what about when compromise is not possible ?

🥍 lacrosse - have any items which belong to only one member or small group of members , or is everything shared ? is there process behind discard shared items such as vote , or can anyone discard ?

🎼 musical staff - what is communication like , both internal and external ? what tools help or hinder ?

🤿 snorkel - is there any offline space in which collective choose to be open about plurality ? if so , how much do others know about population ? 

about experiences of headspaces , otherworlds , and other collective spaces :

🌻 sunflower - how many spaces do this collective experience ? if none , is this something that wish to change ? if one or more , what is preferred term ? 

🍀 four leaf clover - how large is each one , or how large would ideal space be ? how much information enter records , and with what tools ?

🪷 lotus - do certain groups belong to certain spaces ? is this by choice to form communities , function of how brain put order , necessity such as mermaids live in water , or something else ? 

🦊 fox - is there wildlife , or wish for there to be ? if so , what kinds ? would collective term these as fragments , NPCs , something else , or nothing at all ? 

about community experiences :

🌋 volcano - what is something other people should never say to large collectives ?

🏕 campground - what is question that want other people to ask ?

🏰 castle - what is something that wish for other people to understand about large collectives ?

🏝 island - what would be one piece of advice which give to other collectives , large or small ?

open questions :

🎨 paint palette - what terms help with comprehension and expression of experiences , in any area ?

🎤 microphone - is there anything else which wish to say , but questions did not give room for ?

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normalise nothing , let go of notion that anything should be either normal or abnormal . there is simply existence , each one beautiful and unique . allow one another to live truths , no matter if strange or hard to understand , and hurt no one who did not strike first - that is what is important in life .

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oh hey , wingsday approach - may 15th !

since 2003 , as start by easalle and silverie from livejournal ;D

'Wear' Are Your Wings?! Calling all winged creatures! The first annual "'Wear' Are Your Wings" Holiday is nearly upon us! Birds, Dragons, Faeries, Angels, Bags, Bats and all that flutter and flitter, spread your wings and soar with pride! Thursday, May 15th, 2003!! Wear your wings! Buy or make your own, if you don't have any at home to wear. Wear them no matter what you are doing. A good idea is to wear a pair small enough to not be too intrusive. Note: Wings and Cars don't mix. Walking and Biking are environmentally better anyway! Make more wings to hand out to others if they haven't got their own. Use paper, feathers, foam, and fabric. Be creative! Attach them with safety pins, tape, Velcro or something else! Go out in the world and hand out your wings to everyone you meet! Spread the joy of magic and dreams! Don't forget to wear your wings too! Wear your wings with pride and joy! Spread the love and beauty of fairy magic! Have fun and love life!

of course , short notice at this point to come up with full pair of wearable wings ... but maybe still some fun ideas to express wings !

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something that really frustrate is when people replace christmas with holidays , but still only acknowledge christmas . holiday party but only theme around christmas , happy holidays as greeting while store blare christmas music , honestly even in fictional media - there may be some winter gift-based holiday , but end up analogous to almost entirely christmas , with both writers and fandoms treat as such , even if completely nonsensical for setting .

when people do this , this signal that still not really think about other holidays . this completely negate point of neutralise , and frankly insult that want to claim neutrality while put in less than no effort .

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artfight attack for @passionpeachy - sweet little outfit design for valentina ! :)