HELP: NEED ADVICE
I really need some advice and family and friends are not being of much help.
Ok So i met this guy online through Facebook. We had been talking for 4 months before i did something insane and flew to him. I live in Texas and he lives in Florida. I wanted to make sure that my strong ass feelings for him were real and if i needed to pursue this any further. I of course told a few people so if the worst were to happen someone could contact my family. I told my brother, one of my best friends, and my boss. I had to text my brother and my boss every morning and every evening letting them know i was good. I was there for 4 days in heaven!! It was wonderful and the happiest ive feel i have ever been. So i come back home and do the same old thing day in and day out. I feel like I am just waiting until i can see the love of my life again.
He is protective, hot and sexy as hell (what is also kind of great is that he is modest about the whole thing. He doesn't even feel he is attractive as hell.), sweet, looks like a bad boy but is totally a sweet, nice, guy, who i can see the rest of my life with. We want the same thing, We want to settle down and have two kids and hoping the boy will be first before our girl. We like so many of the same things and can be adorably goofy and dorky together. He truly seems like the first guy that i can be dorky and honestly unattractive and he would still think i am beautiful. He even proved it while we went to the zoo. It was hot and humid as hell and i was sweating like a pig. I said that i wished i would stop sweating so i wouldn't feel so gross. he didn't mind at all. he still said i was beautiful. He makes me feel so happy and i know he is the one for me.
I know it was reckless and dumb to fly halfway across the country to meet this guy i barely know to see if this love was real but come on i have never really done anything that insane or spontaneous in my life. I am pretty proud of myself for doing it all on my own,. I of course needed help getting through the airports but other than that all on my own. I felt accomplished. LIKE A REAL ADULT! lol! :)
I was so excited that when i was safely home that i posted many pictures of us on Facebook of how happy and awesome my trip was. Well that feels like a mistake now. A lot if not most of my family are on Facebook. I feel after this whole experience they watch my every move. I had an aunt and a 2nd cousin lecture me on who is this guys, what does he do, you shouldn't throw away your life on a guy, you need to be careful, you have so much accomplished of your own with your degree from college that you cant throw that away. And the list of things they said goes on and on. Then my parents told me that they were not happy that i didn't tell them at all about my trip. I knew they would have told me not to go. More like force me not to go. I wanted to learn this lesson. Thank goodness it was a happy experience.
They feel that i haven't thought of all the bad things that could have gone wrong. Like I could have gotten kidnapped and “Taken” but i don't think Liam N. Would be there at my rescue if that happened. I could have been sold into a sex slave or just sold and shipped of to God knows where. Those horrible scenarios are endless.
Then i have to think about all the things that this man does not have going for him. He is not a citizen of this country, he does not currently have a job but has had ones in the past, he does not know how to drive or have a license because he is not a citizen of this country, therefore he does not have any transportation, he still lives with his mom at the age of 22 because his culture. His mom is overly protective and doesn't want him to get into trouble and therefore cant let him spread his wings. That kinda drives me nuts but i know where she is coming from.
I do have to say is that I know he is the one. I have never felt this way for anyone before. He wants to prove his love to me and my family. He really cares what they think and he gets really sad if i am unhappy and care even if i have eaten of now. I know and can feel that he really does love me. He is sensitive in that he doesn't want to get hurt again and he knows what he wants and he knows he wants me...forever. I want him to be mine forever.
I don't know what to do and need to know if i’m right for what i feel or if my parents are right or if they are paranoid.
